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Relationships Matter: ‘Couples Intimacy ‘


“If there are problems in the bedroom, there’s conflict!”

“If there are problems in the relationship there are problems in the bedroom!”

These are two comments I made at our 3rd Removing Obstacles to Love workshop last night!  Our conversation was focused on the aspects of our primary relationships.  Breaking it down into bite sized pieces, so to speak,  there are four areas of focus in our primary relationships that affect each other.  They are:

  1. Family/Community/Social Network
  2. Household Health/Financial
  3. Relationship (Interaction & Behavior)
  4. Intimacy

Our consideration was on the dynamics of unresolved issues and  how some people can compartmentalized their relationship issues and still be intimate while others need to have resolution on outstanding issues to have their needs for safety met to be vulnerable enough for intimacy!

Where are you in this topic?  Do you need the resolution of your unresolved issues with your partner to be as intimate as you like?  

In this scenario, I suggested that if couples are open and honest with each other and they speak up about what is important to them in the moment that this present connection could lead them to intimacy.  Why?  It is the connection that is important, not the issues.  Any unresolved issues is about not be seen, not being heard and not being valued!  My recommendations are to slow down and listen.  Learn to listen to your partners soul and your own!


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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Jaw Release Program since 2007, Authored  Achieving your Goals  31 Day Program, Sleep Sweet Sleep, Kid’s Peace Bus Calendar of Values  Educational Program & InTouch with Your Values Self-Actualization Program.  Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children

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  • Thursday, January 7 & 21, 7 – 9 pm

images (19)Integrating  a language of love using a model designed for ‘natural listening!’  Practice speaking skills that will increase your opportunities for experiencing loving kindness between you and your loved one. Meet your needs to be seen, heard and valued while meeting the same needs for your partners.  These gathering will focus upon developing one’s own abilities for deeper listening  and pausing before speaking (reducing habitual reactions that cause misunderstandings).

These gatherings will focus upon integration and philosophy of InTouch Communication Learning Program, REMOVING OBSTACLES TO LOVE.  

These gathering will focus upon a uniquely designed method for somatic learning.  Growing awareness through learning practice to become mindful versus instructional style learning.

Gatherings for couples or singles who would like to increase opportunities to improve their communication and/or those wanting to integrate techniques for esablishing new relationships – $40.00/month

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

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Happy Love Day! #14th Tip to finding better love

#14 – ‘Signs of Attraction’

Mutual eye contact is a sure sign of attraction. Brief glances catching each other’s eyes without turning away that may lead to other body signals. First stage of passion in relationships that will lead to second and third stages; emotional intimacy and commitment. If this is the partner of your dreams, enjoy this first stage of romance and growing excitement of passion.  Take your time and enjoy the foreplay without rushing it.   It is the easiest and greatest stage of any relationship and creates mystery and intimacy.  Too soon and it’s lost!

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Love Day 14Tip of the Day:  Take your time noticing each other reactions and flirt-i-ness.  If you are attracted you will make gestures that you find mirrored by them.  Love this stage as this is the time of heightened dreams and hopefulness.  Don’t rush past this stage and extinguished it too soon.

“A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.”
                                                     Ingrid Bergman

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication Relationship & Life Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

14 Tips to finding better love #13

Day 13: Positive personalities most attractive

There are concrete studies that show people with positive personalities are seen as more attractive and are more physically appealing than those who are rude, negative and unfair. Is you glass half-full or half empty?

Love Day 13Today’s Tip:  Explore your own inner messaging patterns.  Do you beat yourself and others up? Imagine how attractive this is to others and commit to change through creative self-development!   Begin your practice now!

“Supply is infinite, but there must be receptivity.  We can have all the supply we will give.  But that is where the barrier is–the unwillingness to give.  That is where the lack or limitation is.”
Joel Goldsmith


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Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication Relationship & Life Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

14 Days to finding better love – #12

#12 ‘Easy Fun &  Adventure’

Trying too hard by interviewing your date for your next serious relationship? Are you being interviewed for the next great lay? STOP! This can be the time to share experiences and find out what you have in common. Ease pressure by keeping it fun and turning meetings into great adventures.

Love Day 12Tip of the Day:  Hang out first. No pressure. Just enjoy each others company. Everyone could use new friendships. This can be a time that is the honeymoon of friendships.

“True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked.”

Erich Segal

 


LOVE PROGRAM STARTING FEB 1ST – 14 DAYS OF LOVE TIPS – FOLLOW @INSIDEAWARENESS


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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication Relationship & Life Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

14 Tips to finding better love #11

#11 – The Connection

Your intuition will tell you immediately if you are in company with someone who is compatible if you are listening to it!  It’s all in the open gestures, comfortable friendliness levels, pitch of voice and eye contact.  One way of noticing compatibility is the language connection.  It’s not about what you say, it’s how you say it that might give you answers to the longevity of this relationship.

Removing obstacles to Love Workshop

Love Day 11Tip of the day:  Within 10 minutes you will know if it will be rewarding to put time and energy into pursing a relationship.  Notice it their eyes remain in contact with yours.  This indicates they are into you.  Notice if the words they use are the same or similar ones to yours.  For example:  Do you both use, Great as an expression or a statement such as, I am interested in…..  Pay attention to words they use that disturb you.  This will never change it will only become more annoying!

“We are most alive when we’re in love.”  John Updike


LOVE PROGRAM STARTING FEB 1ST – 14 DAYS OF LOVE TIPS – FOLLOW @INSIDEAWARENESS


Removing obstacles to Love Workshop

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication Relationship & Life Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

14 Tips to finding better love! #10 Real-Time Face-time

#10 Real-Time Face-time

Filling your date nights and getting out yet? In real-time you can experience how your date influences you and if they are interesting. On-line, not so much! On-line you may be distracted from your loneliness yet it doesn’t do much for the flirty side of romance. On-line profiles are misleading and untrustworthy that lead straight to the end-game. If you lack time to get out to meet and greet until something clicks and are seriously looking get a match maker or go to specific singles events!

Love Day 10Today’s tip:    Use 80/20 Rule

Spend 80 to 100 percent engaging in real-time face-time and 20 to 0 percent on-line.  If you are looking for love, romance and nuances that make relationships sparkle on-line simply isn’t reflective of this experience.  However if your lonely, lazy,  love anxiety  and sometimes deceit, it may meet your needs!

“There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”
The Truth About Forever by Sarah Dessen


LOVE PROGRAM STARTING FEB 1ST – 14 DAYS OF LOVE TIPS – FOLLOW @INSIDEAWARENESS


Removing obstacles to Love Workshop

Read more on love 

Read Richard Watts, Feature Writer for the Times Colonist  interview and article on love  and relationships!

Connect to find out about Love & Life Coaching


Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication Relationship & Life Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015