Integrating the emotional and physical behaviors into ones own image of self

In private sessions with clients there is less distraction and the benefit can be  deepened awareness of their  own behavior.  This includes clarity  of how reactions are dependent on both thinking and locked in movement patterns.    The two are locked into behavior!

Clients searching for a change in their relationships will enjoy the simple movement techniques I introduce to increase their focus.   Some will begin to alternate between talking and movement sessions.  Both these types of sessions are designed to increase the success in their progress and are compatible.

Clients who come for improving their movement and reducing pain will find themselves integrating their emotional reactions that are  keeping them in their pain and strain.

Both types of clients discover physical movement and emotional reactions are married together in their reactions.  They come to know  the  value in  learning their automatic  habits.  If someone is able to observe their habits then there will be change.

One example is  a  client who discovered one of the largest muscles in their body and that they had not been using them.  They didn’t even know at first how to engage it!    This client originally came to improve their relationship connections.  To relieve their tension and increase their breathing patterns  I introduced small movements  for them to experience.  Afterwards  our sessions began to alternate between the two types of sessions, movement awareness and talking awareness.

They discovered a large muscle that was dormant and not being used.  They realized the strain that this put on their whole body in the effort to move in any activity.  They also realized they did not even know  how to activate this muscle.  There was no connection to the brain signals.

Then came  the awareness of  tension being held in another set of muscles.  The control that went into holding these muscles stopped any ability to  engage these new ones!  The control of this other set of muscles was directly related to emotional behavior!  The balance then came from intellectually knowing one is safe and supported to begin to release control.

I love my work!  When clients can experience their journey through learning techniques their journey is more concise and clear.  There is beauty in waking up the parts that have no brain awareness!  When this client stopped using these big muscles the brain lost the memory of it.  Therefore there is a disconnection until they relearn they have these muscles and  how to use it.  If they are not aware that they have stopped using it,  how will they even know about it?

This is something that cannot be learned through outside sources and activities. It takes a control environment of focused somatic learning.  

When the education stops change begin! 

Who would enjoy and benefit from a movement workshop with a focus on balance and fear?

Finishing up the second event in a 6 week workshop series with a focus upon movement awareness for decreasing fear and increasing balance,  the participants themselves ask me, “Why haven’t we learned this before?” “Why hasn’t this been apart of our learning background?”  I can only mention that it must not be in our awareness yet!

After only two classes participants are beginning to know themselves in a way that has never crossed their minds before.  They have a greater awareness of their feet, legs, knees, pelvis, spine, ribs, arms, hands and head.  They notice that they are very connected to their shoulders, neck, head and arms and not so much to anything else!  They also have a growing recognition to how they may feel pressure in one foot and none in the other.  Therefore the struggle for balance.

These classes are unlike a focus fitness class designed specifically to build  muscle and or yoga for stretching.  Building muscle and stretching are a benefit of the classes.  The focus is upon understanding  the movement and focused awareness of the movement itself.  That is when change happens!

Anyone who has limited movement and breathing patterns would benefit from these classes.  Anyone who is in pain or has fear of their own movement would benefit.  Anyone afraid of falling and tensing up would benefit.  Find out more!  There are four classes left in this series that you can register for, pro-rated.  Call 250-370-7300 to sign up or mark your calendars for the fall.  A new class begins September 16th, 2013, more info at – link 

Behavior is the art “man” has forgotten!

Have I ever told you how much I enjoy myself!   I have the best position in the world!  I watch workshop members integrate information and see change in them in as little as two hours.

In two seemingly separate workshops yesterday the members heard me say,  “If you don’t use it you lose it!” Both workshops are designed around personal exploration with the intention to increase the use of participants brains in a novel way.  One through movement to increase balance and the other relationship behavior.  We know our relationships are based upon behavior , yet when you consider movement, it too is a learned behavior!

The workshop members are looking for change and to improve their life abilities in some way.  Those only looking for reassurance that they have the answers already move on quickly to the next novel workshop.  Those who stay, do so as they are tired of seeking answers from external sources and are wanting sincere change.  They are willing to go beyond thinking about it and finding easy answers.  They are willing to explore and deepen their understand through practical experience.  That’s when the magic happens and brains mapping increases.  I see a shift in facial expressions, body posture and tone.  This is when tiredness turns into engagement, fear turns into contentment, and lack of supporting oneself turns into personal power of supporting oneself.

I also enjoy the verbal feedback that comes from participants. One of our workshops from yesterday explored deepening patterns of listening.  A practice of a simple pattern of steps was introduced with an explanation of how it was similar to a pattern used in other parts of our culture to increase safety.  At the end of the night one participant shared they had just spent the past weekend in a loving kindness meditation.  While listening to their teacher they had moments of  joyful surprise when what they heard was similar  to what they had been learning and practicing through our workshops together.

The difference for me is that our workshops are based upon the practical application:   to act from conscious action in the moment you are living the experience.  It is not a practice of  faith, tradition or spirituality. It is not the dogma.  It is a series of steps to recognize and  change behavior.   I believe it may support the art of living one’s faith!  Perhaps it is the bridge  to bring that loving kindness into a moment of action.

I know for myself  that  I can meditate until the cows come home and still my relationships interactions outside of the mediation space remain the same.   The experience is not translating into real life action.  Yet I notice that when I have the courage to listen first and then speak authentically and honestly,  the same quality of experience rises up within as when I have been in long mediation!

Have I ever told you how much I enjoy this? When I imagine the Japanese Zen artist drawing from a state of mediation and holding the calligraphy pen to draw the circle of life or the dot of awakened state,  I draw a comparison.  I know the behavioral pattern awareness and integration process  I share to be the pen.  My opinion is that they are the tool to increase skill levels of  behavioral action in the moment of living it.

Behavior is the art “man” has forgotten!

7 PROGRAM EVALUATIONS – AWAKING RELATIONSHIPS FOR COUPLES

Here are the results of seven evaluation forms filled out at the ending of a  Spring, 2013  4 workshop series on relationships for couples hosted by Renee Lindstrom, Inside Awareness – getting InTouch programs:

Program – 6/7 Exceeded expectations

Notes on Instructor:

  • Instructor was informative, gave excellent practical tips and tools!
  • I attended at first with a very vague idea of the philosophy.  I came away with a great explanation and much info to work with from this point on.
  • I learned a lot of useful skills and information.  It has dramatically improved our relationship.
  • It helped me instantly
  • There was a lot of information and understanding that came about over the 4 classes.

What do you like best about this centre?

2/7 This class! 5/7 didn’t fill out

Scale of 1 -5 (5-excellent) on the following qualities:

Organization                                                                      5, 3, 5, 4, 5, 5, 5

Enthusiasm                                                                        5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5

Personality and Professionalism                              5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5

Ability to convey their knowledge to you            5, 4, 5, 5, 5, 4, 5

Additional comments:

  • Instructor was able to provide structured information and still be flexible in adapting to the class.
  • Excellent Teaching

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Integrating the value of Patience

Life Area:  Interdependence

 By practicing patience we can respond rather than react, and by doing so, stay centered and at peace.  Patience begins within one’s own mind by being at peace with mind stories.  This week make a practice of spending 5 minutes, twice a day to notice your thoughts without acting on them.  Commit to remaining silent and still while noticing how they travel through your mind or change when you don’t act upon them.  

:from getting InTouch 2013 Calendar by Inside Awareness for Healthy Lifestyles – Integrating Universal Values for Social Change

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Intimacy ~ Art of Listening and the responsibility of the speaker

Listening changes when the space is created to feel supported by everyone in the group while, at the same time, hearing “new information on how to listen” and having the courage to participate in the guided practice suggestions without worrying about right and wrong ways of speaking.                                     Renee Lindstrom

There is joy in working with individuals committed to improving the intimacy in their relationships.  It is not the traditional sharing circle of going on and on about our stories and talking about it!  The learning comes through the experience of sharing in a precise pattern of speaking and listening to increase the potential of spontaneous vulnerability and freedom of speech.  There are no rituals, feathers, labels, conditions or talk therapy!

Our  learning time together become a unified experience of a series of planned practices designed to learn through the experience itself.  In the  closing  feedback  I hear unique and individual comments of learning that is coming from their own source of creative expression.  The tools have laid out a pattern for exploring deeper within and the awareness that is expressed is simple, intimate and beautiful.  It is easy for the ears of others to really take it in!  

The members of the group  now have a new memory experience to notice the differences of their interactions with their partner through the week until we met again.  Mission accomplished and we didn’t have to go on 3, 7 or 9 day  retreat, be healed or fixed, or hand ourselves over to any higher power or focus upon our conditions.   A set of intimacy tools that can be taught easily and be yours by your willingness to experience it.  

To find out more about how to experience personal clarity and power in your world – inquire by email – renee(at)insideawareness(dot)com.

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