Tag Archives: Personal Development

Behavior is the art “man” has forgotten!

Have I ever told you how much I enjoy myself!   I have the best position in the world!  I watch workshop members integrate information and see change in them in as little as two hours.

In two seemingly separate workshops yesterday the members heard me say,  “If you don’t use it you lose it!” Both workshops are designed around personal exploration with the intention to increase the use of participants brains in a novel way.  One through movement to increase balance and the other relationship behavior.  We know our relationships are based upon behavior , yet when you consider movement, it too is a learned behavior!

The workshop members are looking for change and to improve their life abilities in some way.  Those only looking for reassurance that they have the answers already move on quickly to the next novel workshop.  Those who stay, do so as they are tired of seeking answers from external sources and are wanting sincere change.  They are willing to go beyond thinking about it and finding easy answers.  They are willing to explore and deepen their understand through practical experience.  That’s when the magic happens and brains mapping increases.  I see a shift in facial expressions, body posture and tone.  This is when tiredness turns into engagement, fear turns into contentment, and lack of supporting oneself turns into personal power of supporting oneself.

I also enjoy the verbal feedback that comes from participants. One of our workshops from yesterday explored deepening patterns of listening.  A practice of a simple pattern of steps was introduced with an explanation of how it was similar to a pattern used in other parts of our culture to increase safety.  At the end of the night one participant shared they had just spent the past weekend in a loving kindness meditation.  While listening to their teacher they had moments of  joyful surprise when what they heard was similar  to what they had been learning and practicing through our workshops together.

The difference for me is that our workshops are based upon the practical application:   to act from conscious action in the moment you are living the experience.  It is not a practice of  faith, tradition or spirituality. It is not the dogma.  It is a series of steps to recognize and  change behavior.   I believe it may support the art of living one’s faith!  Perhaps it is the bridge  to bring that loving kindness into a moment of action.

I know for myself  that  I can meditate until the cows come home and still my relationships interactions outside of the mediation space remain the same.   The experience is not translating into real life action.  Yet I notice that when I have the courage to listen first and then speak authentically and honestly,  the same quality of experience rises up within as when I have been in long mediation!

Have I ever told you how much I enjoy this? When I imagine the Japanese Zen artist drawing from a state of mediation and holding the calligraphy pen to draw the circle of life or the dot of awakened state,  I draw a comparison.  I know the behavioral pattern awareness and integration process  I share to be the pen.  My opinion is that they are the tool to increase skill levels of  behavioral action in the moment of living it.

Behavior is the art “man” has forgotten!

Integrating the Value of Regret

Life Area:  Celebration

 Not acknowledging regret may lead to guilt, blame and shame emotions.  If these feelings are left to grow they may nurture resentment leading to depression.  This week take time to consider some things that you may have contributed to that you felt regret for afterwards. 

Write out a simple observation, notice your present sense feelings and name the current need.  Follow up with a request either to follow up with sharing your regret with the parties involved or to have a ritual to signify letting go of it. 

Integrating the value of Caring

Life Area:  Nurturing

 Compassionate, warm-hearted, loving, 

 tenderly concerned, helpful, affectionate
being kind, being sympathy and understanding
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Take time during your days this week to notice if this is what you receive in your relationships.  Be honest with yourself by recognizing if this is what you give others.

Feelings from fiction?

In a recent  workshop I made up a story of a  situation between my son and myself.  As I went through the dialogue steps, I found myself having the same feelings as though it was a real event!

A great example and demonstration that feelings can be stimulated through false information and stories we tell ourselves!

The Buddha on ‘Oberservation’

“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not
belie ve in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”  
                                                                                                                       Buddha

Inner Connecting

Researching information on Quiet Gardens for an upcoming post on  Walk-Victoria.com I have come a video on the perspective of Walking as a form of prayer.

I wish to share this video and express how Moshe Feldenkrais developed Awareness through Movement® lessons.  Moshe came from the perspective of a person being attentive to their inner sensual qualities, in the experience of an isolated movement, while expanding and increasing  their awareness to include how isolated movements can expand to other parts of the body functions.  It is my experience that in this perspective of attentiveness a person may automatically go into the same inner connections as expressed through this video.

For me then, setting up a Mindful Walking Practice in my neighborhood’s gardens or on a local Labyrinth would be a multiple skill that would support the growth of required attentiveness  in my Awareness through Movement® and Awareness in Thinking practices.  It was with this focus in mind that Walk-Victoria.com was created!  If in Victoria it is my wish that you use the free resources of Walk-Victoria.com to find interesting space in our community.  If in other communities of the world, I hope you will explore and find beauty in your walks!

Posted by Renee Lindstrom, November 4, 2012, Follow Renee on Facebook  & on Twitter

Is your learning style the same as your partners? your children? your bosses? Or are you aware that each of us has a different learning style?

Will you be surprised to read the learning styles follow our senses and abilities for reasoning and making sound?  Did you know that we will have one primary characteristic combined with varying percentages of  the others?  Each of us different.

How then do we communicate to connect if we our base learning style is feeling/touch and our partner is logic?  We would like to talk about our feelings and our partner would like to analyse them!  Connection?, possibly not!

  • Sight
  • Sound
  • Hearing
  • Feeling/Touch
  • Logic

I wonder then about taste!   Is it time  to begin considering this as a learning style?  It is an unconscious form of teaching in our culture today yet not recognized.

Add to this our own balance of social  and solitary preferences into our relationships with our partners, children and at work.  If you are doing a group project and not feeling comfortable in your group do you experience growing feelings that you don’t belong?  Could understanding that you prefer to work alone change your behavior and those around you?  What if you like to socialize and your partner doesn’t?  At the beginning of the relationship you may meet their needs for being alone thinking it is romantic and not simply a preference to meet their needs, not yours.  Without recognizing this, it could be the pattern in your future  together!  How long before you would become resentful?    I imagine it starts even before the heat of the romance come down a few temperatures!

Learning styles was included in this weeks (Oct 17) Parenting with Compassion workshop series and will be included in Introducing Language of Empathy, Think, Speak, Act Series starting October 20th.

Still time to register for both ~ @ James Bay Community Center – 250 – 389 – 1470