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Nov 14 ’18 Inside News: Empathy for the Parasympathetic & Sympathetic Nervous Systems with Feldenkrais®

In our last newsletter shared how foods could improve our emotional groupings by connecting them to body regions along the parasympathetic and the sympathetic nervous systems. This practitioner is going to call that ‘Food Empathy’ due to the amazing emotional shifts food can create!

This newsletter will suggest that movement can also affect these systems giving the reader more choices in increasing their skills to shift or transform uncomfortable behavioral patterns using  Awareness through Movement® Somatic Patterns.

The parasympathetic nervous system (PNS) controls homeostasis and the body at rest and is responsible for the body’s “rest and digest” function. The sympathetic nervous system (SNS) controls the body’s responses to a perceived threat and is responsible for the “fight or flight” response.

The difference for this Feldenkrais Practitioner has been that Feldenkrais articulates the inner movement through sensing along the nervous system to mobilize other moving parts to increase ease in movement while other styles of movement are stylized exercise patterns.  The most difficult process this practitioner has observed in others in lessons is the difficulty many have in transitioning from needing to know how to do it before trying it to simply experiencing it through patterns.

Below  are some physical examples along the nervous system that compliment the emotional sensing of the Nonviolent Communication 4 part model, Observation, Feelings, Needs & Request as well as subtle energy center foods mentioned in the last newsletter.  This practitioner is suggestion that these movements can increases one’s window of tolerance and ability to cope as she suggest foods could by increasing the gut brain connection.  It is the body’s natural empathy resource.

To read more from this writer on this topic:

Awareness through Movement for Crown & Brow

The Brow Chakra encompasses the pituitary gland, eyes, head, and lower part of the brain and is associated with the center of ones intuition.

All guided Awareness through Movement® Lessons, called ATM’s, would support the 6th & 7th Chakras as the intention of the patterns are designed to focus ones attention to specifically bring a state of experiencing each moment using the movement itself. In meditation one is taken into a practice of following the breath or imagery while Feldenkrais® takes one into the focused experience of their personal action from the inside out.

Try this example experience of 7 steps to get in touch with your somatic awareness capabilities:

Awareness through Movement for the Throat

Located in the throat at the voice box and Adams apple areas, the Throat Chakra governs the voice, endocrine gland, thyroid and communication.

The guided patterns Awareness through Movement® lessons can increase ones ability to sing higher or lower, speak with more groundedness, swallow easier and unblock air passageways going down into the torso.  Mobilizing unused muscles and spinal movements can free up any restrictions limiting information and fluid going upwards into the head and brain also.

In Nonviolent Communication, Dr. Marshall Rosenberg discussed how the base of the throat area is the line that separates reaction with thinking and speaking  from connection to universal values increasing empathy.  His focus of empathy was an action with an intention of the heart (or values).  If one was speaking only from the mind only the result would be disconnection and conflict.

This Feldenkrais Practitioner, who mentors and coaches using Nonviolent Communication,  can see clues in others who appear to living in their heads, so to speak.  It is evident in their facial features, colouring and body posture.  Sharing  lessons in either Awareness through Movement or Awareness through Communication  this Practitioner can see the changing environment in ones colouring, features and postural changes.

Try this example experience of 8 steps to get in touch with your somatic awareness capabilities:

Click the links to read more on the remaining centers:

Two ways you can enjoy the Feldenkrais Method is through group classes or personal integration sessions called:
Function Integration  & Awareness through Movement 


To demonstrate the difference between Feldenkrais and other Movements in this weeks Awareness through Movement Lessons I showed the group a yoga mat and a mat I use in my movement classes.  The differences you can actually see are that the yoga mat is sticky on purpose to support held patterns while the Feldenkrais mat is for mobility for the purpose of having no environmental
restrictions.  In yoga one holds a pose and moves into another contrived pose while in Feldenkrais one has a focus on all the steps of the inside structure on their way towards striking any one posture.  

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What does your Relationship Corner say about you?

by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP

Relationship Corner

I finally was able to get to my relationship corner this past weekend!  Here is a before and after picture.  This year it became the storage corner of  all the things I intended to get back too!

Stopping to take a look at it last week I noticed it was a visual of what was happening in my head with regards to my own relationships – cluttered chaos!   Overgrown with ivy and tree branches from the neighbours and bamboo from along my back fence line, storage of pots, shutters and electrical items.  It was time to do something about it!  Believe it or not my environment affects my brain, emotions, physical and mental well-being!

As open space emerged there was a shift from overwhelm and feelings of being choked, to relief  and a peaceful calm and I knew what to do with the white stone that had been gifted to me the week earlier! I had been wondering where to put it and standing in this corner I was reminded  of two things;  white is one of the colors representing relationships and it brightens dark corners!

I am more than pleased with the results!  For me, I am now feeling spaciousness and calm!

Have you considered how you respond to your environment?  


3 Tips for your Relationship Corner

  1.  Reduce the clutter and create spaciousness.
  2.  Look at the lighting in this corner.  If it is too dark, lighten it up, or  if too light, darken it to ground the space.
  3. Check to see what you have in this corner that symbolized your relationships with a significant other or in the community.  For me, this corner is outdoors, in my back garden where the door to my office is.  It therefore not only represents relationships with my community, it reflects that with my students and clients too!  I have chosen it to reflect a zen like quality which is the element of metal . There are two silver stars in the ivy and two hearts in the white stone, both which symbolize fire, and reflect engaged relationships!

 Where is your relationships corner?

Imagine a nine square grid overlaying your property.  Three rows of three, equal in size.  Now stand on the street facing your property.  The relationship corner is the last square to the right in the farthest row of three.  Now walk back into your garden as though for the first time and observe this area and what story it may share.

Consider a consult with me, in person, face-time or by phone!


Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Jaw Release Program since 2007, Authored  Achieving your Goals  31 Day Program, Sleep Sweet Sleep, Kid’s Peace Bus Calendar of Values  Educational Program & InTouch with Your Values Self-Actualization Program.  Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children

 

Single & it’s Valentines

single and strongSo your single and it’s Valentines, the 2nd highest day of the year on record for the most wedding proposals.

Feeling sad, glad or mad? Are your needs for companionship, romance, warm-heartedness and to be cherished?  What will you do about it?  Act all depressed about it and mope the day away or find your inner strong-self and get love active!

Have fun and plan your valentine’s day to learn how you would like to be treated by your future love interest.

  1.  carnation-20flower-20clip-20art-carnation-flower-clip-artStart with flowers.  Do you know about the secret language of flowers?  In Victoria times flowers were famously used to set the tone in novels and set up qualities in gardens and homes.   Did you know the symbology of Arbutus is “you’re the only one I love?”  See more on plant symbolism.  ,  A Victorian Flower Dictionary: The Language of Flowers Companion.
  2. Next find the perfect card (or make one).  Forget e-cards!  Spend time browsing through cards at a local shop or spend time  creating the perfect love affirmation for yourself!  If you want to be loved in any particular way, it begins with you loving yourself in that particular way and creating your own love expectations.
  3. Investigate local activities in your community!  Don’t be shy, be bold and take a friend to check it out for your romance meter. Do you have one? If you don’t know what love  qualities you like to experience, you can’t expect someone to pop up and create if for you! If you want romance, learn romance!
  4. Investigate your local area and rate restaurants, parks, sites, pubs and activities so that you have resources to draw upon when the time is right.  Rather that saying, “I don’t know!”, you will know exactly the experience you want to create with a potential valentine date!
  5. Explore music, wine, drinks, food and desserts and know which ones express themselves romantically.  Yes meals do set up the experience.  Be prepared with what food appeal to you romantically so you can drop hints at the right time!  Meanwhile have fun finding you your love muse!

In Victorian times society’s model had events that put  boys and girls together for finding the best suitors.  Friendships, romance and relationships were societies central focus and through this single focus then things of importance relevant to family, business and government would be a part of the dialogue.

Today the pattern has shifted and the center of our focus is not on families, relationships and romance.  It  is focused on education,  business and politics.  A model that centers on learning personal relationships is missing and forgotten!  We are ignorant to our romantic and relationships needs that create healthy and interdependent partnerships.  Let’s change that!  Stop being downhearted about being single and take advantage of this time.  Create your own centered learning focus about what is meaningful to you.  After-all how can you teach your partner what you don’t know?

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015