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Relationships Matter: ‘Couples Intimacy ‘


“If there are problems in the bedroom, there’s conflict!”

“If there are problems in the relationship there are problems in the bedroom!”

These are two comments I made at our 3rd Removing Obstacles to Love workshop last night!  Our conversation was focused on the aspects of our primary relationships.  Breaking it down into bite sized pieces, so to speak,  there are four areas of focus in our primary relationships that affect each other.  They are:

  1. Family/Community/Social Network
  2. Household Health/Financial
  3. Relationship (Interaction & Behavior)
  4. Intimacy

Our consideration was on the dynamics of unresolved issues and  how some people can compartmentalized their relationship issues and still be intimate while others need to have resolution on outstanding issues to have their needs for safety met to be vulnerable enough for intimacy!

Where are you in this topic?  Do you need the resolution of your unresolved issues with your partner to be as intimate as you like?  

In this scenario, I suggested that if couples are open and honest with each other and they speak up about what is important to them in the moment that this present connection could lead them to intimacy.  Why?  It is the connection that is important, not the issues.  Any unresolved issues is about not be seen, not being heard and not being valued!  My recommendations are to slow down and listen.  Learn to listen to your partners soul and your own!


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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Jaw Release Program since 2007, Authored  Achieving your Goals  31 Day Program, Sleep Sweet Sleep, Kid’s Peace Bus Calendar of Values  Educational Program & InTouch with Your Values Self-Actualization Program.  Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children

‘Imagining in your relationship’

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When you have decided upon the type of relationship you would like to enjoy, create a reflection of this in your relationship corner.  Remember to use groupings of two.

Remember that when you stop blaming outside influences for your lack of connecting to the perfect relationship situation, this is when you are seriously ready to do the work to meet your hearts desire.  The work begins by being clear and committed to the qualities you are seeking in a partner.  Once you determine these qualities the next question is, “Do you have these qualities yourself.”

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

 

Personal Message in my in box this morning. I expect they aren’t aware of my focus in my community!

Hello beautiful, i just came across your profile here. I would like to be friends with you. I want you to know that you are a very beautiful and attractive woman and you are a woman with a difference, what i see in you i have never seen in any other woman. Your beauty is exceptional. And your beauty is one in a million in this world. I will be so honored to be your friend sweetheart. You are the best beauty of your kind. Looking forward to read from you soon and get to know you better. Warm hugs and kisses to you.

This message was waiting for me this morning from my Google plus account.  In my Removing Obstacles to Love Workshop this week a participant spoke about a scam she encountered and how it affected her.  We used this scenario in a role play to connect to the needs that where not met.

I mentioned to the group afterwards how someone could take the online photo’s   and do a Google search to find out if they had been used in other profiles.


 

Click on the picture  to enlarge it and then right-click twice on your mouse in rapid succession.  Options will come up that will include a search for similar photo’s.  Click that option and you may be surprised to find the same picture several times with different profile names.

I have in the past reported these to Google plus, however, they have now made it harder to report scammers.  They want the person whose picture that is being used to report it now.  This gives the scammers an edge.  Now I simply block these accounts.

The above message came from a John Miguel. I would ask my community members to watch for this account to pop in their networks as their goal is  to become friends and then go through your friends searching for targets.


Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 201