“For to those who have, more will be given, and they will have an abundance; but from those who have nothing, even what they have will be taken away.” Author unknown
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Do you Embody Scarcity or Abundance?
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‘Unity is beyond…..
‘Unity is a space of unison beyond comparing into being with another’s experience at the level of humanity each of you values’ Renee Lindstrom
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Tagged Connection, getting InTouch, Humanity, quote, society, Unity, Value
Understanding Ego mind through getting in touch with your own thinking and speaking
Our last workshop in a series of six and the individual workshops have evolved into a deeper focus of practice and understanding empathy. The areas that came up for exploring included self-empathy, empathy in relationships and group empathy. The purpose was to support group members to recognize their own stories inside their mind that did not allow them to be present with what was actually happening in their relationship. How we have done this it by developing skills for learning to recognize and identify their thoughts and behavior as a result of their thinking.
The last exercise involved having a volunteer demonstrate a process while sharing a personal life event and transforming what they had been telling themselves about it into a connection that included the rest of body functions, outside of the frontal lobe of their brain!
At the beginning of the practice this participant shared their resistance at connecting to another person in their life. In the process ego dropped away as the mind stories became silent and what was real began to emerge. As the stories of their mind became less interesting , what was real was their new self-connection to what was being experienced in the moment. When the participant connected to what was real in them they expressed how they had a growing awareness of what was going on for the other person that went beyond their original resistance.
You couldn’t ask for more! The beauty that was visible in the participant and those in the group supporting this persons process was tangible through relaxed faces and the feelings of a group connection. Through the practice other participants began to recognizing their own stories and habits in experiencing how they supported the process. Did they become present to what they were hearing or did it stimulate their own stories or need to fix it by coming up with solutions. If so, all these participants witnessed how this breaks the emphatic connection and experienced the effects of disconnection of it becoming about them and their ego mind and no longer the person going through the exercise.
Beautiful! The participants having a practice of learning a language of connection demonstrated the ability to go beyond the disruption and carry the process back to the original speaker while holding empathy for the interrupter’s!
This brings up the question – Is empathy the absence (quieting) of ego?
For more information on these workshops with Renee Lindstrom go to relationships link
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Tagged Communication, Culture, Ego, Empathy, getting InTouch, Group Empathy, Health, Language of Empathy and Compassion, Mind, Mindfulness, Peace, Relationships, Self-Empathy, Unity, Values
Exercise for developing empathy resulting from bullying
This exercised was emailed to me from Carla Munro ~ a fellow contributor to sharing value-based empathy conscious communication methods. It will be useful to the teacher in all of us.
Views of Anger from different vantage points
In a group dialogue I listened to a secondhand viewpoint on anger from someone who had attended a workshop. This view was that anger could be focused in a way that wasn’t from a source of ego, yet simply to cut through it (ego).
Reflecting, I had memories of reading this message in Rinpoches dharma teachings and witnessing this skillfully in action, by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, and experiencing it unskillfully from another teacher.
The person sharing in our current group seems to attracted to this topic and that it was relevant to her in the general topic we had been asked to discuss. This filled me with curiosity on how to marry these two together.
Coming back, what about anger? I shared above how one person used skillful means in the process of cutting through the anger with no ego and one who had not achieved this skill, yet thought they had. I believe the difference in these two experiences is that one person had the skills of empathetic listening (of themselves and for others) and one did not. The second person carried an authority of knowing something and was not interested in others perspectives. My experiences was their only interest was being their teacher. Both these teachers had their own journey of experiencing and learning therefore, in my opinion, neither were right or wrong. It was simply them!
What is the key to healthy anger? The hint in the last paragraph – empathetic listening! My perspective is that developing the ability to listen to your anger and go through it’s protective layer to what is alive underneath will release the current charge or grip of it.
The beauty of it is this experience is can become a new skill to resolve anger issues of the past and for new issues. You may even begin to recognize that you are NOT triggered by the same old events.
Another key lesson is soon as you are honest with yourself and accept your anger without judgement it becomes the basic skill for hearing anger in others with deepened empathy!
I understand anger as being an emotion to notice some action needs to be taken. Anger, therefore in this sense, is the protective use of force. An example could be a child crossing the street. It is anger that will increase adrenalin and provide the force to get there in time and out of harms way!
I wonder if skillful use of anger without ego then is anger without being attached to an outcome and therefore it is spontaneous (not a result of old issues and aggression. A flash in the frying pan action, if you will, that will release the tension of the moment and result in a healthier outcome when combined with the right techniques to process and move forward with mutuality of all sides!
Values in a Contemporary Culture
A focus here at Inside has been on values (universal needs). This has included systems of integrating and learning development.
Here is an article crosses that was delivered at United Nations World Summit on Sustainable Development. It confirms my personal belief that values will shift a culture! The article – Values in the Contemporary World, by Nancy Roof, Ph.D. Nancy is the founder of the award-winning Kosmos Journal: The Journal for World Citizens and Planetary Civilization, based on evolving interior development and cultural values as they impact globalization
Here is a paragraph from the article:
In times of integration we hear little about values. But our world is in the process of profound change. Societal disintegration and global integration are happening simultaneously. Managing these changes requires a new global vision of global interdependence, cultural diversity, and participatory decision-making. We must identify practical values that will work in the contemporary world, and provide the foundation for a better, kinder world.
For the Full Article Read Values PDF – Values in the Contemporary World, by Nancy Roof.
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