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Embodiment of Abundance ~ Awareness in Thinking

Posted on October 30, 2012 | Leave a comment

Definition of Abundance: an extremely plentiful over-sufficient quantity or supply, overflowing fullness, affluence; wealth. Abundance is the noun of Abundant.

Embodiment of Abundance Consciousness:

Life is abundant
There is more than enough to go around.
I can have what I need and so can others.

Behavior of Abundance Consciousness:

Mutuality
Equal balance of giving and receiving,
Exclusivity of all regardless of age, rage, rank, male or female

How do you embody the qualities of Abundance?

Motivation: Begin by considering your longing to live in a state of abundance consciousness. Connect to your original motivator to choose a shift towards abundant thinking. What was the attraction?

Success: If you have thought that by setting an intention for abundance with expectations of receiving it, reflect on the success you have had of drawing abundance into your life and keeping it.

Integration: Now consider how you have integrated the qualities of abundance into your experiences and relationships. Has it been through ritual of writing out affirmations, gatherings for creating abundance visions or simply making statements to self and others.

We are hearing that we are what we think we are. Simply replacing the story isn’t as easy as we would like it to be. Thinking we are now going to be living a life of abundance doesn’t replace our earlier thoughts that we have learned since childhood, it simply adds more story. It is the stories we have learned since childhood that we are habitually acting from.

The self reflection then becomes, are you connecting and creating the same beauty in your relationships as what motivated you to set an intention to live as though life was abundant. How are you and others around you enjoying this world?

Some tips for checking in follow:

Thinking ~ Do your mind thoughts and their sentence structure reflect abundance consciousness?
Behavior ~ Do you speak in sentences of abundance consciousness?
Action Beyond Self Image ~ Do you understand the relationship between thinking abundance and behaving abundance? (Behaving abundance in this sense it not empathy of prayer, mediation and gathering together for a cause, it is about those praying, gathering and mediating and their ability to spontaneously identify and shift their personal judgement, blaming and demands in the moment while in every day one on one interactions.)

If you are interested in how to become more articulate in creating a shift of consciousness into an abundant one that starts with how to speak it to create the brain shift Renee offers personal coaching, private and organized group lessons. Imagine if your partner, peers, employers/ees spoke from a place of abundance mentality. Once of the greatest values that would be demonstrated would be respect for others and self!

Post by Renee Lindstrom, for Inside Awareness for Healthy Living October 30th, 2012

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Imagine a child’s world

Posted on October 26, 2012 | Leave a comment

That includes redirection and reassurance while being recognized versus, (you fill in the blanks)

You are,
Your doing,
You must,
Do!,
Go!,
Say your sorry!,

For example, Identify and acknowledge what is going on for them. It takes as much time as it does to get angry and use force to get your own need met. Hearing them takes less energy for all of you. It does not mean you have to let them do what it is they are doing. In fact you are teaching them to understand the feelings they are having. They cannot teach this to themselves. Such as,

“When you get angry about coming with us I bet you are wanting to stay home and play and not come to another event with your brother and I. Is that what’s going on for you?”

Now imagine the way you would habitually handle this type of situation. You may not even be aware that they are meeting their own needs by their behavior and you may perceive this as resistance and label them as being __________. Their resistance is a strategy for them to meet their needs in the only way they know how, which you may be taking personally and making it about them not listening to you. If so, consider how your reaction impacts them. How would your child process your reaction in a way that they stayed connected to their own value? What might they be feeling and who would they go to for comfort?

Now consider the reasons you may have reacted that way? Could it be the way you learned to behave based upon your experience or that you haven’t had any training on how to deal with multiple needs in the multiple relationships of your unique family?

Who do you go to to discuss your experiences of their reactions, their father perhaps? Who do they go to to discuss your reactions? Your behavior in their eyes may be exactly what they consider their behavior to be – reactive. How can their behavior be wrong and yours right?

For more info on Upcoming Parenting Workshops with Renee Lindstrom

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Understanding Ego mind through getting in touch with your own thinking and speaking

Posted on October 26, 2012 | Leave a comment

Our last workshop in a series of six and the individual workshops have evolved into a deeper focus of practice and understanding empathy. The areas that came up for exploring included self-empathy, empathy in relationships and group empathy. The purpose was to support group members to recognize their own stories inside their mind that did not allow them to be present with what was actually happening in their relationship. How we have done this it by developing skills for learning to recognize and identify their thoughts and behavior as a result of their thinking.

The last exercise involved having a volunteer demonstrate a process while sharing a personal life event and transforming what they had been telling themselves about it into a connection that included the rest of body functions, outside of the frontal lobe of their brain!

At the beginning of the practice this participant shared their resistance at connecting to another person in their life. In the process ego dropped away as the mind stories became silent and what was real began to emerge. As the stories of their mind became less interesting , what was real was their new self-connection to what was being experienced in the moment. When the participant connected to what was real in them they expressed how they had a growing awareness of what was going on for the other person that went beyond their original resistance.

You couldn’t ask for more! The beauty that was visible in the participant and those in the group supporting this persons process was tangible through relaxed faces and the feelings of a group connection. Through the practice other participants began to recognizing their own stories and habits in experiencing how they supported the process. Did they become present to what they were hearing or did it stimulate their own stories or need to fix it by coming up with solutions. If so, all these participants witnessed how this breaks the emphatic connection and experienced the effects of disconnection of it becoming about them and their ego mind and no longer the person going through the exercise.

Beautiful! The participants having a practice of learning a language of connection demonstrated the ability to go beyond the disruption and carry the process back to the original speaker while holding empathy for the interrupter’s!

This brings up the question – Is empathy the absence (quieting) of ego?

For more information on these workshops with Renee Lindstrom go to relationships link

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Parents, when you fight with your partner, what do you tell the kids?

Posted on October 25, 2012 | Leave a comment

Parents do you go and talk to your kids after they hear or see you fight and talk to them about how it was for them to have been in this experience? Do you help them with identifying their feelings and sharing what needs they had in the moments of the fight?

Do you try to tell them what the fight was about and get them to pick sides or do you tell them truthfully what you are feeling about them experiencing the fight with you? Such as regret and sadness that you didn’t met their needs for safety? Once you and the child connect to theirs and your needs about the fighting experience you simply might say that you and partner had needs that were not being met and that the frustration came out in the behavior that was demonstrated. Do children need to know adults stories or do they simply need to know you care about them and that it is normal to have frustration? What’s important might be how you model the process of dealing with the frustration and not the frustration itself. Be truthful about the behavior scaring you if in fact it did and begin teaching them the feelings that go with different behaviors without making the behaviors threatening. Normalizing the behavior through the process of coming to understand it begins to defuse the level of fear attached to it and its power, opening the door to future mediation skills in moments they may face anger.

Turn these moments into teachable experiences and explore it and not feed the fear.

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‘Positions within relationships and the field you create ‘

Posted on October 21, 2012 | Leave a comment

I introduced a concept at yesterdays *workshop to bring awareness to the positions each of us hold in our relationships. Have you taken time to consider the unique individual position you and yours have and how these positions are separate and overlap to those around you? After introducing this I led the participants through some awareness exercises to directly experience being in the center of their universe while in their conversations. These exercises follow a pattern for both the speaker and listener to experience and stay in the center of their universe.

In these dialogue exercises a field was created that was their direct experience and felt by those around them. Think about the following Rumi’s quote and consider, if you are still in judgement thinking of right and wrong what the field is that you are creating in your relationships. What is your direct experience and that of others as they connect with you or share in the field around you?

“Out beyond right doing and wrong doing there is a field, I will meet you there. ”

*These workshops are designed with the intention to share how to turn disconnection into connection and to bring personal awareness to how ones personal communication habits impacts direct experiences. For more information on how to take part go to link.

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Is your learning style the same as your partners? your children? your bosses? Or are you aware that each of us has a different learning style?

Posted on October 19, 2012 | Leave a comment

Will you be surprised to read the learning styles follow our senses and abilities for reasoning and making sound? Did you know that we will have one primary characteristic combined with varying percentages of the others? Each of us different.

How then do we communicate to connect if we our base learning style is feeling/touch and our partner is logic? We would like to talk about our feelings and our partner would like to analyse them! Connection?, possibly not!

Sight
Sound
Hearing
Feeling/Touch
Logic

I wonder then about taste! Is it time to begin considering this as a learning style? It is an unconscious form of teaching in our culture today yet not recognized.

Add to this our own balance of social and solitary preferences into our relationships with our partners, children and at work. If you are doing a group project and not feeling comfortable in your group do you experience growing feelings that you don’t belong? Could understanding that you prefer to work alone change your behavior and those around you? What if you like to socialize and your partner doesn’t? At the beginning of the relationship you may meet their needs for being alone thinking it is romantic and not simply a preference to meet their needs, not yours. Without recognizing this, it could be the pattern in your future together! How long before you would become resentful? I imagine it starts even before the heat of the romance come down a few temperatures!

Learning styles was included in this weeks (Oct 17) Parenting with Compassion workshop series and will be included in Introducing Language of Empathy, Think, Speak, Act Series starting October 20th.

Still time to register for both ~ @ James Bay Community Center – 250 – 389 – 1470

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Self-acceptance

Posted on October 17, 2012 | Leave a comment

Self – Acceptance

First, come into the present. Flash on what’s happening with you right now. Be fully aware of your body, its energetic quality. Be aware of your thoughts and emotions.

Next, feel your heart, literally placing your hand on your chest if you find that helpful. This is a way of accepting yourself just as you are in that moment, a way of saying, “This is my experience right now, and it’s okay.”