“If there are problems in the bedroom, there’s conflict!”
“If there are problems in the relationship there are problems in the bedroom!”
These are two comments I made at our 3rd Removing Obstacles to Love workshop last night! Our conversation was focused on the aspects of our primary relationships. Breaking it down into bite sized pieces, so to speak, there are four areas of focus in our primary relationships that affect each other. They are:
- Family/Community/Social Network
- Household Health/Financial
- Relationship (Interaction & Behavior)
Our consideration was on the dynamics of unresolved issues and how some people can compartmentalized their relationship issues and still be intimate while others need to have resolution on outstanding issues to have their needs for safety met to be vulnerable enough for intimacy!
Where are you in this topic? Do you need the resolution of your unresolved issues with your partner to be as intimate as you like?
In this scenario, I suggested that if couples are open and honest with each other and they speak up about what is important to them in the moment that this present connection could lead them to intimacy. Why? It is the connection that is important, not the issues. Any unresolved issues is about not be seen, not being heard and not being valued! My recommendations are to slow down and listen. Learn to listen to your partners soul and your own!
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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Jaw Release Program since 2007, Authored Achieving your Goals 31 Day Program, Sleep Sweet Sleep, Kid’s Peace Bus Calendar of Values Educational Program & InTouch with Your Values Self-Actualization Program. Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children
To cut through resistance with a student, I suggested we transition our session to one of my local favorite hangouts, “Finnerty Gardens,” at the University of Victoria.
Strolling through a combination of forest and tames beds and lawns, I noticed the difference between being restful and at peace in this type of environment and one that is nervous with a racing mind. After investigating the landscape for a time we sat on a bench to integrate and continue our session. Long periods of comfortable silence encouraged a deeper opening and sharing. Simple and transitional!
Nature, our healing partners!
Self-Esteem, Confidence, Trusting Self
Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Authored Achieving your Goals 31 Day Program, Sleep Sweet Sleep, Kid’s Peace Bus Calendar of Values Educational Program & InTouch with Your Values Self-Actualization Program.Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children’s Summit on Peace & Nature in 2015