How is it for others if you are not flowing in and out of being both leader and follower

REMEMBER if you are always giving in and going along with things, your partner, friends, peers, etc., are going to lose interest.  Boring!

REMEMBER if you are always putting yourself first and not listening to what others think, your partner, friends, peers, etc., are going to lose interest.  Boring!

Wake up

5 Steps to invest in your relationships…..

PERSONAL TO DO LIST TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS:

1.   Set goals or intention
2.  Commit to yourself first
3.  Find out what values are important to you
4.  Learn how to stay connected to your values without losing them
5.  Explore ways of listening to increase your choices choices

 

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Examples of Yin/Yang Roles

Yin/Yang Positions in Relationships
Education
  • Teacher is the speaker  – yang
  • Student is the listener – yin
Parenting
  • Parent – yang
  • Child – yin
Work
  • Employer – yang
  • Employee – yin
Sports
  • Coach – yang
  • Athlete – yin
Siblings 

  • By dominate personality

Love/Intimacy

  • By dominate personality

 

A Relationship Out of Balance

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Typical Love /Partnership
In a new relationship a dominate yin personality may let things slide.  They are enjoying themselves and expect that things will change. When the fun leaves and there is no change, the dominate yin try’s to make changes by talking about it.  They seek therapy and solutions,  or become submissive by putting up and shutting up and living in unhappy circumstances.  They may either end the relationship or live life without spirit.When a dominate yang personality starts a relationship it is fun, exciting and all about them.  They are usually not good listeners and rarely take in what is meaningful for the other person in the relationship.  When things go south they will be surprised and/or uncomfortable with hearing what they consider judgment or criticism.  Rather than connect to the message they will go into right or wrong thinking and blame others and withdraw. Opposite of a dominate yin who will want to talk about it, resolve it and move on.   The denial will turn into shock and disbelief when the relationship ends.  At this point they may be ready to work on it, not realizing the yin has truly moved on!

Sound familiar?  Translate this scenario into any situation with your sisters, brothers, peers, etc.

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Are you a leader, follower or both?

BalanceSometimes we are leaders and sometimes we are followers in relationships! If we are in balance, we are always in motion and flowing in and out of planning and action.  To describe this balance in the popular terms of yin and yang lets first look at their attitudes:  We could also describe these two dominate behavioral types as round (yin) and sharp edges (yang).

Yin & Yang attitudes


  • Balanced Yin     

         Listener, Patient, Planner, Quiet, reflective, empathetic, collaborative,         willing to follow, glow from the inside

  • Balanced Yang         

Speaker, Spontaneous, Quick, Energized, Strategist, Outgoing, strong ideals, willing leader shine from the outside

  • Unbalanced Yin

           Depressed, Withdrawn, Internalize, Hurt, Sad,
Death Wish

  • Unbalanced Yang

Aggressive, Loud, Angry, Anxious, Externalize, Vengeful, Closed, Compartmentalize, Rigid, Take ones life,

Not a complete list ~ add your own descriptions.….
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CARING FOR THE AGING

Empathy, Empathy, Empathy

for yourself and them

Five steps to put on your ‘aging to do list!’

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Behavior & decisions impact one’s senior years.  It can show up as mental, emotional and physical suffering.  (Mortality is mutual for politicians, employers, employees, activists, mothers, fathers, wealthy or poor)

AGING TO DO LIST:


  1. STOP MASKING THE SYMPTOMS WITH FIRST AID SOLUTIONS
  2. LEARN TO IMPROVE YOUR EXPERIENCE
  3. BE CURIOUS ABOUT HOW YOU DO THINGS 
  4. EXPLORE IMPROVING YOUR MOVEMENT AND WELL-BEING
  5. FIND OUT HOW TO EXPERIENCE PLEASURE AND JOY

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by:  Renee Lindstrom, May 02, 2015