Category Archives: Awareness through Communication

The need to shift theory observations to clear observations in physicality

One fact that we can all agree upon is that our physicality was our first experience on the planet.  We were not born with a developed belief system or  the ability to theorize based upon short-term and long-term memory association.

As a movement specialist using the learning style of the Feldenkrais Method of Somatic Education I have found the largest obstacles I am challenged with are people’s tendencies to react, process and respond using only their short-term and long-term memory associations, and learned thought (thinking) process.  Many go into long stories of self-diagnosis, comparisons, identifying and naming associations to what they have already learned and memorized.  This limits the current experience and eliminates the potential for any increased insight.Feldenkrais

My job as a practitioner is to distract this habitual behaviour of theory based observations by creating opportunities for cultivating awareness of exact inner observation experiences in the moment.  This translates to what is being sensed (felt, smelt, tasted, heard and seen) in the exact moment of experiencing it.

This is the uniqueness of the inherent learning we were born with.  I often share with students that if we couldn’t sense our shifting weight in our physicality as a baby we would never have gotten up off the floor, never rolled over, sat, walked or run.  Arrested development!

The learning style we came into this world with is an intelligent way of exploring and increasing our capacity that  does not have a limited focus.  It includes a balance of physical, cultural, perceptive, emotions, mental and soul/spiritual functions.

In my last post I wrote about an actual observation using vocabulary versus a theory observation.  What we say in outer and inner conversation has a direct link to our movement ability.  What we say in outer and inner conversation creates false feelings that are not happening in the current moment.  Rather they are created by memories and perpetuated by the retelling.  This influences our emotions that has a direct link to our movement abilities.

Creating an empathetic experience through connection to thinking, words we tell ourselves, feelings and movement

The challenge can be creating an environment where the student can become curious and explore movement in a way that creates effective change in their movement behaviour versus their learned desires for finding solutions and ways to be fixed.

  • Can your mind go to your posture and movement and not have your first thought be on yoga, the gym, or how much exercise you get?  
  • Can you focus your minds attention to your movement and not think about conditions or limitations?
  • Can you focus your minds attention to your available movement and not compare yourself to who you were in the past, others or go to where you long to be?  

One of the greatest gifts is listening to what is exactly in the current moment using one’s senses.  Your senses aren’t constrained by rules, dogma, perspectives, beliefs and self-image.  This style of listening moves past stuck ways of thinking into a fresh blank page of nothingness with an openness to exploring in an attitude of curiosity.  Like that of when you were a babe beginning your movement journey.   Guided into your own moves versus the demands of being told how, what, where.

In my  practice I combine the understanding of an empathetic environment and lifestyle,  empathetic speaking and listening with a movement style that is empathic. I also include this same understanding of each in my communication and life-style coaching and environment consultants. 

spider-4471795_960_720Over the years the benefits of weaving these together through my different session offerings has become obvious in witnessing the lasting shifts that have taken place.

 

 

 


About Renee Lindstrom, GCFP

One important aspect of her practice is improving physical function.  She has experienced how unresloved needs can restrict movement causing one to have less flexibility. The ability to refine and translate dialogue can help settle emotional fears, pain and anger, or improve one’s needs to be seen, heard and valued in relationships.

by Renee Lindstrom

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Dropping irrelevant words to improve focus on event being shared

I have found that our education has focused upon proper rules of grammar versus focusing upon how each person has a different perception of incoming information.  This translates  into writing, reading and speaking that leads to misunderstandings.

Five ways that humanity perceives information from their environment is through sight, sound, taste, smell and, touch.   The incoming information will then travel through the physical body processing the information before reaching thought.  A process so fast it’s unrecognizable.

You can recognize people’s dominant senses through their choice of words in speaking and writing.  For example:

  • Visual –    “I see……”
  • Sound –    “I hear…..’
  • Smell –      “It smells…..”
  • Taste –      “It tastes……”
  • Touch –     “I feel……”

Translation & simplicity are needed in the ways that these interactions are used

I will use an example of my own predominant sense and its usage.  This is,   “I feel……”  I use this statement in a way that isn’t understandable to anyone outside myself.  Others will be triggered by it,  unknowingly,  before taking in the information I am trying to convey. Here’s  how I may use touch to describe an experience that may be familiar to you where you would accept it as being normal, however may be having inner thoughts that relate to a growing irritability or annoyance.  You may even shut out what I am say I am trying to say.

  • Touch – I feel like I have gone one step forward and one step backward.

As a matter of fact I did want to use these words in the following post to describe the experience I was referring to.  Had I used it, it would have added confusion and extraneous words to describe it.  In the post the words chosen describe exactly what happened without my preferred interpretation.  The event was shared in a way that more people could take in the information and understand the point of what was being shared.  That is my intention – to easily be understood and for a connection to  what I am writing.

At yesterday’s installation of a fiber optic wireless router the technician gave me the option to go back to a hard line for my laptop versus wavelength. In addition,  I was told I could install an app that would turn the wireless off when others left for the day making the house wave free from my own router. I am thrilled for these choices!

What I began to write prior to editing was,  I felt like I had one foot in the future and one foot in the past after a new router was installed yesterday.

Breaking that last sentence down

If you look through the sentence for feeling words there are none.  If you analysis the statement you will note there isn’t any information pertaining to a felt sense.  One foot in the past and one foot in the future is an evaluative experience which precludes any felt sensations.

  • What is your predominant receptor?  
  • How does translate into your dialogues?
  • Does being received by others in the way you intend matter enough to you to slow down and consider how you share?


About Renee Lindstrom, GCFP

One  part of her practice is to refine and translate dialogue so that one can settle their emotional fears, pain and anger, or improve their needs to be seen, heard and valued in relationships.  This is important in improving physical function too.  Unresloved needs can restrict movement causing one to have less flexibility.

by Renee Lindstrom

Awareness Through Living Mentoring Programs Available:

 1st Level – Getting Started (Introduction & Pattern)
 2nd Level – Getting Intouch (Experiencing & Connection)
 3rd Level – Integration (Embodiment)

 

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by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP @ Inside Awareness,  Living in Natures Love Blog
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Copyright 2014 – 2020 Renee Lindstrom, GCFP

Sage responses for when the pain of break up is increased by thinking over past events

Being the one who is broken up with can be the most challenging and chaotic as the minds condition has no choice but to go into what it has been trained to do.  Such as:

  • Blaming & Shaming
  • Right & Wrong Thinking
  • Make moral judgments
  • and more…..

I have been there myself.  I have experienced the open darkness of pain where it feels like there is a tear in the fabric of my reality.  When I sought out support and empathy whether it was professional or in my personal friend group I wasn’t thrown the kind of lifeline for  my grief and regret that steered me through the depth of emotions.  Rather it added to the chaotic thinking emotions and increased the effort to sort out.  Recently in the midst of supporting someone else’s break up I had a moment where  I considered how much I would have benefited to have someone  support me with this type of feedback, while recognizing this will have to be repeated until the chaos of the mind training settles and one can enter more permanently into the experience of sadness and forgiveness that is the letting go process.


When I listen to  you I am taken into your story of regret and grief. I hear that you are replaying events in your mind thru the lens of pain you’re feeling now stimulated by this break up. Replaying events is part of the grieving process, however I encourage you to be aware that the need in the moment you made those choices then is far different than the one now. The present need is based on this current event and it cannot go back and preside over past events.

The current event is stimulating your pain body and your memories are surfacing. Putting attachment to them by going into assessing and criticizing yourself is feeding the pain your feeling. These thoughts are false realities. The truth is that in this moment you’re a feeling deep sorrow and pain as you experience this loss.


by Renee Lindstrom

Awareness Through Communication

 1st Level – Getting Started (Introduction & Pattern)
 2nd Level – Getting Intouch (Experiencing & Connection)
 3rd Level – Integration (Embodiment)

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Copyright 2007 – 2020 Renee Lindstrom, GCFP

I was reminded of how sympathy can influence not being seen or heard

For me it is an experience of one merging their pain with an others.

Going into sympathy reflects merging old pain together with an others circumstances.

Let me explain.

In a circle with Dr. Marshall Rosenberg in 2004, he began demonstrating a deepened empathy pattern and I found myself curious about how some of us in the circle were independently holding the space and others where crying in sorrow.  I asked an advanced trainer who had worked with Dr. Rosenberg for many years about the differences in experience.  I was told that those who were not sobbing  didn’t have a similar pain as the person who was receiving empathy.  Those who were  had that same abuse in their lifetime that stimulated old pain.   Fortunately this intensive was to transition from moral judgments and right and wrong thinking.  This explanation was shared with clarity and as a matter of fact.  What I learned was that those identifying with the pain had an opportunity to heal themselves in witnessing the resolution in the person who was receiving empathy from Dr. Rosenberg.  The key was to feel their pain rise up and let their thoughts rest.  The skill was to resist  going into their own story that would hijack the circumstances away from the speaker.  I call this the ultimate witnessing ability.  (This is when you can stop yourself from hijacking someones story away from them and making it about you.)

Empathy practice, the NVC way, is to fully hear what someone is saying without interpreting it back through your past experiences and personal perspectives.  The only way someone is going to feel seen and heard is if you are able to listen to their words while being attentive to what you are hearing.  The following ways of habitually listening are not empathetic, instead they challenge the speaker.

  • Comparisons – telling your perspective or someone elses
  • Being an authority
  • Moral Judgments – no right and wrong, not speaking to what’s wrong with someone
  • Assessments
  • Diagnosis
  • Labeling
  • Criticizing
  • Coming up with solutions
  • Asking questions – your job is to listen, not understand

Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, Author or Nonviolent Communication
NVC – Nonviolent Communication

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Out of balance emotions & behaviours of Leo sign

Leo the fire sign

Leo is ruled by the Sun and this fire sign influences action.  In balance it reflects qualities of love, expression, creativity, fun, playfulness.

The needs of this sign are love, self love,  attention and loving family, and  community.

How behaviours of out of balance Leo may manifest

Fear:  Being unlovable, lack of being trusted

Fear Response:  Seeking Attention

Common Leo out of balance emotional statements:

  • “You don’t trust me.”
  • “I don’t trust you.”
  • “You don’t pay enough attention to me.”
  • “You don’t want my attention.”

Sharing ways to consciously align with this sign in earlier posts focused upon daily goal settingfoods to support emotional balance and physical movement to support the areas governed by Leo.

Now focus is on ways to process Leo’s reactions when out of balance.

The predominate perceptual sense of this sign is “seeing (vision).”

The need is expression and fame.

3 additional ways to balance Leo emotions  

#1.  Empathy – Awareness through Listening

  • “I don’t trust you,” can start with deeper reflection first before making any statements.  The feelings could be of jealousy, feelings of hurt or fear and the obvious need is for trust.  
More on empathy – Self-empathizing, Empathize with others

#2.  Language of connection – Awareness through Communication

  • Turn separation into moments of connection:

“I am disappointed when I  hear you say,  Mom, I went to a party last night after I promised to go to a friends to study.  Ken, I have a need for trust. ”  

 More on learning to speak with intention

#3.  Balance and calm Leo’s environment

Awareness of Space

Leo needs a castle to entertain and with the dominate sense being vision it is important to have a clutter free, clean environment.  Leo would like large beautiful and artful homes, offices and furniture that make a statement.

More on Creating a space using intention

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Emotions & reactive behaviours of Gemini

This air signs has the gift of storytelling and loves clarity.  In balance Gemini qualities are excellent for communicating.  The needs in Gemini are for slowing down to learn, engage in a knowledgeable way and commit to choices.

How behaviours of out of balance Gemini may manifest

Fear:  Lack of Intelligence in self & others

Fear Response:  Nervousness

Common Gemini out of balance emotional statements:

  • “You don’t understand?”
  • “You’re not listening!”
  • “I am not stupid you know!”
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About Renee Lindstrom, GCFP

One important aspect of goal setting programs is cultivating awareness in a unique way to increase insight into behaviour and experience. Her intention is to support breaking free from inner restrictions blocking a happy life.

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How out of balance Taurus qualities can manifest physically & embodying change

Taurus  governs hearing, touch, smell and taste and the neck, voice and  throat.

When these parts are out of balance here are some physical ways it can manifest that become habitual. 

Developing an awareness of how to focus and enhance ones lifestyle can change the story of these conditions.  Cultivating this awareness to focus attention on whole function on the inside and expand it to go beyond ones perspective and beliefs to include physical, mental and emotional functions.

In the following figure the parts of  the human functional process are separated into visual bodies to make them easier to identify.

Currently understanding of human function seems to lack the knowledge of how each body of  function is inter-related.  This creates a gap of in ones ability to regulate and balance functions leading to system malfunctions.

For example, if someone is totally focused upon physicality with strong cultural beliefs of self-image, their personal mental and emotional health may suffer.  They may act out false self-esteem through aggression in relationships creating escalating conflict.

Since 2007 Renee has employed methods to support the creation of personal balance and inner harmony at home, work or at play.  They integrate the Bodies of Function whether the gateway session  is focused upon movement,  relationships, or environment.   This concept easily translates into individual coaching, mentoring, and  group learning events.

More in-depth learning about the Body of Functions is incorporated into the Intermediate Awareness through Communication teachings and deepened in Intensive Embodied Mentoring Programs

Guidance through simple change agent action steps can harness ones power of  learning to retrain mental, emotional and physical behaviours.

   The major benefit is taking one’s power back by cutting through the materialism  that gives it away.

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EXPERIENCE IS THE ALIVENESS OF  EXPRESSION & ACTIONS

AWARENESS OF LIFE IS THE NEW ZEN

Check out this interpretation of the structure of of living zen versus sitting zen

Grounding & Support

 #1.  Physical Environment 

  • environment influences
  • eating plan

Affect change through retraining using methods of Awareness through Space and Awareness through Eating.

Awareness through Space Coaching or Consulting can be as simple as adding  or subtracting influences to create mental & emotional harmony & balance or functional to support physicality
Calming decor accents for out of balance Taurus behaviours←

 

Awareness through Eating Coaching or Consulting can be as simple as receiving empathy, setting goals, creating an environment for success or accountability coaching.

 

Eating with the Stars

 

Taurus  Moon Influences for Daily Goal Setting

 


Creates life  (how life is lived & experienced)

#2.  Body Function

  • senses; sight, sound, touch, taste & smell and abilities to hear, see, feel, taste & smell
  • brain function
  • physical body & functioning –  voice, breathing, movement, responses, circulatory & glandular systems, digestive function,  reproductive &  elimination systems, etc.

Affect change through retraining using methods of Awareness through Movement

Awareness through Movement can be experienced through guided patterns of movement in classes or personal functional integration sessions.

 

Taurus Awareness through Movement introduction ←

 


Filters information, responds and captures experiences

#3.  Mental Function

  • short-term & long term memory
  • learned thoughts (one’s thoughts are personal and not what others believe)
  • learned thinking (how one thinks is a personal process and doesn’t translate to being another’s perspective)
  • learned communication (how one choose their words is personal and the words may not have the same impact for someone else)

Affect change through retraining using methods of Awareness through Communication & Effective Empathy

Awareness through Communication & Effective Empathy Listening  Consulting, Coaching, or Training can be explored privately or in groups.

 

Six ways to balance emotions & reactive behaviours of  Taurus
Taurus Moon Influences for Daily Goal Setting

 


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