Tag Archives: Relationships

“Living your confidence balanced with empathy” in relationships and redefining ego

It takes courage to be heart-centered, confident and self-assured.  It also takes courage to live from this point of independence.

Experiencing any beauty in your relationships begins with your behavioral  patterns and how much inner-confidence and independence you feel balanced together with your ability for being self-assuring.

You may seek change by changing the way you look through diet, clothes, fitness  and re-designing your surroundings.  Do these last when you are affected by your relationships!  What is the first thing you reach for when you have a disagreement or are bored?  

What would your personal goal success rate be by starting with inner change support, so what you show on the outside is coming from the inside?

Inside Awareness Methods focus upon seven steps for personal success.  They are integrated into Renee’s coaching and teaching experiences.  Whether you are looking for transformation in your relationships or increasing your  movement abilities,  following these simple steps change how you experience yourself.

SEVEN STEPS TO SUCCESS

  1. Commitment
  2. Intention
  3. Grounding
  4. Practice
  5. Integration
  6. Learning
  7. Conscious Habitual Patterns
If your “search” for change has deepened into a “longing” for change it is time to take grounded and supportive action to make it happen.  Find out more about each one of the these steps by joining Renee at one of her events or by making a direct inquiry.  Email her at renee(at)insideawareness(dot)com or call her at (two, five, zero) three-six-one-seven-five-zero-eight.  

 

Behavior is a result of how you react to your environment

Three doorways into exploring  behavior awareness and change with Renee at Inside for increasing your confidence and improving your relationships are:

  • your own body posture and movement patterns
  • your relationships
  • influences of your surroundings

If you are ready for change in your relationships Renee recommends a program of seven steps to increase your rate of success.

For more information or inquires email renee(at)insideawareness(dot)com.

“Relationships are not the cars, houses and house keeping”

Imagine facial expressions of anticipation and a long  moment of silence following this comment at our couples gathering.  The reason we had gathered was  to learn more on how to deepen our affectionate and intimate relationships.  I suggested that  these things represent our personal and joint material (physical) wants and needs.

So what is a *relationship?  This is going to be our exploration  over the next six weeks.  Everyone left curious and willing to do their home work for our next Friday night together.

 Can you sit down with your partner and discuss what is meaningful and important to you in your relationship without making it about them?

  • Example of what not to say if you want intimate connection:  I want you to be more……., I want you to do………

Can you then hear them share back what is meaningful and important to them in your relationship together without making it about you?  

  • Example of what not to say if you want more affection:  You want me to be more……..,  You say I am being………….

Can you both sit with these points, even the differences, and hold them equally as important?

  • Example of what not to say if you want to experience the same bedroom intimacy into real life time or keep experiencing bedroom intimacy!   Trust me if it is not in real life time that will be lost over time too!  What you want is more important than what I want……….., What I want is greater than what you want……

If this is a new concept and your curious, connect.  Ask about this gathering opportunity, upcoming possibilities or  private coaching.

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Wikipedia Definition of Intimate Relationships:

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An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy. Physical intimacy is characterized by romantic or passionate attachment or sexual activity. The term intimate relationship is also sometimes used euphemistically for a sexual relationship.

Intimate relationships play a central role in the overall human experience.  Humans have a general desire to belong and to love which is usually satisfied within an intimate relationship.  Intimate relationships involve physical and sexual attraction between people, liking and loving, romantic feelings, and sexual relationships, as well as the seeking of one or more mates and emotional and personal support for the members.  Intimate relationships provide a social network for people that provide strong emotional attachments, and fulfill our universal need of belonging and the need to be cared for.

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by:  Renee Lindstrom – getting InTouch – Relationship Wellness Series

Valentine’s Day Has Been Cancelled – This Is Not a Test!

Poem by Aya de Leon


I think it was your eyes
they caught mine
as I was thinking about how full lips kiss so sweet
this is the type of man I been trying to meet
& later that night when you

we interrupt this love poem
to bring you an important announcement
valentine’s day has been cancelled
this is not a test
Love is in a state of emergency
people are desperate for real love, not
I’m lost without you
nothing can come between us
hit me baby one more time
I’ll never breathe again
predatory ego manufactured love

we repeat
valentine’s day has been cancelled
this is not a test
despite incredible losses in revenue
cards, chocolates, champagne, teddy bears, jewelry
& other random objects that people buy each other
to prop up sagging & dysfunctional relationships
will not be for sale this year
you know who you are
& it’s time to let what was never alive die.

valentine’s day has been cancelled
this is not a test.
do not try to adjust your TV set or radio
in fact, turn that static off.
For the next 24 hours, there will be
no love songs
no heat you up songs
no slow jams
no late nite request & dedication call-in shows
no romantic TV programs or movies

just 24 hours of silence for you to contemplate
what is real love?
without ABC, CBS, WB, Fox, Tristar, KBLX, KMEL, KISS,
Harlequin romances, playboy, penthouse, hustler, players
and other media outlets to tell you
what you want
how you want it
what position you want it in
how tall, thick, soft, hard, stacked, hung, and/or wet
you want it to be.

valentine’s day has been cancelled
this is not a test
your boyfriend’s number will be busy
your girlfriend will not be waiting by the phone
your wife and/or husband has made other plans
all singles bars, strip clubs, tele-personals lines,
romantic getaway destinations, hot tub places, and make out spots
have been shut down for the duration
All dating and adult entertainment websites have crashed
until further notice
there will be no looking for love in all the wrong places
because all the wrong places are closed tonight

citizens are encouraged to stay indoors and remember
to love their friends
and if you don’t have loveable friends, make some
to love your family
and if your family is too screwed up
find some loving folks to be your new family
to love God
and if God has failed you,
find a new God
or a new conception of God
But most of all, love yourselves
and if,
sitting at home in the silence,
you notice that you don’t love yourself,
then fasten your seat belt and get ready to work on that
cause what you need is not gonna be found
in a box of candy / dozen roses / tall dark handsome / 36-24-36

when February 14th rolls around and
you wish somebody was loving you
or wish you were somebody else
or you wish the person loving you was somebody else

Yes, for your own good
valentine’s day has been cancelled
this is not a test
and now we return you to the poem already in progress

& when we stepped into the bedroom,
I could feel drums pounding in my womb
& as we stripped
you made me feel like my soul was chocolate dipped
then you opened your mouth and tasted me
oh yes baby, set me free
so I’m offering up this heart of mine
lover, won’t you be my–
this is not a test.

Giving

A value-based empathetic language of compassion is one this is focused upon giving and grounded in mutually receiving back.  Giving is a spontaneous and natural response in communicating when a language structure is used that allows us to connect with ourselves and with others.

VIRTUAL – LONGING TO BE A BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF IN RELATIONSHIPS

Sundays, January 13 – March 17,  2013 ~ 10:30 am to noon

Join Renee for a 10 Week Virtual Series designed as a  personal challenge for exploring how to become a better version of yourself in relationships.  Move beyond the pain and loneliness of disconnection.  Enjoy extraordinary connections and learn skills to stop experiencing guilt, resentment, obligation or trying to prove yourself.

COURSE OUTLINE:

Part one ~ Getting Started:
  • Welcome and Introductions
  • Relationships  – Types of Connecting
  • Types of Perception (Past, Present, Future)
  • Feelings and Emotional  Literacy
  • Taking responsibility for feelings
  • Culture of Needs

Part two

  • Enriching life and your relationships
  • Expressing honestly
  • Listening with Empathy
  • Self – Empathy
  • Empathy for Others

Part three

  • Empathy, Relationships and Behaviour
  • Staying connected in Conflict
  • Putting it together
  • Moving forward
  • Appreciation & Celebration
Includes course outline and reminders emailed in advance of course dates, practice suggestions for  in between classes and an on-line forum for discussion among participants and putting in questions for upcoming week.

10 Week Series – $200.00

REGISTRATION HERE 

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http://www.insideawareness.com

The Buddha on ‘Oberservation’

“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not
belie ve in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”  
                                                                                                                       Buddha