Tag Archives: Language of Connection

Build your own Value Needs Vocabulary

In Touch Universal Value Cards - Connection

In Touch Universal Value Cards – Connection

Understand YOUR FEELINGS and INTEGRATE a UNIVERSAL language of connection!

Stop letting your feelings control your actions.  Learn to identify the root source of your feelings and integrate a universal language through building your own vocabulary of values!

Turn your moral judgments into value based judgments so others want to hear you!

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Inside Awareness has created 45 Value Need Cards to use as a personal check in to Integrate Universal values.




  • Naming what is meaningful to you helps others become willing to hear you
  • Values grow awareness of behavior actions and reactions
  • Values in one’s vocabulary increases autonomy, self-esteem and confidence

If feelings are the spiral inward, naming  the values are at the center and the  point of connection with others.

Download our templates to make your own cards

InTouch Value Needs Cards Template

InTouch Value Needs Cards Template

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
 Authored  Achieving your Goals  31 Day Program, Sleep Sweet Sleep, Kid’s Peace Bus Calendar of Values  Educational Program & InTouch with Your Values Self-Actualization Program.Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children’s Summit on Peace & Nature in 2015

Parents, when you fight with your partner, what do you tell the kids?

Parents do you go and talk to your kids after they hear or see you fight and talk to them about how it was for them to have been in this experience?  Do you help them with identifying their feelings and sharing what needs they had in the moments of the fight?

Do you try to tell them what the fight was about and get them to pick sides or do you tell them truthfully what you are feeling about them experiencing the fight with you?   Such as regret and sadness that you didn’t met their needs for safety?  Once you and the child connect to theirs and your needs about the fighting experience you simply might say that you and partner had needs that were not being met and that the frustration came out in the behavior that was demonstrated.   Do children need to know adults stories or do they simply need to know you care about them and that it is normal to have frustration?  What’s important might be how you model the process of dealing with the frustration and not the frustration itself.  Be truthful about the behavior scaring you if in fact it did and begin teaching them the feelings that go with different behaviors without making the behaviors threatening.  Normalizing the behavior through the process of coming  to understand it begins to defuse the level of fear attached to it and its power, opening the door to future mediation skills in moments they may face anger.

Turn these moments into teachable experiences and explore it and not feed the fear.