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Full Moon falls on our study into the value of fun!

moon-quartersThis week began with a growing moon and will end with a waning one.  Today it is a full moon and our suggestions are to connect to your inner sense that the seeds of intention that you planted on the New Moon are now growing!  It is done.  In  Inspired Goal Setting Integration Program we recognize this  phase as a time for appreciation!

At Inside we consider that your deeper more meaningful goals are your Purpose and is what is alive in you.  It is what brings life  to your  self  expression!

This week our suggestion is to explore your purpose in:

  • Movement – where is the starting point of your movement action?
    • explore sensing how you move and follow it back towards where it began!  Remember to get out of your head and don’t think about what you do or explain it. Feel it!   I will have clients and students answer, “I do yoga,” when asked this question.  What I am hoping for, when asking this question, is for inner sensing or checking into ones feelings of the actual movement function!
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  • Communication – what is the intention of what you are about to say?
    • Slow yourself down and think about what you are going to say.  How would you feel hearing exactly what you are going to say from your……..?  What is the main point your trying to express to them?  Your sentences can be the starting points of disconnection (not being heard) or connection (being heard). It all depends upon your intention and your awareness of what you are hoping for.
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  • Lifescape – does your space align with your intention for it?
    • Look at your living space or office and notice if it is supporting what you want to happen in your experience. For example,  if you have a partner and share a bedroom, would you want all your medicine on the dresser to remind you and them of impending illness or would you want something sleek and sexy?
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Why? Self-Esteem, Confidence, Trusting Self


Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

Have you considered where you would like to be in your relationship in 2016? or find one?

Valentines Day

Saint Valentine has come to be known as the patron saint of lovers

Valentine, who was executed in the 3rd century for performing Christian marriages,  has prompted feasts to celebrate love and happiness

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner!  It’s Sunday, Feb 14th, 2016!

Have you been Looking for ‘love’ in all the wrong places?  One of our primal instincts is to be in relationship.  Instinctive knowledge that sharing our experiences with another being that we consider our perfect mate drives us!

Have you considered where you would like to be in your relationship in 2016?  Getting back to consciously creating your loving experiences begins with consideration of what you desire.  Once you create an image of what you wish for pay attention to manifesting it.

Follow natures rhythms for manifesting your desires for 2016.  Nature flora and fauna have already harvested their  seeds for 2016 and now well into their rejuvenation cycle preparing for new growth next year!  Co-create with nature by following this powerful cycle.  Start by reflecting on your love dream first.  Write it out and talk it out loud.  Begin to make it real by taking it out of your head and into reality.

Here are some opportunities for connecting and coming together in  new and unique ways for making relationships adventures that you can export and support finding new love connections.

 


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ARTICLES ON LOVE BY RENEE LINDSTROM

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

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‘Epic Empty Nest-er Transitions’

 

It’s no secret that my kids are the first generation kids who had one parent practicing a value based model of communication that began when they were beginning elementary school.  A model of communication learned from Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, Author of Nonviolent Communication.
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Practicing this model of  communication at home has been a different experience than teaching it to others or being taught it.  The difference has been embodying it as the cultural foundation of our lifestyle and relationships.  Therefore our families learning has been through integrating our practice.

Travelling the path of transitioning from one consciousness to another was filled with immediate experiences and this mom did not know, or consider, the impact of any future outcomes.  The focus was learning with each interaction as it happened.  The beauty was the outcomes and the struggle was the extra brain effort to get there.  From teaching experiences it seems the brain is a lazy muscle and loves being attached to what it knows that ultimately blocks learning anything new! Hence the effort.

This mom quickly realized that it did not stop the adventures of childhood that were not particularity agreeable, however, what was different was the interactions between parent and child.  Spoken and unspoken communication between this mom and her children was deeper, connected and open, even in our conflicts.   These children quickly learned to be honest and take responsibility for their actions versus *lie to justify them.  They also became comfortable to hold mom accountable for any communication missteps. *lie – part of this system is to track and keep going back to the point so it is hard to keep up dishonesty as we learned! 

However, trouble still exists/ed and as one child left home it was under misunderstandings and conflict.  It was mom pushing bird out of the nest and a shock to baby bird.  Luckily our value based connect was enough to transition the conflict of our differences into understanding and connection.    Now this bird is coming home for a visit  and will be bringing a mate for mom to meet.  A mate who is interested in a pursuing education in ways of doing things this mom introduced to her families culture.  Mom is curious and excited!  Better yet she was able to discuss concerns and worry at the long periods of no contact during the 18 months away without bird taking it personally!  Love this communication!  What this child hears isn’t that they have done something wrong,  rather they hear the   concern and caring of this parent.

As baby bird one is returning to visit,  number two is leaving the nest.  This news came as a surprise!  This child and mom had made an agreement that affected their future lifestyle.  Then without discussion and mutual agreement another decision was made stimulating the disappointment of unmet needs.  On a scale of 1 to 10, it was a 10 for this mom.  The amazing thing is that there was/is honesty.  There was enough caring to be in the process for as long as it took to find clarity, understanding and agreement.  It has taken three months.  What began as mom wanting to push baby gently to safely leave the nest, to baby jumping from the nest while recognizing that a relationships with mom was equally as important. Neither right or wrong, yet, we have felt our feelings and over time expressed what is alive for us.  It gave us the opportunity to talk about the things we have withheld and now our relationship is transitioning into self-reliance.  It is maturing in a healthy way whereby we are admitting our excitement and fears.

I shocked and surprised my first child and my second shocked and surprised me.  What is different for us is that we have heard messages of meaning and how important we are to each other.  In my first family the pattern was to withdraw, disconnect and isolate.   I am loving being able to achieve a different expereience.  It bring hope and joy.

Creating a new consciousness through learning to listen and speak differently does take effort in the beginning,  yet,  my experience is that it reduces the field of later conflict which is by far a bigger struggle.


It is this family experience that extended to our early childhood education expereince that led to the creation of educational programs called Culture of Values for parents, schools and classrooms.  Find out more at  Culture of Values  or follow @learningvalues or on facebook

Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication Relationship & Life Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015