A strong human value/need is to have choice and the power to make a decision between two or more possibilities. A value-based empathetic language of compassion is one that acknowledges choice in dialogue. It translates the mundane “have to” consciousness into one of recognition that this too is a choice and translates it into using different phrases that create open-ended choices.
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Choice
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The value of choice is one of human’s greatest needs
Life Area: Autonomy
It is this need that could be the source of all moralistic judgments and passive and aggressive violence. If there is no choice, the options are to fight or give in. Imagine a moment what feelings arise for you when you consider not having a choice. Do you sense a fight, flight or fright moment? Learning self-empathy steps and those for empathetic listening of others will shift those in the conversation into an experience of choice.
Practice your empathy skills this week.
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Understanding Ego mind through getting in touch with your own thinking and speaking
Our last workshop in a series of six and the individual workshops have evolved into a deeper focus of practice and understanding empathy. The areas that came up for exploring included self-empathy, empathy in relationships and group empathy. The purpose was to support group members to recognize their own stories inside their mind that did not allow them to be present with what was actually happening in their relationship. How we have done this it by developing skills for learning to recognize and identify their thoughts and behavior as a result of their thinking.
The last exercise involved having a volunteer demonstrate a process while sharing a personal life event and transforming what they had been telling themselves about it into a connection that included the rest of body functions, outside of the frontal lobe of their brain!
At the beginning of the practice this participant shared their resistance at connecting to another person in their life. In the process ego dropped away as the mind stories became silent and what was real began to emerge. As the stories of their mind became less interesting , what was real was their new self-connection to what was being experienced in the moment. When the participant connected to what was real in them they expressed how they had a growing awareness of what was going on for the other person that went beyond their original resistance.
You couldn’t ask for more! The beauty that was visible in the participant and those in the group supporting this persons process was tangible through relaxed faces and the feelings of a group connection. Through the practice other participants began to recognizing their own stories and habits in experiencing how they supported the process. Did they become present to what they were hearing or did it stimulate their own stories or need to fix it by coming up with solutions. If so, all these participants witnessed how this breaks the emphatic connection and experienced the effects of disconnection of it becoming about them and their ego mind and no longer the person going through the exercise.
Beautiful! The participants having a practice of learning a language of connection demonstrated the ability to go beyond the disruption and carry the process back to the original speaker while holding empathy for the interrupter’s!
This brings up the question – Is empathy the absence (quieting) of ego?
For more information on these workshops with Renee Lindstrom go to relationships link
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Parenting with Empathy series notes:
New parenting series began yesterday p.m. in James Bay. In 2007 I organized 7 day live in retreat on the topic of getting intimate with living, speaking and sharing common values. Gregg Kendrick was one of the weeks 3 trainers and it was here he introduced me to the concept of being in the center of a relationship and balancing my personal needs to be more available to meet the other persons. This was a concept more advanced than the normal concept being introduced in 2007 of how to speak your values while hearing the other persons. This concept went into the unconscious structure of your position in the relationship!
This concept is one I have incorporated into having parents reflect the structure of their own family dynamics. As I suspected, a concept unfamiliar yet at evenings end the feedback was that of recognizing the benefits.
This will be a great workshop series as the parents have children from 3 to 28! This will meet my needs for learning, not unlike an awareness through movement lesson designed by Moshe Feldenkrais. His focus was on the person as an individual – no prescriptions of one fits all! This workshop is going to demand that each family be seen individually! This will be an interactive and reflective workshop, I can tell.
Still time to join if you feel inspired to check in and find out if the structure of your family dynamics is meeting yours, your partners and your children’s needs mutually. Catching up at the second part of the series isn’t too difficult and I will be there 20 minutes before next week to catch up some of those that came late last night and missed first part. Don’t hesitate to join and come early to find out what you missed! Click link for more info!
Parenting with Empathy series notes:
New parenting series began yesterday p.m. in James Bay. In 2007 I organized 7 day live in retreat on the topic of getting intimate with living, speaking and sharing common values. Gregg Kendrick was one of the weeks 3 trainers and it was here he introduced me to the concept of being in the center of a relationship and balancing my personal needs to be more available to meet the other persons. This was a concept more advanced than the normal concept being introduced in 2007 of how to speak your values while hearing the other persons. This concept went into the unconscious structure of your position in the relationship!
This concept is one I have incorporated into having parents reflect the structure of their own family dynamics. As I suspected, a concept unfamiliar yet at evenings end the feedback was that of recognizing the benefits.
This will be a great workshop series as the parents have children from 3 to 28! This will meet my needs for learning, not unlike an awareness through movement lesson designed by Moshe Feldenkrais. His focus was on the person as an individual – no prescriptions of one fits all! This workshop is going to demand that each family be seen individually! This will be an interactive and reflective workshop, I can tell.
Still time to join if you feel inspired to check in and find out if the structure of your family dynamics is meeting yours, your partners and your children’s needs mutually. Catching up at the second part of the series isn’t too difficult and I will be there 20 minutes before next week to catch up some of those that came late last night and missed first part. Don’t hesitate to join and come early to find out what you missed! Click link for more info!
Inside Awareness Center for Integrative Somatic Learning 