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A powerful message to start 2019! 


The transition into 2019 happened on a waning moon.  A waning moon is not the time to start new project, but a time to tie up loose ends, clean and clear clutter.  I never expected the impact of this moons influence on the start of my new year.

At 4 a.m. on January 1st a text came stating I had been hacked and I read that my  computer was compromised. To add to the  fear factor, it said that I had been signed up to a porn site and that they had taken video of me over my webcam.  They threatened to send video of me to my contacts along with video beside it showing I was watching porn.  To stop them there was a ransom payable in bitcoin.  I took it seriously enough to investigate if these grandiose hacking concepts as this message suggested could be possible.  The short answer to what I discovered and this is yes completely possible.

Clearing electronic clutter was how my year began.  Amusing thing about this threat is that porn could increase my business in #relationshipcoaching.  Porn is pretty lame when it comes to the #realstories of #realpeople and what they are overcoming from their past to try to be alive in the present.   Reading the full email there is a statement that stood out to me.  It goes,

I guarantee you that I will not disturb you again after payment, as you are not my single victim. This is a hacker code of honor.  Don’t be mad at me, everyone has their own work. Exactly what should you do?  Well, in my opinion, $1000 (USD) is a fair price for our little secret. 

What stood out was the comparison of extortion to work and the directive to not be mad at them for it.  I paused a moment and considered how this email was designed to instill fear, guilt and shame in others to make financial gain.  Even if one person paid them for their efforts it would net them $1,000.

In comparison,  as I also work with making the impossible possible, it would take many clients for me to make the same amount through my work which contribution is to reduce fear reactions and eliminate shame, blame and guilt by mentoring how to turn it into self-esteem and confidence.

Take away’s from this experience!

  1.  The threats in this hackers message were implied and perceived by my state of being reading the message itself.  The threats were not real.  The only reason I didn’t react to it is that my focus of attention was on exploring the possibilities, not on any consequences of how it would impact me in my community.

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Copyright 2014 – 2019  Living in Nature’s Love by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000

Personal ​Life Change Coaching Testimonial

I am pleased to receive a testimonial from a life coaching student who has made tremendous personal progress with the loss of a long marriage.

This has been the most challenging period in my life, losing my entire local family, and I do appreciate all the extra time and energy you have given me in order to help me move through what is every woman’s nightmare – the loss of a long-term marriage; but coming out of it, thanks to your support, with my integrity still intact and perhaps improved?  Your setting challenges for me as I have progressed have been “challenging” to say the least and I still do not know the outcome of how I will be faring, but I am still here, still alive and although not “happy”, am getting through my days and despite physical and emotional problems and my ongoing anxiety, have moved from being completely dependent on a person (my ex-husband) to relying on getting things done myself or finding at least some of the help I need, without him.

​Y​ou have inspired me to keep on living when I felt all hope was lost.  I am afraid that I will not live up to the task of continuing this, but I am learning more about self-soothing, which I still find very difficult.

Everyone who knows me sees a great improvement in how I handle difficult situations with more grace and efficiency.  People in some of the grocery stores I go to comment on how much better I am looking and happier as well.

Like everyone I have days that are worse than others, but I never thought I would get this far.  You have encouraged me to be my own parent and although I find this challenging, I find I am handling certain situations I never dreamed I would have to handle or be able to handle.

I know I would never have lived through this process of divorce for this long without your help and your confidence in my abilities to cope.

When I first met you, I was not able to function on my own in any capacity, and now I am spending most of my time taking care of the business of life, home-ownership, and self-care with my physical and emotional challenges….and with no support from family.  You have seen me through a period in my life I never thought I would survive.

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication Relationship & Life Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015


Powerful time now for West-coasters to set goals for next year!

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For West-coasters living in North America, a Western Country, this season is a powerful time to plan your goals for this coming year! Why?  This season reflects west (one of our four directions) in a Map of Consciousness using Nature, the Medicine Wheel.  The layering of landscape with season is a power position that increases the intention of your goals.

Are you ready to consider what kind of year you are long for in 2015?  Find out how coaching support can help you create the life goals you long for –  let’s connect!  Now is the time to learn how to align your values and needs in a doable concrete structured way!  Here are three points for success with setting your goals and keeping them:

  • include a balanced view of all your life areas while setting your goals
  • connect to the roots of your desire for a meaningful incentive to stick to them
  • create an environment for success

How many times have you set goals on December 31st only to fail in the first week of January?  This year plan for success now!  Explore how you can follow some simple, easy and powerful steps to create your 2015 plan.  Don’t worry about having to figure it out on your own.  Try a system is designed for support that begins with a conversation to discover what changes you are longing for. Concrete doable intentions will then be created and together with the steps to succeed and meet your goals.

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Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication,  Empathy,  Values Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children’s Summit on Peace & Nature in 2015

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OCT 20 – NOV 20 ’14

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FAQ:

What are some qualities that  clients would experience in your private sessions that they would remember?

Four qualities that come to mind are:  support, fairness,  patience and empathy.  Whether a movement, empathy or personal coaching  the sessions are grounded upon empathetic listening  and honest expression, (even if hard to hear messages).  Focus is upon the clients, not the practitioner, therefore a direct opportunity for the client can be for a deeper self connection.  In sessions the clients are guided through their experience replacing the teaching model (being talked at)  that culturally we have come to rely upon.  Being told, fixed or having the person we are paying teach us through their experience is so unsatisfactory.  It is the qualities of willingness and courage  that inspire change.  An atmosphere encouraging safe reflection achieves quicker and easier transitions with the least amount of effort!

In Relationships:

Whether sessions include both parties or not, space is held to consider the cause and effect for both sides.  This can deepen conscious understanding of  the root causes of the current experiences.  This process is based upon  empathy to transition out of  right or wrong judgments  for clarity and to regain composure, balance and free will for making difficult choices.  Life changing choices resulting from reaction can create bigger issues, resentment and regret.     Therefore these session need honesty, patience  and empathy to support a smoother transition forward.

In Movement

Once again this process focuses on empathetic listening except now it is focused upon what the body is demonstrating.  Unknown to most in our culture is that our bodies tell our story!  Through observation and felt touch in a safe environment the physical, mental,  emotional and belief aspects of oneself can open to patterns that are no longer working.  It is the awareness of old habits and this new experience that shifts outcomes.  These sessions need honesty, patience and empathy to support clients inner felt sense needs for safety to be met to let go of resistance to go beyond into a new experience in how they feel themselves.

Lifestyle

Clients who are either motivated for change or with chronic conditions will have home or office visits to increase support for life change through their environment.  Like ones body posture the home or office tells a story of one’s experience, yet not one of a personal self-image story.  This is a story of where ones attention is focused in life and how the relationships are  in community that shares the space.  These visits need honesty, patience and empathy to support each member in the process in a way that change can happen.

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Renee Lindstrom
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000, Vice-Chair of World Children’s Summit on Peace & Nature – May 2015

 

Frequently asked Question’s:

1.  How often should I (we) book appointments?

Movement Behavior

Critical Learning  – When asked this question by someone that has obvious shifts with these methods and who has a constraint that limits their quality of life from their movement patterns :

  • The suggestion would be for sessions to be closer together to not lose the experience  between  them.  The goal is to change habits through specialized learning.  This may result in having a reduced length of time in the long run.  It could be once a week, twice a week or even three times a week depending upon critical learning, resistance to learning and acceptance to changes.  
REMEMBER THAT MORE CONNECTION INCREASES THE EXPANDED AWARENESS OF LIFESTYLE & RELATIONSHIP CONTRIBUTORS TO YOUR RESTRICTED MOVEMENT PATTERNS.  YES YOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND OUTSIDE STIMULUS CONTRIBUTES TO HOW YOUR MOVE! 

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Awareness Learning – When asked this question by someone who would like to improve the quality of their life experiences:

  • The suggestion is to come for personal sessions at a constant pace to lose the learning in between lessons and to enhance learning by adding movement workshops.  This increases one’s sensation awareness in their movements.     

Relationship Behavior

Critical Learning – When asked this by couples, parents or educators and employees who are in the middle of crisis management:

  • The answer is to book sessions close together to support the process and to increase clarity and understanding. In this way issues become manageable.  If left the result is increased pain and struggle.  This may be coming once, twice or even three times a week!  It is easier to process and move forward in the aliveness than to stretch it out and continue distancing or solidifying the behaviors responsible for creating the issues in the first place.  
REMEMBER WITHDRAWAL AND RESISTANCE DOES NOT MEAN THE ISSUES WILL GO AWAY.  YOU MAY BE FOOLING YOURSELF AS IT MAY ACTUALLY MEAN THE BEGINNING OF THE END.  IF ONE SIDE IS PROCESSING AND ONE SIDE IS PROTECTING THEMSELVES IN RIGHT AND WRONG THINKING, THE SIDE PROCESSING WILL BECOME BORED AND NOT BE CONTENT TO CONTINUE WITH IT! 

Awareness Learning – When asked about personal coaching:

  • The suggestion would be to receive personal coaching at a regular pace so as not to lose the momentum and to develop inner accountability with outside support would enhance skill development.  Adding workshops would enhance the experiential part of oneself.   
REMEMBER THAT THERE IS NO END POINT, THERE IS ONLY EVOLUTION AND INCREASED AWARENESS  & QUALITIES OF EXPERIENCING YOUR LIFE!

 

2.  Are youR suggested booking time-lines mandatory?

No these are not booking requirements that are mandatory to book and receive enhanced life learning skills and change  with Inside Awareness.  These are suggested guidelines to support your continued success in learning how to improve your personal experiences and living experiences.  

How often you book is the value you place on yourself and what you can afford to spend upon your personal development.    

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©by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP, May, 2014
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000
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Are you a leader, follower or both?

BalanceSometimes we are leaders and sometimes we are followers in relationships! If we are in balance, we are always in motion and flowing in and out of planning and action.  To describe this balance in the popular terms of yin and yang lets first look at their attitudes:  We could also describe these two dominate behavioral types as round (yin) and sharp edges (yang).

Yin & Yang attitudes


  • Balanced Yin     

         Listener, Patient, Planner, Quiet, reflective, empathetic, collaborative,         willing to follow, glow from the inside

  • Balanced Yang         

Speaker, Spontaneous, Quick, Energized, Strategist, Outgoing, strong ideals, willing leader shine from the outside

  • Unbalanced Yin

           Depressed, Withdrawn, Internalize, Hurt, Sad,
Death Wish

  • Unbalanced Yang

Aggressive, Loud, Angry, Anxious, Externalize, Vengeful, Closed, Compartmentalize, Rigid, Take ones life,

Not a complete list ~ add your own descriptions.….
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