Tag Archives: Reactions

Triggered? Let’s call it what it is!

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Flight, Fright or Fight

Two powerful teachable moments yesterday in two separate workshops:

Movement:
  • shoulders response to flight, fright or fight
Communication:
  • hesitating to speak honestly on speculation of the other persons fear reaction and pointing out what is actually stopping one from being honest is their own fear?
Read more on flight, fight, freeze

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
 Authored  Achieving your Goals  31 Day Program, Sleep Sweet Sleep, Kid’s Peace Bus Calendar of Values  Educational Program & InTouch with Your Values Self-Actualization Program.Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children’s Summit on Peace & Nature in 2015

Overcoming sexual blocks through Somatic Movement!

 

couple-814825_960_720As my practice matures, there seems to be more ease for clients & students to open to their  sexual shame and deep-rooted beliefs that have been implanted by themselves and others that no longer serve them.

In movement my experience is that  sexual shame or issues are expressed through the automatic blocking of a movement. In other words, one’s brain has been trained to not allow certain movements. As the Feldenkrais Method is gentle and conscious, (not outer worldly or orientated around dogma), logic is available to begin to notice the connection of the mind stopping a movement.   When one notices a blocked pattern of movement and experiences that they are able to move easily through it, they can increase their ability to move in a certain way!   This is the point in ones Feldenkrais journey that I generally find honest and value-based communication to make a huge contribution.   If there is an urge to talk, the dialogue is limited to what the feelings and needs are now in the moment.  If there is no talking at it or story telling the experience can move into feelings of acceptance and forgiveness.  

With no stories high jacking the present moment experience away to the past, there is increased  inner safety achieved. In that second of observing whatever it was blocking the mind, something new replaces it.  Some of the feedback over days and weeks – amazing!  The movement and language for me is the deepest empathy experience on the planet.

I have witnessed movement difficulties for women have not only been difficult sexual experiences with others but that they have themselves compromised their sexual integrity by submitting to sex when they didn’t want to but felt they had to.

In men I have witnessed judgement, self comparisons and low self-esteem.  As women, we have an urge to share our history with our partners which includes our sexual prowess, however, it diminishes their sense of being good enough!

In love and empathy singles/couple coaching, mentoring and classes I am pleasantly surprised at the level of sexual honesty that is emerging. It is powerful and liberating to talk about sex as a need. As important as water and air! My joy is to introduce it using Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs.  I notice a difference  in the participants as in the introduction of basic levels of survival sex and the higher attainment levels.  When one is meeting greater needs,  there is more conscious awareness and heightened sexual life achievement!  It introduces conscious options and choices.  

  1.  Basic Sex – Disconnected to self and others (less ethics & integrity)
  2.  Heighten Achievement – Connected to self and partner (increased integrity & ethics)

In personal living spaces the focus of the occupants is telling through what is expressed in their surroundings.  If there balance between couples (and children) as well as their interests, sexual gratification will also be a struggle of balance between the two.

In all three approaches there is a focus on creating a power with relationship through inner reflection of out-ward actions..

  • Movement Action –  brain, body, emotional & mindful awareness
  • Mindful Action – awareness of  thoughts, emotions & responses
  • Environment – stimulus for generating responses & reactions

Explore unique ways of slowing down to check in and notice where your focus of attention is.  
This mindfulness of inner alignment can enhance your life experiences.
Techniques:  Intentional Actions with Goal Setting, InTouch Relationships & Communication, Awareness Through Movement with Feldenkrais® Method
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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 201

 

Mental and Emotional Responses to Fear & Anxiety

As a Life Transitions/Relationship Coach and Feldenkrais Practitioner opportunities have been available to explore the long-term physical, mental and emotional effects of long-term fear and anxiety. Here are some of the mental & emotional  characteristics that have presented themselves in cases:

Flight & Fight

  • analytical
  • solution orientated versus integrative
  • self absorbed on self image
  • self judging of own self-image
  • judgement of others self-image
  • resistant to change
  • highly reactive to external stimulus
  • reactive
  • quick to justify thoughts, opinions before hearing and reflecting to consider new information
  • confidence based upon comparisons to others (short lasting)
  • cannot compliment self or others
  • prone to jealousy
  • lack of self-empathy
  • lack of empathy for others
  • takes incoming perspectives, opinions and beliefs personally
  • doesn’t include others perspectives, opinions, dreams in making personal decisions and choices
  • cannot understand why others aren’t in agreement with their hopes and dreams
  • quick to blame

Read more  …… Physical Attributes of Chronic Fear & Anxiety – What is your habitual body reaction?

FREEZE

  • sensitive
  • slow to act
  • quiet
  • works hard
  • withdrawn
  • quiet
  • alone
  • take time before making decisions
  • empathy for others, less for self
  • put others first
  • takes things personally
  • sad, hurt, resentful
  • depressed
  • lack of self value

Read more  …… Physical Attributes of Chronic Fear & Anxiety – What is your habitual body reaction?

The intent of this article is in the context of how  communication and movement can support the decrease of anxiety, stress & fear. Values & Empathy integration in communication for transforming disconnection into connection and movement for calming one’s nervous system.

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Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication,  Empathy,  Values Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder

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Crocodile Tears

crocodile tears 1How do you keep your balance and  respond to crocodile tears without being to yin or too yang?

Crocodile tears:   A person who feigns deep sorrow in order to impress others or gain their sympathy is thus said to cry crocodile tears.

Feelings from fiction?

In a recent  workshop I made up a story of a  situation between my son and myself.  As I went through the dialogue steps, I found myself having the same feelings as though it was a real event!

A great example and demonstration that feelings can be stimulated through false information and stories we tell ourselves!

Did you know “Fear” can be stimulated by triggers learned over a lifetime of experiences?

  • Did you also know that fear can be un-learned?
  • Did you also know that physical triggers (habitual movements) can stimulate your fear without you being conscious of it?  Things that you wouldn’t normally be afraid of become stimulus to frighten you.
  • Have you considered that mental triggers (personal thinking process)  can also stimulate your fear reactions without your being conscious of it?
  • Fear can be a reaction from past experiences being projected into your expectations of the future!
Rather than seeking  quick fix and ignoring the root source find out more about how you can learn to replace fear with self-support and learn skills to be present more of the time.  
Contact Renee today if you would like to explore natural ways to improve the quality of your own personal way of reacting and experiencing behaviors for improving relationships, sleeping, pain levels, reducing stress and more.
Contact information – renee@insideawareness.com or 250-361-7508

Article – “How exercise fuels the brain”

An article I recommend reading – “How exercise fuels the brain”