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Behavior is the art “man” has forgotten!

Have I ever told you how much I enjoy myself!   I have the best position in the world!  I watch workshop members integrate information and see change in them in as little as two hours.

In two seemingly separate workshops yesterday the members heard me say,  “If you don’t use it you lose it!” Both workshops are designed around personal exploration with the intention to increase the use of participants brains in a novel way.  One through movement to increase balance and the other relationship behavior.  We know our relationships are based upon behavior , yet when you consider movement, it too is a learned behavior!

The workshop members are looking for change and to improve their life abilities in some way.  Those only looking for reassurance that they have the answers already move on quickly to the next novel workshop.  Those who stay, do so as they are tired of seeking answers from external sources and are wanting sincere change.  They are willing to go beyond thinking about it and finding easy answers.  They are willing to explore and deepen their understand through practical experience.  That’s when the magic happens and brains mapping increases.  I see a shift in facial expressions, body posture and tone.  This is when tiredness turns into engagement, fear turns into contentment, and lack of supporting oneself turns into personal power of supporting oneself.

I also enjoy the verbal feedback that comes from participants. One of our workshops from yesterday explored deepening patterns of listening.  A practice of a simple pattern of steps was introduced with an explanation of how it was similar to a pattern used in other parts of our culture to increase safety.  At the end of the night one participant shared they had just spent the past weekend in a loving kindness meditation.  While listening to their teacher they had moments of  joyful surprise when what they heard was similar  to what they had been learning and practicing through our workshops together.

The difference for me is that our workshops are based upon the practical application:   to act from conscious action in the moment you are living the experience.  It is not a practice of  faith, tradition or spirituality. It is not the dogma.  It is a series of steps to recognize and  change behavior.   I believe it may support the art of living one’s faith!  Perhaps it is the bridge  to bring that loving kindness into a moment of action.

I know for myself  that  I can meditate until the cows come home and still my relationships interactions outside of the mediation space remain the same.   The experience is not translating into real life action.  Yet I notice that when I have the courage to listen first and then speak authentically and honestly,  the same quality of experience rises up within as when I have been in long mediation!

Have I ever told you how much I enjoy this? When I imagine the Japanese Zen artist drawing from a state of mediation and holding the calligraphy pen to draw the circle of life or the dot of awakened state,  I draw a comparison.  I know the behavioral pattern awareness and integration process  I share to be the pen.  My opinion is that they are the tool to increase skill levels of  behavioral action in the moment of living it.

Behavior is the art “man” has forgotten!

7 PROGRAM EVALUATIONS – AWAKING RELATIONSHIPS FOR COUPLES

Here are the results of seven evaluation forms filled out at the ending of a  Spring, 2013  4 workshop series on relationships for couples hosted by Renee Lindstrom, Inside Awareness – getting InTouch programs:

Program – 6/7 Exceeded expectations

Notes on Instructor:

  • Instructor was informative, gave excellent practical tips and tools!
  • I attended at first with a very vague idea of the philosophy.  I came away with a great explanation and much info to work with from this point on.
  • I learned a lot of useful skills and information.  It has dramatically improved our relationship.
  • It helped me instantly
  • There was a lot of information and understanding that came about over the 4 classes.

What do you like best about this centre?

2/7 This class! 5/7 didn’t fill out

Scale of 1 -5 (5-excellent) on the following qualities:

Organization                                                                      5, 3, 5, 4, 5, 5, 5

Enthusiasm                                                                        5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5

Personality and Professionalism                              5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5

Ability to convey their knowledge to you            5, 4, 5, 5, 5, 4, 5

Additional comments:

  • Instructor was able to provide structured information and still be flexible in adapting to the class.
  • Excellent Teaching

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2013 ~ Vancouver Island’s year of the Labyrinth

In September, 2013 Northern Vancouver Island will be hosting the First World Labyrinth Conference in Canada.

Labyrinths for Global Healing, Landscapes for the Soul”

The greater Victoria area will have participant from around the world arriving a few days before, September 17, 2013, who will pilgrimage up-island to experiences 50 assorted Labyrinths on the Island.

I look forward to supporting Greater Victoria in being a living presence in this meaningful event.  If you are wishing to be apart of creating something to our community bringing awareness to the qualities of wellness physically, emotionally and mentally I would welcome your connection.

This picture is a sand labyrinth drawn at Gonzales Beach in the summer of 2012.   Sand Labyrinth 008

 

For more information on how to draw a sand labyrinth.

Black & White, Right & Wrong

Are you someone who is experiencing your world experiences in black or white, right or wrong?

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Is so, are you curious and willing to explore and self – inquire based on the following pattern of self-questioning?

  • Are you aware that there is another experience available to you that isn’t  as clearly defined as you perceive it?
Take a moment and imagine how you would describe your body posture and the strength you are using to stand or sit up right.

Ask yourself what type of tree would you use to describe this experience?

If you could choose one of these trees which one would it be:

  • Pine
  • Cedar
  • Oak
Now imagine being a Willow Tree.

Can you transition into this experience with ease?  How does it feel in your body posture?  Does anything change, become softer or more flexible?

If you can easily imagine being a Willow Tree, now consider being Bamboo.

How does this concept come into you and through your experience?  Does it stop and become blocked at the thought of considering this vision or does it carry through to a deeper relaxation into your posture?

For those of you who enjoy experiencing through our physical senses try this exploration out.  Remember to have a curious mind.
  1. Now with a friend, peer or family member stand tall and strong with your feet firmly planted on the floor.   Hold  with resistance.  Have your helper push on you shoulder and feel the resistance and your strength push back.
  2. Let this go and become loose, soft and flexible with your feet still planted firmly on the floor and now in this expression have your helper push on your shoulder.  Feel the lack of resistance, resilience and how you still are able to hold your posture.
  3. Take a moment and reflect on how these two separate experiences through your physical strength, both are strong stances, and give yourself a moment to give feedback on how these two experiences where for you.  Which one is the one that you sense a higher quality of where you would like to be now?  Which one is your habitual reactive self? Which one would you be able to take an easy breath in or do you remember if you held your breathe or not?

Remember we only do what we know until a new experience and more information is available.  In each experience we are meeting our own needs.  It’s how we meet our needs that we could develop deeper awareness about to better fit who we long to be.  Are we meeting our needs through physical, dominate strength or are we meeting our needs through physical flexible strength?

Remember, whatever our bodies are doing, our thoughts will reflect this in our thinking and acting?  Information is perceived through our bodies and our mind translates it, therefore we act.  If our bodies are rigid, our thoughts will be black and white, right and wrong.

by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP, November 8, 2012                                             Follow Renee on Facebook  & on Twitter

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Embodiment of Scarcity ~ Awareness in Thinking

Definition of Scarcity: a small and inadequate amount, insufficiency of amount or supply; shortage

Nouns: shortage, lack, deficiency, poverty, want, insufficiency, infrequency, under-supply, rareness

Embodiment of Scarcity Consciousness:

  • Life is scarce with limited resources?
  • There isn’t enough to go around.
  • Can’t have what you want or others will be deprived.
  • Greediness and self-aggrandizement

Behavior of Scarcity Consciousness:

  • Moralistic judgements
  • Blame & Shame
  • Fear
  • Deny responsibility
  • Demands
  • Right and Wrong Thinking
  • Conflicts
  • Bullying

How do you embody the qualities of  Scarcity?

Motivation:   Reflect for a moment about whether you are aware that you can have a choice to have the pattern of thoughts that you think.  If  you are unaware that you have a choice, consider  the motivation for your current experiences.  Have you consciously made a decision to behave the way you do or do you do it automatically?

Success: How do you measure success?  Is it through having power over others to win so that there is always a winner and looser?  Consider a moment if you are enjoying your relationships with your partner, peers, employer, children.  Reflect on your self-value, confidence, respect, fear, stress and if your world is a safe place.

Integration:  If you do not understand your process of  what is creating your thoughts and your reactions you are behaving from an unconscious position.  A position that is a result  of  what you have experienced through your culture from others.

Your thought training has come from all the things that you have been told by your first family (mom, dad, siblings), extended family, teachers, friends, peers, and partners and now influenced by what you have viewed in movies, on T.V. and now internet.  This modeling has developed your brain’s self-image of who your are based on what you have been told about yourself from others!

Some tips for checking in follow:

  • Thinking ~ Do you think in terms of right and wrong?  Do you judge others for their appearance, station in life and how they behave?  Do your thoughts compare you to what you see others have and you don’t?
  • Behaviour ~ Do you speak in sentences of scarcity  consciousness? Do you say to others that you are right and they are wrong?  Do you get angry when you hear others share their opinion?  Do you interrupt others to tell your story?
  • Action Beyond Self Image ~ Do you understand the separation between how you feel about yourself ,  what you are thinking and what you actually say to others?  If you feel worthless, like a fraud and defective how you perceive your world will be through this self-image.  Can you separate your self-image from your actions?

Longing for a shift into another choice of experiencing that includes the brain development that you missed that is if your early training  is a result of staying fixed in the pattern of right and wrong?  For information on another experience of  abundance consciousness go to Embodiment of Abundance.  

If you are interested in how to become more articulate in creating a shift of consciousness, one that starts with how to speak it to create the brain shift,  Renee offers personal coaching, private and organized group lessons.  Imagine if your partner, peers, employers/ees spoke from a place of abundance mentality.  Once of the greatest values that would be demonstrated would be respect for others and self!

Post by Renee Lindstrom, for Inside Awareness for Healthy Living October 30th, 2012

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Embodiment of Abundance ~ Awareness in Thinking

Definition of Abundance: an extremely  plentiful over-sufficient quantity or supply, overflowing fullness, affluence; wealth.  Abundance is the noun of Abundant.

Embodiment of Abundance Consciousness:

  • Life is abundant
  • There is more than enough to go around.
  • I can have what I need and so can others.

Behavior of Abundance Consciousness:

  • Mutuality
  • Equal balance of giving and receiving,
  • Exclusivity of all regardless of age, rage, rank, male or female

How do you embody the qualities of Abundance?

Motivation:  Begin by considering your longing to live in a state of  abundance consciousness.  Connect to your original motivator to choose a shift towards abundant thinking.  What was the attraction?

Success:  If you have thought that by setting an intention for abundance with expectations of receiving it,  reflect on the success you have had of drawing abundance into your life and keeping it.

Integration:  Now consider how you have integrated the qualities of abundance into your experiences and relationships.  Has it been through ritual of writing out affirmations, gatherings for creating abundance visions or simply making statements to self and others.

We are hearing that we are what we think we are.  Simply replacing the story isn’t as easy as we would like it to be.  Thinking we are now going to be living a life of abundance doesn’t replace our earlier thoughts that we have learned since childhood, it simply adds more story.  It is the stories we have learned since childhood that we are habitually acting from.

The self reflection then becomes,  are you connecting and creating the same beauty in your relationships as what motivated you to set an intention to live as though life was abundant.  How are you and others  around you enjoying this world?

Some tips for checking in follow:

  • Thinking ~ Do your mind thoughts and their sentence structure  reflect abundance consciousness?
  • Behavior ~ Do you speak in sentences of abundance consciousness?
  • Action Beyond Self Image ~ Do you understand the relationship between thinking abundance and behaving abundance? (Behaving abundance in this sense it not    empathy of prayer, mediation and gathering together for a cause, it is about those praying, gathering and mediating and their ability to spontaneously  identify and shift their personal  judgement, blaming and demands in the moment while in every day one on one interactions.)

If you are interested in how to become more articulate in creating a shift of consciousness into an abundant one that starts with how to speak it to create the brain shift Renee offers personal coaching, private and organized group lessons.  Imagine if your partner, peers, employers/ees spoke from a place of abundance mentality.  Once of the greatest values that would be demonstrated would be respect for others and self!

Post by Renee Lindstrom, for Inside Awareness for Healthy Living October 30th, 2012

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