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Language of Environment & Landscape

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About Renee Lindstrom ‘s intention for living in the garden of life

I, like many, wasn’t borne into a thriving, balanced and attuned family landscape.  The illusive patterns that sowed the illusive culture of my lifestyle weren’t heart-centered.  Instead they were based upon fear, anger, unhappiness, discontent and jealousy.

Thinking

This led to years of seeking out meaning, understanding, and a life purpose that didn’t include the harming elements of my earlier family life.  This also led to supporting others along the way.

Through this exploration I have  made the connection to one’s  thinking and their results.  I have observed how the ways of ‘thinking’ create one life’s garden.

We are prisoners to our thinking

To put it another way,  I have seen and experienced examples of how we think becomes what we experience and  create in our lifestyle.  A lifestyle that can be calm and wonderful, or chaotic.  Thinking seems to be responsible for how we actively respond mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.  Being unconscious to it makes us prisoners to it.

I have also discovered the process of thinking is separate from mental functions.  How do I know this?  As a babe we aren’t born with a pattern of thinking, yet as a babe we had the mental ability to integrate cultured patterns of thinking.

Usually ones focus isn’t on the brain’s functional abilities and its relationship to how experiences are processed.

I have witnessed and heard stories of  life times  lived through reactive behaviours originating from thoughts.  Thoughts based upon one’s thinking process that are not real or the truth of what is happening in the moment.  One example of a case study in years past is the reaction of running from situations,  literally by driving across the continent!  As the reaction would begin to calm I would be contacted only to discover the flight was from an initial triggering thought that wasn’t connected to any real actions of checking in to the source of it.  The flight was an expensive reactive behaviour mentally, emotionally, physically, financially and spiritually.

Exploring this life path I have discovered that even though I was born long after the honeymoon was over in my families experience, I thrive in beauty and the attributes of loving kindness, and have a high propensity for empathy.  My family and I simply weren’t a match.  In retrospect, the pain and suffering became the incentive to find ways to align with my true nature.  Along the way I have found clarity and understanding, and come away with some ways to live in the beauty that the garden of life can be.

A system of understanding to have clarity & for understanding

that is balancing

Sharing these ways with others while continuing my own practices has become an open system of learning.  This system goes out beyond the closed thinking patterns of making evaluations and moral judgments, and beliefs of  right and wrong thinking.  Each of the methods I integrated had their challenges in the learning stages due to the depth of ego that is experienced in our culture.  Ego is imbedded into behaviour yet it’s another elusive quality that people experience without being consciously aware of it and unable to identify and name it.

To borrow an evaluative experience from Buddhism, each method I dug deeply into is founded upon the concept of becoming enlightened.  However the challenges of  the teachers and participants wanting to be seen, heard and valued caused hurdles to overcome and created events of pain and suffering for all immersed in the educative experiences.    Taking the time to integrate these methods as a foundation for living myself has taken time and evolved over the years.  The system I am interested in contributing follows the Buddhist concept of eliminating incorrect use of ego.  We all have ego, however, I focus upon ego usage that pays attention to power with, not more over/under.  Why?  I want to live in the beauty that inspires and motivates.  The heightened stimulus I hope to experience comes from passion.  Passion for life, living and creating.

Mentoring others to switch on their innate ability to learn 

Somes ways of contributing to others as they commit to engaging in life to align more with their true nature are with individual programs or mentoring  integratable life components.   Life area programs and components focus in these areas of one’s experiences:

  • surroundings
  • inner sense of oneself (confidence, self-esteem, empowerment)
  • life purpose
  • cultivating awareness to identify and name intention
  • functional movement that cultivates awareness that holds the connection to the interplay of body movement, reactive behaviour, thinking and emotions
  • functioning relationships that cultivates awareness the holds the connection to the interplay of what’s real in the moment, what one thinks, and how one responds
  • value-based programs to support inner discernment to transform  moral judgments into value based judgments

Finding your intention and creating a target for meeting the goals of who you long to be with these programs 

The learning modules here at Inside Awareness can be specific to life areas whether you are:

  • looking for your life purpose
  • seeking to improve your relationships to all life
  • wanting to enhance your physical abilities
  • introduce a sense of sacredness in your environment

Each module are concrete actions steps that bring one into the shift they long for.

Each module has a foundation in practical steps and have applications that are logical yet bring focus to the elusive.

Renee focuses upon switching back on one’s inherent ability to learn where the experience becomes the teacher and the student becomes the sage.

The intention is to increases creativity and expressiveness in living.by Renee Lindstrom

Awareness Through Living Mentoring Programs Available:

 1st Level – Getting Started (Introduction & Pattern)
 2nd Level – Getting Intouch (Experiencing & Connection)
 3rd Level – Integration (Embodiment)

 

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by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP @ Inside Awareness,  Living in Natures Love Blog
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Sage responses for when the pain of break up is increased by thinking over past events

Being the one who is broken up with can be the most challenging and chaotic as the minds condition has no choice but to go into what it has been trained to do.  Such as:

  • Blaming & Shaming
  • Right & Wrong Thinking
  • Make moral judgments
  • and more…..

I have been there myself.  I have experienced the open darkness of pain where it feels like there is a tear in the fabric of my reality.  When I sought out support and empathy whether it was professional or in my personal friend group I wasn’t thrown the kind of lifeline for  my grief and regret that steered me through the depth of emotions.  Rather it added to the chaotic thinking emotions and increased the effort to sort out.  Recently in the midst of supporting someone else’s break up I had a moment where  I considered how much I would have benefited to have someone  support me with this type of feedback, while recognizing this will have to be repeated until the chaos of the mind training settles and one can enter more permanently into the experience of sadness and forgiveness that is the letting go process.


When I listen to  you I am taken into your story of regret and grief. I hear that you are replaying events in your mind thru the lens of pain you’re feeling now stimulated by this break up. Replaying events is part of the grieving process, however I encourage you to be aware that the need in the moment you made those choices then is far different than the one now. The present need is based on this current event and it cannot go back and preside over past events.

The current event is stimulating your pain body and your memories are surfacing. Putting attachment to them by going into assessing and criticizing yourself is feeding the pain your feeling. These thoughts are false realities. The truth is that in this moment you’re a feeling deep sorrow and pain as you experience this loss.


by Renee Lindstrom

Awareness Through Communication

 1st Level – Getting Started (Introduction & Pattern)
 2nd Level – Getting Intouch (Experiencing & Connection)
 3rd Level – Integration (Embodiment)

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Copyright 2007 – 2020 Renee Lindstrom, GCFP

I was reminded of how sympathy can influence not being seen or heard

For me it is an experience of one merging their pain with an others.

Going into sympathy reflects merging old pain together with an others circumstances.

Let me explain.

In a circle with Dr. Marshall Rosenberg in 2004, he began demonstrating a deepened empathy pattern and I found myself curious about how some of us in the circle were independently holding the space and others where crying in sorrow.  I asked an advanced trainer who had worked with Dr. Rosenberg for many years about the differences in experience.  I was told that those who were not sobbing  didn’t have a similar pain as the person who was receiving empathy.  Those who were  had that same abuse in their lifetime that stimulated old pain.   Fortunately this intensive was to transition from moral judgments and right and wrong thinking.  This explanation was shared with clarity and as a matter of fact.  What I learned was that those identifying with the pain had an opportunity to heal themselves in witnessing the resolution in the person who was receiving empathy from Dr. Rosenberg.  The key was to feel their pain rise up and let their thoughts rest.  The skill was to resist  going into their own story that would hijack the circumstances away from the speaker.  I call this the ultimate witnessing ability.  (This is when you can stop yourself from hijacking someones story away from them and making it about you.)

Empathy practice, the NVC way, is to fully hear what someone is saying without interpreting it back through your past experiences and personal perspectives.  The only way someone is going to feel seen and heard is if you are able to listen to their words while being attentive to what you are hearing.  The following ways of habitually listening are not empathetic, instead they challenge the speaker.

  • Comparisons – telling your perspective or someone elses
  • Being an authority
  • Moral Judgments – no right and wrong, not speaking to what’s wrong with someone
  • Assessments
  • Diagnosis
  • Labeling
  • Criticizing
  • Coming up with solutions
  • Asking questions – your job is to listen, not understand

Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, Author or Nonviolent Communication
NVC – Nonviolent Communication

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Awareness Through Communication

 1st Level – Getting Started (Introduction & Pattern)
 2nd Level – Getting Intouch (Experiencing & Connection)
 3rd Level – Integration (Embodiment)

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by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP @ Inside Awareness,  Living in Natures Love Blog Renee Lindstrom Live
Copyright 2007 – 2020 Renee Lindstrom, GCFP

Desk Wealth Corner

by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP @ Inside Awareness

This desk corner is about abundance. Abundance in finances, investments, and resources.  For me it also represents abundance in the quality of experiencing life and relationships that includes the cycle of giving and receiving.  An example is the balance of giving and taking.    If wealth is from natural resources the question to consider is in the equal contribution back to restore and maintain balance and the quality of  nature and the environment.  In other words, is only taking and not  giving back?

3 Wealth Corner Tips:

  1. Declutter and open up space in this corner
  2. Add blue, purple, and red colours
  3. Add objects reflecting moving water such as fish (3), picture,  or fountain

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16 Reasons why to explore Body, Mind & Heart Connection @ Inside Awareness?

INTEGRATION, LEARNING & DEVELOPMENT

  1. Experience a deeper connection to self.
  2. Improve your posture! Walk, sit, stand, sleep, breathe, think and feel better.
  3. Understand the influences of your environment; external and internal!
  4. Increase self-value and  deepen inner trust and know you are doing what is right for you.
  5. Connect to your boundaries and learn how to voice them in a safe way without conflict!
  6. Stop compromising, learn how to have  choice.
  7. Increase your understanding of your self-image and how it is holding your back from success!
  8. Stop feeling alone & lonely?
  9. Turn abusive relationships into empowering experiences!
  10. Stop doubting yourself when it comes to decision-making.
  11. Learn how to transition from taking things personally by developing skills to translate difficult messages.
  12. Move through fear to build relationships and find love.
  13. Understand how to resolve differences.
  14. Improve your odds of finding partnerships where you are  valued.
  15. End your relationships with more ease, respect and  move forward with less attachment!
  16. Become aware of the culture you are creating in your parenting style (or of your parents and their’s before them).

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Taking a risk in ‘relationships’

by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP

Last night I encouraged a couple to take a risk and be honest with each other and to listen to the message in what each is saying  while trying not to be defensive.  This morning I came across this  great piece, author unknown.

To laugh is to risk appearing foolish.

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.

To reach out for another is to risk involvement.

To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.

To hope is to risk despair.

To try is to risk failure.

To live is to risk dying.

Yet risks are often taken,

because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.

The person who risk nothing

may avoid suffering and sorrow,

Yet he reduces his chances to learn, feel, change, grow, love or live.

Chained by his opinions,

He forfeits the opportunity to contribute

to the growth of the whole.

To risk is our gift and our choice. 


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