Imagine facial expressions of anticipation and a long moment of silence following this comment at our couples gathering. The reason we had gathered was to learn more on how to deepen our affectionate and intimate relationships. I suggested that these things represent our personal and joint material (physical) wants and needs.
So what is a *relationship? This is going to be our exploration over the next six weeks. Everyone left curious and willing to do their home work for our next Friday night together.
Can you sit down with your partner and discuss what is meaningful and important to you in your relationship without making it about them?
- Example of what not to say if you want intimate connection: I want you to be more……., I want you to do………
Can you then hear them share back what is meaningful and important to them in your relationship together without making it about you?
- Example of what not to say if you want more affection: You want me to be more…….., You say I am being………….
Can you both sit with these points, even the differences, and hold them equally as important?
- Example of what not to say if you want to experience the same bedroom intimacy into real life time or keep experiencing bedroom intimacy! Trust me if it is not in real life time that will be lost over time too! What you want is more important than what I want……….., What I want is greater than what you want……
If this is a new concept and your curious, connect. Ask about this gathering opportunity, upcoming possibilities or private coaching.
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Wikipedia Definition of Intimate Relationships:
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An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy. Physical intimacy is characterized by romantic or passionate attachment or sexual activity. The term intimate relationship is also sometimes used euphemistically for a sexual relationship.
Intimate relationships play a central role in the overall human experience. Humans have a general desire to belong and to love which is usually satisfied within an intimate relationship. Intimate relationships involve physical and sexual attraction between people, liking and loving, romantic feelings, and sexual relationships, as well as the seeking of one or more mates and emotional and personal support for the members. Intimate relationships provide a social network for people that provide strong emotional attachments, and fulfill our universal need of belonging and the need to be cared for.
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by: Renee Lindstrom – getting InTouch – Relationship Wellness Series
Inside Awareness Center for Integrative Somatic Learning 