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Relationships Matter: ‘Couples Intimacy ‘


“If there are problems in the bedroom, there’s conflict!”

“If there are problems in the relationship there are problems in the bedroom!”

These are two comments I made at our 3rd Removing Obstacles to Love workshop last night!  Our conversation was focused on the aspects of our primary relationships.  Breaking it down into bite sized pieces, so to speak,  there are four areas of focus in our primary relationships that affect each other.  They are:

  1. Family/Community/Social Network
  2. Household Health/Financial
  3. Relationship (Interaction & Behavior)
  4. Intimacy

Our consideration was on the dynamics of unresolved issues and  how some people can compartmentalized their relationship issues and still be intimate while others need to have resolution on outstanding issues to have their needs for safety met to be vulnerable enough for intimacy!

Where are you in this topic?  Do you need the resolution of your unresolved issues with your partner to be as intimate as you like?  

In this scenario, I suggested that if couples are open and honest with each other and they speak up about what is important to them in the moment that this present connection could lead them to intimacy.  Why?  It is the connection that is important, not the issues.  Any unresolved issues is about not be seen, not being heard and not being valued!  My recommendations are to slow down and listen.  Learn to listen to your partners soul and your own!


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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Jaw Release Program since 2007, Authored  Achieving your Goals  31 Day Program, Sleep Sweet Sleep, Kid’s Peace Bus Calendar of Values  Educational Program & InTouch with Your Values Self-Actualization Program.  Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children

‘Imagining in your relationship’

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When you have decided upon the type of relationship you would like to enjoy, create a reflection of this in your relationship corner.  Remember to use groupings of two.

Remember that when you stop blaming outside influences for your lack of connecting to the perfect relationship situation, this is when you are seriously ready to do the work to meet your hearts desire.  The work begins by being clear and committed to the qualities you are seeking in a partner.  Once you determine these qualities the next question is, “Do you have these qualities yourself.”

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

 

Personal Message in my in box this morning. I expect they aren’t aware of my focus in my community!

Hello beautiful, i just came across your profile here. I would like to be friends with you. I want you to know that you are a very beautiful and attractive woman and you are a woman with a difference, what i see in you i have never seen in any other woman. Your beauty is exceptional. And your beauty is one in a million in this world. I will be so honored to be your friend sweetheart. You are the best beauty of your kind. Looking forward to read from you soon and get to know you better. Warm hugs and kisses to you.

This message was waiting for me this morning from my Google plus account.  In my Removing Obstacles to Love Workshop this week a participant spoke about a scam she encountered and how it affected her.  We used this scenario in a role play to connect to the needs that where not met.

I mentioned to the group afterwards how someone could take the online photo’s   and do a Google search to find out if they had been used in other profiles.


 

Click on the picture  to enlarge it and then right-click twice on your mouse in rapid succession.  Options will come up that will include a search for similar photo’s.  Click that option and you may be surprised to find the same picture several times with different profile names.

I have in the past reported these to Google plus, however, they have now made it harder to report scammers.  They want the person whose picture that is being used to report it now.  This gives the scammers an edge.  Now I simply block these accounts.

The above message came from a John Miguel. I would ask my community members to watch for this account to pop in their networks as their goal is  to become friends and then go through your friends searching for targets.


Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 201

 

Sweetly surprised by receiving my own valentines flowers!

So focused on sharing valentines day ideas these past few weeks I didn’t think about my own special day!  When the door bell rang and this beautiful flower arrangement was waiting, I was happily surprised.DSC_0289  The feelings it stimulated so sweet it is hard to express with words!  Of course the first thing that came to mind was to consider the secret language of the flowers. I knew that roses meant love.  However,  what was the significance of pink roses?  Checking, I discover it is desire, passion, joy of life, youth, energy.   What a nice expression.  I am in need of enjoying these qualities!  Explore how to  find out more about the secret language of your flowers.

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,

Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

 

Single & it’s Valentines

single and strongSo your single and it’s Valentines, the 2nd highest day of the year on record for the most wedding proposals.

Feeling sad, glad or mad? Are your needs for companionship, romance, warm-heartedness and to be cherished?  What will you do about it?  Act all depressed about it and mope the day away or find your inner strong-self and get love active!

Have fun and plan your valentine’s day to learn how you would like to be treated by your future love interest.

  1.  carnation-20flower-20clip-20art-carnation-flower-clip-artStart with flowers.  Do you know about the secret language of flowers?  In Victoria times flowers were famously used to set the tone in novels and set up qualities in gardens and homes.   Did you know the symbology of Arbutus is “you’re the only one I love?”  See more on plant symbolism.  ,  A Victorian Flower Dictionary: The Language of Flowers Companion.
  2. Next find the perfect card (or make one).  Forget e-cards!  Spend time browsing through cards at a local shop or spend time  creating the perfect love affirmation for yourself!  If you want to be loved in any particular way, it begins with you loving yourself in that particular way and creating your own love expectations.
  3. Investigate local activities in your community!  Don’t be shy, be bold and take a friend to check it out for your romance meter. Do you have one? If you don’t know what love  qualities you like to experience, you can’t expect someone to pop up and create if for you! If you want romance, learn romance!
  4. Investigate your local area and rate restaurants, parks, sites, pubs and activities so that you have resources to draw upon when the time is right.  Rather that saying, “I don’t know!”, you will know exactly the experience you want to create with a potential valentine date!
  5. Explore music, wine, drinks, food and desserts and know which ones express themselves romantically.  Yes meals do set up the experience.  Be prepared with what food appeal to you romantically so you can drop hints at the right time!  Meanwhile have fun finding you your love muse!

In Victorian times society’s model had events that put  boys and girls together for finding the best suitors.  Friendships, romance and relationships were societies central focus and through this single focus then things of importance relevant to family, business and government would be a part of the dialogue.

Today the pattern has shifted and the center of our focus is not on families, relationships and romance.  It  is focused on education,  business and politics.  A model that centers on learning personal relationships is missing and forgotten!  We are ignorant to our romantic and relationships needs that create healthy and interdependent partnerships.  Let’s change that!  Stop being downhearted about being single and take advantage of this time.  Create your own centered learning focus about what is meaningful to you.  After-all how can you teach your partner what you don’t know?

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

‘Empowered Relationships’

Happy_Couple[1]Empowered relationships begin with one’s personal deepened connection to their own personal values.  Knowing our values and trusting them to guide us gives us the strength and willpower to be true to ourselves!  This foundation is key for an interdependent relationship that is life enriching for both our partners and ourselves!


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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

 

Have you considered where you would like to be in your relationship in 2016? or find one?

Valentines Day

Saint Valentine has come to be known as the patron saint of lovers

Valentine, who was executed in the 3rd century for performing Christian marriages,  has prompted feasts to celebrate love and happiness

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner!  It’s Sunday, Feb 14th, 2016!

Have you been Looking for ‘love’ in all the wrong places?  One of our primal instincts is to be in relationship.  Instinctive knowledge that sharing our experiences with another being that we consider our perfect mate drives us!

Have you considered where you would like to be in your relationship in 2016?  Getting back to consciously creating your loving experiences begins with consideration of what you desire.  Once you create an image of what you wish for pay attention to manifesting it.

Follow natures rhythms for manifesting your desires for 2016.  Nature flora and fauna have already harvested their  seeds for 2016 and now well into their rejuvenation cycle preparing for new growth next year!  Co-create with nature by following this powerful cycle.  Start by reflecting on your love dream first.  Write it out and talk it out loud.  Begin to make it real by taking it out of your head and into reality.

Here are some opportunities for connecting and coming together in  new and unique ways for making relationships adventures that you can export and support finding new love connections.

 


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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

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