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How do you learn? Where do your emotions and thoughts come from?

#1.  You are borne into an environment

This is how a culture is formed!  

#2.  You have the INHERENT ability to learn INDEPENDENTLY stimulated and shaped by your environment

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First learning is inspired through movement! 

If your environment is safe, open and free your thoughts, emotions, movements and  behavior will reflect these qualities.  You will likely be more flexible in your actions.  However if your environment is a prison filled with hate and poverty your thoughts and behavior will reflect these qualities!  You will likely be more conservative and restricted in your actions.

The good news is you never stop learning!  You have the ability to change your own conditions through awareness techniques and skill building that will create the environment for your own future generations!  Change the future by shifting the past, now in conscious presence.

Make a difference.  It begins with you!  

Why?  836996

To go beyond the imposed constraints and false emotional realities,  

To support a healthier culture that cares for themselves, others and the planet equally.  

To live as though values matter, 

By speaking your values creating autonomy

and valuing others values equally creating interdependence!  

To use gravity effectively to attain balance, consider your bones as the structure of support in the design of your body, and values as the structure of support in your relationships.

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

Cultural Comparisons poses a question: If we….would it be harder for hierarchical agencies to entrap or beguile us in their insidious planning?

A comparison of cultures came up in a recent group discussion. A member was integrating a system of thinking/talking that could begin to create equality for understanding differences and they compared their culture to ours and identified theirs as being  harder to work with (in this way of making changes).  

This member described the  hierarchical nature of their culture and I recognized that my (Western Canadian) culture does not wear its dominant nature on its sleeve.    I realized that some cultures have a strong hierarchical ancestral self-image that can be witnessed, identified and easily understood.  My culture on the other hand does not outwardly discuss this, nor do we usually have ancestors living in close proximity.

Generally speaking,  our family culture may only focus on the current generation, unlike some cultures that go back generations.  Never the less  our parents and older siblings hold a similar dominant power-over position.  It may be too close an experience with our first family and not identified as in these other cultures where the parents are still experiencing the same behavior as their children!  Therefore it is a shared and discussed more openly with a  developed intellectual understanding and acceptance.  For us,  it is not as easy to understand intellectually in the moment as we lack the shared experience with our parents therefore we do not have anyone to empathize with us. 

I believe that in my Western Canadian Culture it is not unlike a description of Gandhi’s to his grandson on acts of violence.  Gandhi explained that physical violence could be seen and witnessed, therefore addressed.  It was the hidden forms of violence that are insidious acts and harder to define and understand.

Are we as Canadians ready to openly observe and discuss our natures and be identified with more ease?  I am curious, that if we did open up and readily talk about these patterns without the blame, shame and embarrassment (feeling experiences that I don’t see in these other cultures),  if it would make it any harder for hierarchical agencies to entrap or beguile us in their insidious planning.

I love what I do!  Exploring with curiosity is an open door to learning beyond what I think I know!

Love & our Brian

“Eighty percent of life’s satisfaction comes from meaningful relationships.”  Brian Tracy

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Visions worthy of our attention for shifting focus towards Global Unity

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Poster supporting Global Visions created by Renee Lindstrom to feature and bring awareness to creating global change that begins with personal awareness.

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Understanding Ego mind through getting in touch with your own thinking and speaking

Our last workshop in a series of six and the individual workshops have  evolved into a deeper focus of  practice and understanding empathy.  The areas that came up for exploring included self-empathy, empathy in relationships and group empathy.  The purpose was to support group members to recognize their own  stories inside their mind that did not allow them to be present with what was actually happening in their relationship.  How we have done this it by developing skills for learning to recognize and identify their thoughts and behavior as a result of their thinking.

The last exercise involved having a volunteer demonstrate a process while sharing a personal life event and transforming what they had been telling themselves about it into a connection that included the rest of body functions,  outside of the frontal lobe of their brain!

At the beginning of the practice this participant shared their resistance at  connecting to another person in their life.  In the process ego dropped away as the mind stories became silent and what was real began to emerge.  As the stories of their mind became less interesting , what was real was their new self-connection to what was being experienced in the moment.  When the participant connected to what was real in them they expressed how they had a growing awareness of  what was going on for the other person that went beyond their original resistance.

You couldn’t ask for more!  The beauty that was visible in the participant and those in the group supporting this persons process was tangible through relaxed faces and the feelings of a group connection.    Through the practice other  participants began to recognizing their own stories and habits in experiencing how  they supported the process.  Did they become present to what they were hearing or did it stimulate their own stories or need to fix it by coming up with solutions.  If so, all these participants witnessed how this breaks the emphatic connection and experienced the effects of  disconnection of it becoming about them and their ego mind and no longer the person going through the exercise.

Beautiful! The participants having a practice of learning a language of connection demonstrated the ability to go beyond the disruption and carry the process back to the original speaker while holding empathy for the interrupter’s!

This brings up the question – Is empathy the absence (quieting) of ego?

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Parenting with Empathy series notes:

New parenting series began yesterday p.m. in James Bay. In 2007 I organized 7 day live in retreat on the topic of getting intimate with living, speaking and sharing common values. Gregg Kendrick was one of the weeks 3 trainers and it was here he introduced me to the concept of being in the center of a relationship and balancing my personal needs to be more available to meet the other persons.  This was a concept more advanced than the normal concept being introduced  in 2007 of how to speak your values while hearing the other persons.   This concept went into the unconscious structure of your position in the relationship!

This concept is one I have incorporated into having parents reflect the structure of their own family dynamics.  As I suspected, a concept unfamiliar yet at evenings end the feedback was that of recognizing the benefits.

This will be a great workshop series as the parents have children from 3 to 28! This will meet my needs for learning, not unlike an awareness through movement lesson designed by Moshe Feldenkrais.  His focus was on the person as an individual – no prescriptions of one fits all!  This workshop is going to demand that each family be seen individually! This will be an interactive and reflective workshop, I can tell.

Still time to join if you feel inspired to check in and find out if the structure of your family dynamics is meeting yours, your partners and your children’s needs mutually. Catching up at the second part of the series isn’t too difficult and I will be there 20 minutes before next week to catch up some of those that came late last night and missed first part.  Don’t hesitate to join and come early to find out what you missed!  Click link for more info!

For a healthy society ~ on Bullying for teaching the teachers

Which came first the chicken or the egg?  Really? Does it matter?  Who cares about identifying who should be responsible for teaching children about bullying and the outcomes when each one of us is a bully!  Yes, you have read this correctly.  If  we cannot identify our own needs and give ourselves empathy, what happens when talking to another person?  Can you then hear and identify their needs and  respond back to them in a way to connect to what is important to them?  If not, in fact it is bullying them!  Why, well think about it, if you hear someone and begin trying to fix it based upon your opinions, do you think they feel witnessed and valued or do they feel invisible and lonely?  If you start to hear them, identify with their story and jump in to tell yours to let them know you know exactly how they feel, do you think they feel seen or heard or has the conversation become about you?   Therefore, if it is about you and what you know and your experience,  you cannot identify their needs and acknowledge them as having any value.  Why?, they do not have the same needs as you in that moment.  Frankly,  it is not about you when you are listening to someone else which brings up the question of, “How do you think they are going to respond?”

I would like to generalize and say that I believe we all do this  and it is these little incidents that we are not aware of that become big issues for others who then take it out on others that grows and grows.   Therefore in my opinion it is a societal issue and one that needs societal solutions that begin with acknowledgement and training.   Unlearning through learning new skills that begin with individuals in ALL communities, networks and families.  It’s not a parental issue in my opinion as parents need the support of educators.  Educators needs the support of administrators and administrators need the support of government and government need support of who? YOU!