Sharing the techniques and integration of methods that have been a focus of study together with the areas of life that have been a passionate focus, while learning business sensibility, has been an ongoing exploration and practice since 2004. Combing this with this facebook page that has evolved since 2010 when it began as a passionate cry for personal and environmental change during the impact of the Gulf of Mexico Oil Rig Fire and ongoing Spill.
It still holds this seed and now has evolved into an agent for a larger and subtle form of change that can only come from a personal shift of conscious behavior. To mirror the Oil Spill and how the world responded, when we seek change something meaningful has to happen to motivate us to focus our attention and make the change.
This face book page, Waking 2 Heart with Renee Lindstrom, will support planting seeds for change where it really does shift the world consciousness – inside! A page for sharing news, ideas, videos, workshops, retreats, etc., focused upon integrating change by developing our somatic skills for learning and experiencing our body’s, relationships and our environment. A primary principle for these learning techniques is on how we focus of attention! Like this facebook page to follow @ https://www.facebook.com/wakingtoheart
The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them. Albert Einstien
In a recent workshop I made up a story of a situation between my son and myself. As I went through the dialogue steps, I found myself having the same feelings as though it was a real event!
A great example and demonstration that feelings can be stimulated through false information and stories we tell ourselves!
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That includes redirection and reassurance while being recognized versus, (you fill in the blanks)
- You are,
- Your doing,
- You must,
- Say your sorry!,
For example, Identify and acknowledge what is going on for them. It takes as much time as it does to get angry and use force to get your own need met. Hearing them takes less energy for all of you. It does not mean you have to let them do what it is they are doing. In fact you are teaching them to understand the feelings they are having. They cannot teach this to themselves. Such as,
“When you get angry about coming with us I bet you are wanting to stay home and play and not come to another event with your brother and I. Is that what’s going on for you?”
Now imagine the way you would habitually handle this type of situation. You may not even be aware that they are meeting their own needs by their behavior and you may perceive this as resistance and label them as being __________. Their resistance is a strategy for them to meet their needs in the only way they know how, which you may be taking personally and making it about them not listening to you. If so, consider how your reaction impacts them. How would your child process your reaction in a way that they stayed connected to their own value? What might they be feeling and who would they go to for comfort?
Now consider the reasons you may have reacted that way? Could it be the way you learned to behave based upon your experience or that you haven’t had any training on how to deal with multiple needs in the multiple relationships of your unique family?
Who do you go to to discuss your experiences of their reactions, their father perhaps? Who do they go to to discuss your reactions? Your behavior in their eyes may be exactly what they consider their behavior to be – reactive. How can their behavior be wrong and yours right?
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