Tag Archives: Behaviour

Just changed face book page title

Sharing the techniques and integration of methods that have been a focus of study together with the areas of life that have been a passionate focus, while learning business sensibility,  has been an ongoing exploration and practice since 2004.  Combing this with this facebook page that has evolved since 2010 when it began as a passionate cry for personal and environmental change during the impact of the Gulf of Mexico Oil Rig Fire and ongoing Spill.

It still holds this seed and now has evolved into an agent for a  larger and subtle form of change that can only come from a personal shift of conscious behavior. To mirror the Oil Spill and how the world responded, when we seek change something meaningful has to happen to motivate us to focus our attention and make the change.

This face book page, Waking 2 Heart with Renee Lindstrom, will support planting seeds for change where it really does shift the world consciousness – inside!  A page for sharing news, ideas, videos, workshops, retreats, etc., focused upon integrating change by developing our somatic skills for learning and experiencing our body’s, relationships and our environment.  A primary principle for these learning techniques is on how we focus of attention!   Like this facebook page to follow @ https://www.facebook.com/wakingtoheart



The significant…

The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them. Albert Einstien

“Relationships are not the cars, houses and house keeping”

Imagine facial expressions of anticipation and a long  moment of silence following this comment at our couples gathering.  The reason we had gathered was  to learn more on how to deepen our affectionate and intimate relationships.  I suggested that  these things represent our personal and joint material (physical) wants and needs.

So what is a *relationship?  This is going to be our exploration  over the next six weeks.  Everyone left curious and willing to do their home work for our next Friday night together.

 Can you sit down with your partner and discuss what is meaningful and important to you in your relationship without making it about them?

  • Example of what not to say if you want intimate connection:  I want you to be more……., I want you to do………

Can you then hear them share back what is meaningful and important to them in your relationship together without making it about you?  

  • Example of what not to say if you want more affection:  You want me to be more……..,  You say I am being………….

Can you both sit with these points, even the differences, and hold them equally as important?

  • Example of what not to say if you want to experience the same bedroom intimacy into real life time or keep experiencing bedroom intimacy!   Trust me if it is not in real life time that will be lost over time too!  What you want is more important than what I want……….., What I want is greater than what you want……

If this is a new concept and your curious, connect.  Ask about this gathering opportunity, upcoming possibilities or  private coaching.


Wikipedia Definition of Intimate Relationships:


An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy. Physical intimacy is characterized by romantic or passionate attachment or sexual activity. The term intimate relationship is also sometimes used euphemistically for a sexual relationship.

Intimate relationships play a central role in the overall human experience.  Humans have a general desire to belong and to love which is usually satisfied within an intimate relationship.  Intimate relationships involve physical and sexual attraction between people, liking and loving, romantic feelings, and sexual relationships, as well as the seeking of one or more mates and emotional and personal support for the members.  Intimate relationships provide a social network for people that provide strong emotional attachments, and fulfill our universal need of belonging and the need to be cared for.


by:  Renee Lindstrom – getting InTouch – Relationship Wellness Series

Feelings from fiction?

In a recent  workshop I made up a story of a  situation between my son and myself.  As I went through the dialogue steps, I found myself having the same feelings as though it was a real event!

A great example and demonstration that feelings can be stimulated through false information and stories we tell ourselves!


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About Parenting Approach with Compassion and Empathy ~ Nonviolence Literacy Series


Imagine a child’s world

That includes redirection and reassurance while being recognized versus, (you fill in the blanks)

  • You are,
  • Your doing,
  • You must,
  • Do!,
  • Go!,
  • Say your sorry!,

For example, Identify and acknowledge what is going on for them.  It takes as much time as it does to get angry and use force to get your own need met.  Hearing them takes less energy for all of you.  It does not mean you have to let them do what it is they are doing.  In fact you are teaching them to understand the feelings they are having.  They cannot teach this to themselves.   Such as,

“When you get angry about coming with us  I bet you are wanting to stay home and play and not come to another event with your brother and I.  Is that what’s going on for you?”

Now imagine the way you would habitually handle this type of situation.  You may not even be aware that they are meeting their own needs by their behavior and you may perceive this as resistance and label them as being __________.  Their resistance is a strategy for them to meet their needs in the only way they know how, which you may be taking personally and making it about them not listening to you.  If so, consider how your reaction impacts them.  How would your child process your reaction in a way that they stayed connected to their own value?  What might they be feeling and who would they go to for comfort?

Now consider the reasons you may have reacted that way?  Could it be the way you learned to behave based upon your experience or that you haven’t had any training on how to deal with multiple needs in the multiple relationships of your unique family?

Who do you go to to discuss your experiences of their reactions, their father perhaps?  Who do they go to to discuss your reactions?  Your behavior in their eyes may be exactly what they consider their behavior to be –  reactive.  How can their behavior be wrong and yours right?

For more info on Upcoming Parenting Workshops with Renee Lindstrom