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Intimacy ~ Art of Listening and the responsibility of the speaker

Listening changes when the space is created to feel supported by everyone in the group while, at the same time, hearing “new information on how to listen” and having the courage to participate in the guided practice suggestions without worrying about right and wrong ways of speaking.                                     Renee Lindstrom

There is joy in working with individuals committed to improving the intimacy in their relationships.  It is not the traditional sharing circle of going on and on about our stories and talking about it!  The learning comes through the experience of sharing in a precise pattern of speaking and listening to increase the potential of spontaneous vulnerability and freedom of speech.  There are no rituals, feathers, labels, conditions or talk therapy!

Our  learning time together become a unified experience of a series of planned practices designed to learn through the experience itself.  In the  closing  feedback  I hear unique and individual comments of learning that is coming from their own source of creative expression.  The tools have laid out a pattern for exploring deeper within and the awareness that is expressed is simple, intimate and beautiful.  It is easy for the ears of others to really take it in!  

The members of the group  now have a new memory experience to notice the differences of their interactions with their partner through the week until we met again.  Mission accomplished and we didn’t have to go on 3, 7 or 9 day  retreat, be healed or fixed, or hand ourselves over to any higher power or focus upon our conditions.   A set of intimacy tools that can be taught easily and be yours by your willingness to experience it.  

To find out more about how to experience personal clarity and power in your world – inquire by email – renee(at)insideawareness(dot)com.

“Relationships are not the cars, houses and house keeping”

Imagine facial expressions of anticipation and a long  moment of silence following this comment at our couples gathering.  The reason we had gathered was  to learn more on how to deepen our affectionate and intimate relationships.  I suggested that  these things represent our personal and joint material (physical) wants and needs.

So what is a *relationship?  This is going to be our exploration  over the next six weeks.  Everyone left curious and willing to do their home work for our next Friday night together.

 Can you sit down with your partner and discuss what is meaningful and important to you in your relationship without making it about them?

  • Example of what not to say if you want intimate connection:  I want you to be more……., I want you to do………

Can you then hear them share back what is meaningful and important to them in your relationship together without making it about you?  

  • Example of what not to say if you want more affection:  You want me to be more……..,  You say I am being………….

Can you both sit with these points, even the differences, and hold them equally as important?

  • Example of what not to say if you want to experience the same bedroom intimacy into real life time or keep experiencing bedroom intimacy!   Trust me if it is not in real life time that will be lost over time too!  What you want is more important than what I want……….., What I want is greater than what you want……

If this is a new concept and your curious, connect.  Ask about this gathering opportunity, upcoming possibilities or  private coaching.

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Wikipedia Definition of Intimate Relationships:

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An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy. Physical intimacy is characterized by romantic or passionate attachment or sexual activity. The term intimate relationship is also sometimes used euphemistically for a sexual relationship.

Intimate relationships play a central role in the overall human experience.  Humans have a general desire to belong and to love which is usually satisfied within an intimate relationship.  Intimate relationships involve physical and sexual attraction between people, liking and loving, romantic feelings, and sexual relationships, as well as the seeking of one or more mates and emotional and personal support for the members.  Intimate relationships provide a social network for people that provide strong emotional attachments, and fulfill our universal need of belonging and the need to be cared for.

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by:  Renee Lindstrom – getting InTouch – Relationship Wellness Series

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Parenting with Empathy series notes:

New parenting series began yesterday p.m. in James Bay. In 2007 I organized 7 day live in retreat on the topic of getting intimate with living, speaking and sharing common values. Gregg Kendrick was one of the weeks 3 trainers and it was here he introduced me to the concept of being in the center of a relationship and balancing my personal needs to be more available to meet the other persons.  This was a concept more advanced than the normal concept being introduced  in 2007 of how to speak your values while hearing the other persons.   This concept went into the unconscious structure of your position in the relationship!

This concept is one I have incorporated into having parents reflect the structure of their own family dynamics.  As I suspected, a concept unfamiliar yet at evenings end the feedback was that of recognizing the benefits.

This will be a great workshop series as the parents have children from 3 to 28! This will meet my needs for learning, not unlike an awareness through movement lesson designed by Moshe Feldenkrais.  His focus was on the person as an individual – no prescriptions of one fits all!  This workshop is going to demand that each family be seen individually! This will be an interactive and reflective workshop, I can tell.

Still time to join if you feel inspired to check in and find out if the structure of your family dynamics is meeting yours, your partners and your children’s needs mutually. Catching up at the second part of the series isn’t too difficult and I will be there 20 minutes before next week to catch up some of those that came late last night and missed first part.  Don’t hesitate to join and come early to find out what you missed!  Click link for more info!

Parenting with Empathy series notes:

New parenting series began yesterday p.m. in James Bay. In 2007 I organized 7 day live in retreat on the topic of getting intimate with living, speaking and sharing common values. Gregg Kendrick was one of the weeks 3 trainers and it was here he introduced me to the concept of being in the center of a relationship and balancing my personal needs to be more available to meet the other persons.  This was a concept more advanced than the normal concept being introduced  in 2007 of how to speak your values while hearing the other persons.   This concept went into the unconscious structure of your position in the relationship!

This concept is one I have incorporated into having parents reflect the structure of their own family dynamics.  As I suspected, a concept unfamiliar yet at evenings end the feedback was that of recognizing the benefits.

This will be a great workshop series as the parents have children from 3 to 28! This will meet my needs for learning, not unlike an awareness through movement lesson designed by Moshe Feldenkrais.  His focus was on the person as an individual – no prescriptions of one fits all!  This workshop is going to demand that each family be seen individually! This will be an interactive and reflective workshop, I can tell.

Still time to join if you feel inspired to check in and find out if the structure of your family dynamics is meeting yours, your partners and your children’s needs mutually. Catching up at the second part of the series isn’t too difficult and I will be there 20 minutes before next week to catch up some of those that came late last night and missed first part.  Don’t hesitate to join and come early to find out what you missed!  Click link for more info!

InTouch “Needs” Awareness ~ for Sept 02 – 08, ’12

Dialogue

“Language is an exact reflection of the character and growth of its speakers.”

M.K. Gandhi

‘value based needs awareness campaign’ 

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getting InTouch Needs Awareness WEEKLY VALUE FOCUS BEGINS NEXT WEEK!