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Triggered? Let’s call it what it is!


Flight, Fright or Fight

Two powerful teachable moments yesterday in two separate workshops:

  • shoulders response to flight, fright or fight
  • hesitating to speak honestly on speculation of the other persons fear reaction and pointing out what is actually stopping one from being honest is their own fear?
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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
 Authored  Achieving your Goals  31 Day Program, Sleep Sweet Sleep, Kid’s Peace Bus Calendar of Values  Educational Program & InTouch with Your Values Self-Actualization Program.Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children’s Summit on Peace & Nature in 2015


Green relationshipsAn attitude of green is the commitment to practice listening to what is meaningful inside and the willingness to hear others before drawing conclusions. Green isn’t one side trumps the other..   Green is inclusive, it isn’t exclusive.  It holds everyone and everything equally.   Our values are not in conflict, our solutions are in conflict.

Green meets humanities needs. It is a space within that connects us to the value of life and the willingness for balance in giving back so everyone and everything thrive’s.  It is a natural cycle of giving and receiving that turns as the turning of night and day.  Imagine the moon and sun falling out of balance with one becoming dominate and one lesser than.

It requires tolerance and balanced lifestyles to increase mindfulness and patience to make better choices and find ways to resolve differences.  Some ways to consider achieving effective day to day balance and enrich life for those times that seem helpless follow:

Setting intentions for next year!

Three points for success with setting your goals and keeping them:

  • include a balanced view of all your life areas while setting your goals:  heath, wealth, fame, love, creative, future, community, career, personal development, ecology
  • connect to the roots of your desire for a meaningful incentive to stick to them
  • create an environment for success
How many times have you set goals on December 31st only to fail in the first week of January?  This year plan for success now!    Explore programs & workshops 

Balance between

mind (solving puzzles) &

mindfulness (spaciousness)

Maze Labyrinth Hearts

A maze is a puzzle and can be confusing. It reflects challenge and requires mind solving focus versus mindfulness! Have you considered how mindfulness supports and balances mind solving skills? Too much challenge can create limited focus and panic. A pathway that leads to mindfulness creates open space for increased brain power for meeting and navigating challenges!

Communication & Movement for Mindful Awareness for Adults

4 Personal Commitments for effective ‘Green Communication’

1.  Self Reflection:

  • identifying felt sensory awareness (sensing, feeling, emotions)  while noticing thoughts, opinions, believes and interpretations and letting them go

 2.  Speaking honestly:

  • about how you are affected and not what you think

 3.  Willingness to set aside differences:

  • hearing how others are affected  (conflict is at the level of  belief, thoughts, opinions and personal interpretations)

4.  Identifying and connecting to values before solutions:

  • After first three steps, then and only then,  develop solutions based on every-ones input and ideas.

  The Practice of Empathy Nature

Empathy Nature

will develop a state of mindfulness and increases conscious awareness
increase communication efficiency
reduce life draining experiences and increase productivity

What are your values

Explore a simple and insightful practice for integrating a personal culture of  values.  Using a traditional style circle of communication that nurtures mutual support, setting goals safely and respectfully.  Build skills for social change. NEW FOR 2015 Personal Calender & Agenda –  Integrating Values Daily!  Talk and Walk Values to get your needs met more easily!

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The 4 Commitments of Green Movement

The goal in this style of movement is spontaneity.  This is achieved through these four commitments.

1.  Commitment to Stop and Check in

Commitment to slow down and stop

2.  Transition from thinking to sensing

Mindful focus on  your inner sensations from the inside out

3.  Exploring with curiosity

Curiously explore your movement actions and reactions

4.  Practice to integrate

This movement is a system that increases inner wisdom of all aspects of self.  It is not a first aid nor a philosophical path.  It is reuniting of whole movement interrupted through the generalized and institutionalized educational system.

Movement Options:



  •  Labyrinth’s  – pathway in to heart center connection and back out


Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication,  Empathy,  Values Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children’s Summit on Peace & Nature in 2015


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an amazing, spontaneous, kinesthetic moment of connection – being together with the divine in each of us

A powerful facet of listening/speaking is to develop
the skill of going into resonance with someone else’s feelings,
in an empathic manner. Meaning, ‘staying with’ the other person to be able to reflect back what they are saying, even if it is their own words repeated. The goal is to experience the feeling that rises between you when they truly feel heard. That is an amazing, spontaneous, kinesthetic moment of connection – being together with the divine in each of us.  read more

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Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000
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Clear communication seems as elusive as the pot of gold

Speaking/listening, or a lack of it, has caused many of us a considerable amount of trouble. Clear communication seems as elusive as the pot of gold, perhaps because we were not educated in the topic as a child. As the new ‘children of light’, begin to find themselves in positions of power, it could actually be put on the top of the school curriculum, but for now…we’re on our own ……………read more 

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by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000
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“The spoken word”

Balance - Spoken WordRecently when describing how contemplation can be an outcome when using a precise formula of spoken words,  a colleague mentioned a verse in the bible as follows:

John 1:1

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.

  • King James Bible “Authorized Version”, Cambridge Edition

What a wonderful insight and comparison!

The quote I have connected to in the past as describing this experience comes from Rumi:

“Out beyond right doing and wrong doing there is a field.  I will meet you there.”

Here are a few more lines in this chapter that continue to describe an experience of connection that may happen between two people speaking with honesty and listening with empathy.

2 The same was in the beginning with God.

3 All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made.

4 In him was life; and the life was the light of men.

5 And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not.

©by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP, May, 2014
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000

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How to Communicate Like a Pro by “Nido Qubein”

Here are six techniques you can use to help you say things simply but persuasively, and even forcefully:

(1) Get your thinking straight. The most common source of confusing messages is muddled thinking. We have an idea we haven’t thought through. Or we have so much we want to say that we can’t possibly say it. Or we have an opinion that is so strong we can’t keep it in. As a result, we are ill prepared when we speak, and we confuse everyone. The first rule of plain talk, then, is to think before you say anything. Organize your thoughts.

(2) Say what you mean. Say exactly what you mean.

(3) Get to the point. Effective communicators don’t beat around the bush. If you want someone to buy something, ask for the order. If you want someone to do something, say exactly what you want done.

(4) Be concise. Don’t waste words. Confusion grows in direct proportion to the number of words used. Speak plainly and briefly, using the shortest, most familiar words.

(5) Be real. Each of us has a personality—a blending of traits, thought patterns and mannerisms—which can aid us in communicating clearly. For maximum clarity, be natural, and let the real you come through. You’ll be more convincing and much more comfortable.

(6) Speak in images. The cliche‚ that “a picture is worth a thousand words” isn’t exactly true (try explaining the Internal Revenue code using nothing but pictures). But words that help people visualize concepts can be tremendous aids in communicating a message. Once Ronald Reagan’s Strategic Defense Initiative became known as Star Wars, its opponents had a powerful weapon against it. The name gave it the image of a far-out, futuristic dream beyond the reach of current technology. Reagan was never able to come up with a more powerful positive image.

Your one-on-one communication will acquire real power if you learn to send messages that are simple, clear, and assertive; if you learn to monitor the hearer to determine that your message was accurately received; and if you learn to obtain the desired response by approaching people with due regard for their behavioral styles.

Your finesse as a communicator will grow as you learn to identify and overcome the obstacles to communication. Practice the six techniques I just mentioned, and you’ll find your effectiveness as a message- sender growing steadily.

But sending messages is only half the process of communicating. To be a truly accomplished communicator, you must also cultivate the art of listening.

If you’re approaching a railroad crossing around a blind curve, you can send a message with your car horn. But that’s not the most important part of your communication task. The communication that counts takes place when you stop, look and listen.

We’re all familiar with the warning on the signs at railroad crossings: Stop, Look and Listen. It’s also a useful admonition for communication.

It’s easy to think of communication as a process of sending messages. But sending is only half the process. Receiving is the other half. So at the appropriate time, we have to stop sending and prepare to receive.

A sign on the wall of Lyndon Johnson’s Senate office put it in a down-to- earth way: “When you’re talking, you ain’t learning.”

Listening Pays:

Salespeople have learned that you can talk your way out of a sale, but you can listen your way into one. They listen to their customers to find out what their needs are, and then concentrate on filling those needs. Skilled negotiators know that no progress can be made until they have heard and understood what the other side wants.

Listening Requires Thought and Care

Listening, like speaking and writing, requires thought and care. If you don’t concentrate on listening, you won’t learn much, and you won’t remember much of what you learn.

Some experts claim that professionals earn between 40% and 80% of their pay by listening. Yet, most of us retain only 25% of what we hear. If you can increase your retention and your comprehension, you can increase your effectiveness in the 21st century’s Age of Information.

Listen with Your Eyes

If you listen only with your ears, you’re missing out on much of the message. Good listeners keep their eyes open while listening.

Look for feelings. The face is an eloquent communication medium. Learn to read its messages. While the speaker is delivering a verbal message, the face can be saying, “I’m serious,” “Just kidding,” “It pains me to be telling you this,” or “This gives me great pleasure.”

Some Non-Verbal Signals to Watch For:

Rubbing one eye. When you hear “I guess you’re right,” and the speaker is rubbing one eye, guess again. Rubbing one eye often is a signal that the speaker is having trouble inwardly accepting something.

Tapping feet. When a statement is accompanied by foot- tapping, it usually indicates a lack of confidence in what is being said. Rubbing fingers. When you see the thumb and forefinger rubbing together, it often means that the speaker is holding something back.

Staring and blinking. If you’ve made your best offer and the other person stares at the ceiling and blinks rapidly, your offer is under consideration.

Crooked smiles. Most genuine smiles are symmetrical. And most facial expressions are fleeting. If a smile is noticeably crooked, you’re probably looking at a fake smile.

Eyes that avoid contact. Poor eye contact can be a sign of low self-esteem, but it can also indicate that the speaker is not being truthful.

It would be unwise to make a decision based solely on these visible signals. But they can give you valuable tips on the kind of questions to ask and the kind of answers to be alert for.

Good Listeners Make Things Easy

People who are poor listeners will find few who are willing to come to them with useful information. Good listeners make it easy on those to whom they want to listen. They make it clear that they’re interested in what the other person has to say.

‘Moshe’ on habitual mind through movement – sensing perception

I can restructure your mind and all your habits; of thinking, talking – restructure for your sake, not for mine – not that I will teach you that it is right or wrong but to do something to help you to feel more yourself and actually give you the kind of person that you have always dreamt to be.  Moshe Feldenkrais