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Cultivating core 2026 life area connection’s from the inside out

by Renee Lindstrom, founder, Inside Awareness Center for Integrative Somatic Learning

The nine life area goals identified in the poster above were painted as a creative personal connection to intentions in each area and framed last night as the calendar is about to shift into 2026. This poster is hung facing the door to my office/creative space as a visual reminder as I move about and sit at my desk. This interactive poster is placed prominently with the intention of manifesting life through creative expression in living and learning. It is a visual focus of intention for creative living in 2026 that expresses from a thoughtful core connection. It is my ‘Shining North Star’ guiding my 2026 experience. A Shining North Star that contains what is alive and meaningful in the present moment of reflection. Each year is a stepping stone on an elusive journey, and this poster identifies the present location of this North Star on this pathway. It creates groundedness in the spontaneity of living an interactive and innovative lifestyle.

Shining Star

by local #yyj artist from my children’s school in ’01/’02

In the center of the Shining Star, in the above drawing, one can imagine the burst of creation. Creation that creates form. This activity, shown in the poster above, demonstrates intentional action for creating an interactive board that connects to what is meaningful at a core level. It is the elusive structure that contains the form for bursts of spontaneous action in alignment with core intention.

The board replaces outside influences and realigns my decision-making focus to make independent choices in alignment with what is meaningful, rather than seeking outside advice and opinions. It has proven to be a strong support that eliminates the unnecessary projections of others that do not have the same inner patterns for processing information. Each of us has an inner pattern for processing information that is unique. No one can duplicate another person’s inner filter or processing patterns or tell someone what to do effectively, based on the separation between inner programming. Programming that I identify as social and cultural conditioning.

In simple terms, this means that the poster above reflects a lifestyle model where consideration was given to determine important next steps. These stepping stones guide the coming year at a core level and become the source for checking in for reassurance and guidance that outside actions are in balance with inner values. My yearly considerations go back to 2013 or thereabouts. Each year became a stepping stone on a journey that unlocked a natural and organic model of elevating conscious awareness. It is one of the pillars that has become an educational pattern for expanding beyond the constraints of learned social and cultural behavioural conditioning. How? It has replaced outside authorities with an inner one.

What does outside authority versus an inner one mean?

  • Outside

An outside authority is exactly how it is written. In this context, it means looking to others (false guru’s) for guidance on what is right and what is wrong based upon their opinions, belief systems and limited living experiences. Anyone with a closed mindset that looks outside themselves at status (what others have) and self-image (how things appear) has limitations in clarity and life experience. It’s all contained within a closed circuit and small-mindedness. If they have a title, it is even harder to discriminate, as the Indoctrination creates a false belief system of superiority.

Google writes: Indoctrination is teaching someone a specific set of beliefs or ideas, often political, religious, or ideological, in a way that discourages questioning or critical thinking, making them accept it as truth without examination, like brainwashing, but can also be a less harsh form of cultural teaching. It’s about instilling a doctrine or viewpoint repeatedly until it’s accepted uncritically, differing from general education which encourages independent thought. 

  • Inside

An inner authority means checking in mindfully or thoughtfully to tap into what is meaningful in the present moment. This suggests a structure for learning core values, and trusting them in a sea of outside opinions, perspectives and beliefs. It suggests owning one’s own power, instead of being in the habit of giving it away. This is an action of leadership that can be challenging. It means letting go of blame and shame to justify the action one is taking, or has taken.

An example of blaming others for personal actions. As a kid, I blamed a sibling for taking an action to shoplift. I was 7 years old. I told my dad …….made me do it. Only,………wasn’t there!

Not only is considering intentions for the coming year important for cultivating awareness of personal needs, its accountability training. It can be an elusive pattern with a spontaneous outcome. It shifts the blame and shame learned thinking behaviours into a focus on self-value and accomplishments.

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2026 innovative & heathy lifestyles Newsletter

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Here are some considerations for innovative and healthy choices if you long for ease in the natural flow through all nine lifestyle areas as we collectively shift into 2026. The interplay of life areas that Inside Awareness topics focus on are education, career, community, past, health, future, wealth, fame and relationships. Each of these life areas can be explored separately or combined with other life areas for advanced learning that increases clarity and wellness. An example is the Relationships life area and the Health life area. The topics in the Health Life area include communication, food awareness and functional movement. These topics would enhance relationships. Especially learning a language that enhances empathy and compassion. The nature of the topics that focus on learning through the somatic experience creates ease through their integration. This integration leads to clarity and attainment that is balanced throughout the nine life areas.

The topics have a focus on cultivating awareness through the somatic felt senses. It is an interesting shift of inner behaviour for many who have had universally dominant socially conditioned behavioural training where one size fits all, and that has eliminated the inner connections to unique individual sensory responses. Instead of cultivating conscious awareness and guidance on how to process somatically, the scientific approach emerged with a pattern of consciously dumbing down the somatic experience through evaluative expression and definition. The mainstream has not caught up to the shift in science, where society is not being trained in how to process the somatic felt senses and lead with them This leaves a large segment of society in the dark and vulnerable.

An example of a life area with topics that can be an individual focus of attention, or combined with others, is the health life area. These include:

  • somatic functional movement integration of the inner physical, emotional, mental and conscious awareness processes
  • foods for eating plans to increase brain and gut function
  • somatic communication patterns for developing healthy inner and outer vocabulary skills

Rather than gatekeeping, the founder of Inside Awareness Center for Integrative Somatic Learning shares patterns of learning that are organic and natural at birth. Patterns that everyone is entitled to relearn without jumping through hoops, or the labels model holders give them as gatekeepers to retain ownership over them. Luckily, one living non-gatekeeper was a model who didn’t hold the pattern of learning hostage as gatekeepers do. This was Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, the author and founder of Nonviolent Communication. He didn’t present as a gatekeeper. Another non-gatekeeper from history is Siddhartha Gautama. We all know him as the Buddha. He is a man who attained enlightenment through a pattern of self-introspection and learning through his experience. Did he give himself this title? He did become a teacher as others recognized a quality that they wanted to mimic in their experiences. Did he gatekeep? The same with Jesus. Did he give himself a title? He also demonstrated qualities others wanted to mimic. Did he gatekeep his experiences? Humanity learns through mimicking. Who introduced gatekeeping to higher knowledge?

The founder of the Inside Awareness Center for Integrative Somatic Learning is a somatic empath. A growing awareness emerged through self-focused learning to better understand the qualities of a somatic empath. This growing awareness was a realization that this natural learning state was being held hostage through the isolation and categorization upheld by gatekeepers. A separation of a natural experience was being presented in a way that was creating division and separation.  

The focus of Inside Awareness Center for Integrative Somatic Learning is on practical applications for living a creative lifestyle that incorporates early learning patterns into the dominant analytical focus to balance it out and create understanding in current behaviours that is dragging society down. Society is being dragged down by a gap in conscious awareness that is limiting mental, emotional and physical intelligence.


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Intro to Evolution of the Nine Life Area Integrative Lifestyle Programming Menu at Inside Awareness

Check out some of the articles in the nine life areas that is the focus of learning here at the Inside Awareness center below. For ease in understanding the different life areas, these web pages are articles and information on this featured program. Each one can be an individual focus or, as mentioned previously, combined with others for increased connection to the interactive nature of these nine life areas.

New articles in each of the 9 life areas:

1. Knowledge

Divine Feminine

Western Integrated Feng Shui


2. Career


3. Community


4. Past


5. Health

Integrated Lifestyle Health Topics

Communication – Somatic Dialogue & Effective Listening


Eating & Food Integration for Function

Movement – Feldenkrais


6. Future

Children

Goals

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7. Wealth


8. Fame


9. Relationships


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Fire & Water Somatic Goal: Example Daily Action 1/31

Fire & Water Somatic Goal Action on 1st Day

There are 31 daily actions to participate, and explore in this integrative experience of goal setting. These goals are different than the typical pressurized canned model of making goal statements designed to push through fears to take action on outside strategies to achieve an outcome. This goal pattern has a focus on changing behaviour from the inside out, and not the outside in. The inside focus first is aligned with core values and has an essence in expanded learning and connection to conscious awareness, while the other has a focus on outside strategies to achieve influence. The focus on somatic goal setting is active mindfulness that expands the interconnectedness to spontaneous reactions to environmental stimuli at the level of the five senses, while the focus on outside strategies is a mental focus that has been the existing patterning in social conditioning that eliminated the somatic learning patterns of early learning. It combines contemplation first to identify the value needs (intention) as the core influence. The process creates a new pattern for learning behaviour that increases self-actualization with a change in process inner behaviour with patterns connecting the meanings of the words inspiring reactions, responses and motivation. Its focus is from the inside, with growing confidence based on increasing personal worth and self-value instead of outside strategies for personal gain with a false bravado. Somatic goals can inspire an increase in self-value that leads to a felt expression of abundance that is embodied, while the old pattern of goals develops a type of confidence that has a limited viewpoint and is dependent on strategies to generate confidence. This limited viewpoint is usually on wealth and fame, which are only two life areas. One embodies function, and the other fragments it.ย ย 

Somatic Goal Setting Daily Action Example

Example of a doable daily action for integrating balance through inner and outer actions in the environment using intention that includes a focus on defining core values and becoming comfortable with feelings.

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Fundraiser for building a Culture of Values through educational components and integrating them into educational institutions and organizations.

Remember, a Culture of Values from this perspective is not a religion. It is a model of integrative learning to enhance organized learning in institutions, organizations, parenting and childcare. It is not exclusive to one demographic. Rather is designed for all functioning people of all ages.

This first workshop for the Inside Awareness Center for Somatic Learning will be a fundraiser for building the Culture of Values educational programming to bring focus to the needs for maintaining the early learning patterns and partnering them with the current system that is oriented from the perspectives of adults contained within an institutionalized system. These early learning patterns here are not the typical strategies from an adult perspective of coming up with strategies to implement into a system. It is the actual patterns of integration for developing the inner processing capabilities for a child to develop into a healthy functioning adult in society. Education currently has a focus on memorization, solving puzzles with strategies and debate conversation entrainment. These educational programs will introduce the needs of the students who have retained their dominant sensory input as a form of viewing and processing incoming worldly information, and will strive to balance out those who are dominant analytical thinkers. These learning patterns will focus on developing a healthy inner and outer understanding of behavioural relationships between the elusive inner body responses in functional responses to any stimuli. This will be through transparent guided patterns designed in the same model of early learning in babies who have no input from adults intellectually in learning how to roll over, sit, stand, walk and talk. These abilities are inherent and not transmitted through an adult’s outside influence. These programs will integrate seamlessly into existing programs designed to increase recognition of inner responses for the ability to self-monitor and process reactions. This model has been initiated by a somatic empath who has recognized a gap in social conditioning while in a journey of self-discovery to find clarity and learn how to navigate in a world that has been educated to project outward from a dominant thinking behaviour, instead of having increased clarity and understanding of their inner process for creating healthy habits for good relationships and lifestyles later on. The intent for the educational patterns will be to create a healthier relationship and lifestyles that have less conflict and increased shared values.

Participation & Contribution

Renee Lindstrom, Founder of Inside Awareness Center for Integrative Somatic Learning, is seeking business partners, sponsors and those interested in supporting a model of education that will redefine behaviour through clarity, understanding that retraining the brain along with the subtle inner body responses that are one. At some point in history, the body systems became isolated and separated in people’s minds. The compartmentalization has fractured full function and understanding of the inter-relationships between felt senses, physical transitions, emotional responses, and finally the inner process for creating thoughts. For those who would be inspired to join this project, please express your interest and how or what you would like to contribute. Email is the best form of connection due to personal obligations to long periods of time with the phone turned off.

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*Please note that there will be a component of training the trainers and mentorship available in the mix later on that you may have interest in if you’re an existing practitioner. This could be your entry point into this amazing project. If you’re a seasoned veteran, you may be valued as an advisor if you can connect to the potential through your experience. At this point, the essence of the material is at a stage of not be reinvented by new strategies that haven’t been through the apprenticeship of application.

Announcement for 2026

Center for Inside Awareness Channel on YouTube

I sent this news out to my students today.

I wanted to share some updates with you that I may not have brought up outside of our focused integrations sessions, whether in movement, communication/relationships or spatialย awareness and placements.ย  For the past ten to 15 years years I have been integrating the interplay between these areas with a deeper focus on habitual or automatic behaviours and choices.ย  For the pastย two year’s this has shifted to writing it out in an organized way.ย  Beginning with the Learning Center Topics, starting with separatingย the nine life areas with an eye on behaviour and interactions.ย  There are somatic programs in each of these nine life areas to support the topic they are categorized under. Many of you may have participated in.

In 2026,  I will be launching a new system of interactive patterns in expressive communication where this separation of life areas will be a core focal point in the model.  These practical and actional patterns support an authentic somatic and empathic perspective.  As written by an actual somatic empath living within their interactive experiences 24/7.  Trust me, somatic and empathic expression in behaviour is not based upon the outside strategies of someone trying to describe them.  It is one of the influences towards developing a somatic learning system that goes beyond what is being described in current social conditioning trends. 

A companion book titled  ‘Somatic Archetypes’ will be available.  This will be a foundation pattern to support a practical reference to core reactive responses.  Practical in that they will focus on actionable somatic understanding and not have any focus on evaluative expressions or right or wrong thinking.  The intention is to marry this understanding in active interactions in the moment.  The shift includes somatic engagement, versus old thinking patterns of social conditioning that shifted focus away from it in organized institutionalized education.

A new understanding of social conditioning has emerged with a powerful influence to cut through a term I learned in meditation, spiritual materialism. This is a result of the practices of functional integration and mentoring in how to speak authentically and with integrity that began in 2002. Spiritual materialism is an evaluative expression for the ego self-image.  In Feldenkrais, there is an understanding of an inner felt self-image that supports a new defining inner experience of it that isn’t built up through socially conditioned learned reactions that are focused on materialism through strategies.  Rather, it has a focus on being present from within and sensing from the inside first before outward actions of functional movement or spoken words. This means leading through the felt senses consciously to replace leading through thinking.   

Renee Lindstrom @somaticlifestyleinnovator Channel on YouTube

To support this upcoming launch, I have put my YouTube playlists in order. I have three channels. One has playlists to support the topics of the Inside Awareness Center for Integrative Somatic Learning. (Pictured above).  This includes the nine life areas broken into separate playlists. ie. Feldenkrais is in the Health Center. It is joined by Communication and Eating Plans. In these playlists, you will see early attempts to engage people to shift their focus of attention. For example, the #yyj Nature Walks, which is under the playlist of knowledge. There is also the Culture of Value program for early childhood development in that playlist that demonstrates the first stages of its development. The other channel is in my name, and it is for somatic innovation. The focus was to connect to the environmental triggers that stimulate types of behaviour to educate. 

Podcast

Finally, the third just started this past summer and fall, is my podcast.  Currently, it is voice audios of articles I have written to lay a foundation.  It will evolve and expand to include lives and interviews.  

As a dominant somatic empathic learner myself, I have first-hand experience in the alienation of children and adults with these learning styles. There is very little consideration given to the value of these learning styles and in fact, they are categorized, labelled and diagnosed as conditions, with an aim to drug and eradicate the differences they display to the expectation in the tightly defined patterns of Institutionalized education. Patterns that were designed for learning concepts with ease and little variance in the organized structure. This cognitive focus included debate-style communication development that lacked empathy training. In this context, empathy training is the skill development for good listening patterns where the core inner response is an interactive, flexible, and open-minded process, versus the closed-mindedness that results from judging the context of what is being heard as right and wrong based upon personal judgment and understanding.  


The programs at the Inside Awareness Center for Integrative Somatic Learning are focused on a mindfulness that balances both sets of needs of the cognitive style interpretation, and the somatic and empathic. It harnesses all components through functional integration of the physical body working in partnership with the emotional responses that generate the filter for thinking.

The intention for these YouTube platforms is to build an audience and to develop financial opportunities that will support this focus on somatic education.. Until now, I have funded it with my time and energy. I look forward to taking it to the next level. I am hoping you will consider viewing my channels, liking and subscribing to help build this lofty goal. If the content appeals to you, I hope you will share it to support getting a buzz going on these topics.

The following are the links to the YouTube channels. Please keep in mind, these are early developments that have been a learning process and for the process to grow a level of comfort and ease in being on stage. The last link is to a page on the Inside Awareness Center for Integrative Somatic learning explaining the nine life areas that are the core foundation in my perspective of functional integration, somatic dialogue and spatial awareness.

Center for Inside Awareness @ https://www.youtube.com/@somaticlifestyleinfluencer/playlists

Article of explanation @ https://wp.me/p17H3e-h6I

Renee Lindstrom – somatic lifestyle innovator @ https://www.youtube.com/@somaticlifestyleinfluencer/playlists

Renee Lindstrom – Podcast @ https://www.youtube.com/@somaticlifestyleinfluencer/playlists


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The Roots of ‘Somatic Archetypes in Goal Setting’

by Renee Lindstrom, Author of the Somatic Archetypes

Audio for listening, in Authors voice

Here are some examples of the Author’s personal intentional goal-setting boards going back to ’14. Greater Victoria presented the community with free magazines and newpapers at pick up stations, whereby viewers could pick up copies each month. They were a treasure trove of topics, pictures and words to cut out for all genres for creating collages.

When this author began creating collages, the creativity was simple and lacked the in depth connection to the seeds of inspiration and skillset. Without giving up due to these lacks, they became more elaborate, skilled and creative. Unbeknownst to the Author, an organic integration occurred during this dedicated process. It translated into living actions and character, including the development of a more playful personality. It was a transforming life pattern.

This Author has what she calls a Somatic Heart expression and receptor, and it was covered by years of experiences with others who have no skill sets in recognizing this quality or in interacting with those who have this organic attribute.

Somatic Heart

Each seasonal or yearly intentional goal-setting activity reintegrated this inner connection to the warmth and playfulness of her heartfelt expressions and receptivity. It was a quiet and creative time to be thoughtful and take affirmative action for what she wanted and not for what she didn’t want. It was a subtle shift and possibly the most meaningful. This is not something she would have learned in a Tony Robbins or Jack Canfield program, as the approaches are completely different. One focuses on strategies and the external ego focus, while this is an active practice that leads into the depth of meaning in the core responses before expressing it outwardly to the world.

This approach is unique and individual and taps into core values, while there can only be one Tony Robbins and one Jack Canfield, with others duplicating them over and over. This approach presents the possibility for being authentically oneself and presenting the world with a face that shines from this alignment of self on the inside and expressed outwardly for others to connect to. This is what Tony Robbins did to become the person he is today. He is presenting as his authentic self and tapping into the needs of thousands. The problem is, it can only be done once to the levels of success he has experienced as he is the model, while this approach is an integrative learning model that each individual can integrate as a learned behaviour pattern that focuses on direction, making choices and decisions connected to an inner value system.

This pattern of goal setting begins with a target intention that is overall for a period of time. It expands into doable size chunks, breaking the goals down into logical personal steps for achieving success by taking actional value based movements forward. The difference in this approach is in the actions for checking inward to connect to one’s core values, before taking a socially conditioned assertive approach. This means the assertiveness in this approach connects to self-value and esteem that emanates a different type of assertiveness. It is assertiveness that is more naturally mindful, self-connected and trustworthy. The aggressiveness from a socially conditioned action has potential for disconnection of self and energetically presents with less trustworthiness. This seems to lead to a sales job that is followed by justification. The Somatic Heart expression of this Author then suggests that goal setting that begins with an inner self connection with a focus through trained mindfulness and focus of attention can tap into one’s inner strength and courage to have grounded ownership of their goals that are centered in core values. An individual system within one, and not the goals of someone else’s storyline.

In an earlier post titled Be the Master Creator of your 2026 experience the pattern for creating goals was introduced as is the Somatic Archetypes. These Archetypes are the perception filters that are individual for each person. Consideration of these Archetypes are missing in the earlier goals step patterns that was compared to this approach. This pattern of goal-setting begins with this consideration.

This Somatic Archetype Goal Setting program is an educational system of somatic learning:

  1. sets an overall goal intention
  2. breaks it down into logical and actionable steps over a period of time as an integratable pattern
  3. taps into your Somatic Archetype for personal learning and integration of understanding of unique differences

The benefits of this Somatic Goalsetting program are:

  1. integrative learning happens natural that creates new habits that are productive to personal lifestyle goals
  2. action steps develop skills to increase personal courage and self-confidence naturally
  3. introduces a core value system that is unique to the participant
  4. creates new beneficial habits for taking self-connected and self-directed lifestyle actions

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Community Bullying 101

Power over dynamics

As a mature woman, in a casual work and connected home environment, I found myself in an experience of being bullied by another mature business woman in a group of women that ranged in age from young with small children themselves, to those older than them. These women’s behaviour repeated the same patterns that small children demonstrate at the toddler stage when parents and early childhood educators are tasked with modelling how to navigate their triggers to process their reactive feelings and resolve them within themselves before lashing out and harming others. These mothers and grandmothers did not demonstrate the skills or ability to slow down their emotional escalation before focusing on resolving issues that led up to their reactions. It suggests that they had not integrated these skill sets themselves. Keep in mind that these were mothers, grandmothers and aunties of children who were the core educators modelling learned behaviours within their family and community units.

Let me introduce myself

My name is Renee Lindstrom, and I have been focused on educational programs for bullying since arriving in Victoria 35 years ago. This focus of attention has been from a somatic empathic perspective and not at the typical vantage point of strategies and analysis of the behaviours. This suggests the focus has been on the practical steps of integration at the core internalized behavioural level.

The two options:

  • Labelling the behaviours and speaking about them to create strategies with no inner accountability
  • Slowing down the emotional reaction on the inside first to identify the internal stimulus and connect to the causation of the trigger before responding (taking accountability)

More about these two options

These two bullet points suggest that one pattern has a focus of analysis while still in a triggered reactive state. This suggests attention is aimed outward at others without any self-connection first. This suggests it is a position of denial and lacks any personal responsibility. This leads to a projection that lacks logic and empathy in the responses.

The other option begins with an inside focus for checking into oneself first to connect to the internal source of the trigger to calm reactions down before connecting to outside solutions. This option contains self-empathy first to connect to the source of the trigger response before any outside actions are taken. This increases the potential for balanced fairness and equal opportunity in the outcomes.

Back to the introduction of Renee Lindstrom

The first educational choices for navigating experiential learning techniques for deeper clarity and understanding from a somatic empathic viewpoint came through movement and meditation. The mediation I engaged in opened an opportunity to study Feng Shui that aligned with the core syllabus of the meditation practice I was integrating. This led to an intensive dive into Nonviolent Communication guided patterns created by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, Phd, and author of Nonviolent Communication.

My focus on teaching NVC began in 2007 after 7 years of personal study and integration with a focus on the areas of bullying and relationships. I taught, presented and organized events actively in our Greater Victoria Communities in Juan de Fuca, James Bay, Oak Bay, Greater Victoria, and Saanich. It included the focus of primary couple relationships, families, parenting, peers in the workplace and primary education.

Back to the experience

No Remuneration for time and effort where other employee/s were paid for

While this experience that will be described is one in a sea of many, it is a definable one that shifted my patterns of response and continues to demonstrate to me the value in the training patterns I create through my practice and personal studies. It has also been an event where I never received remuneration for my time, yet someone received payment for it, even though it was the time and effort I put in. This, together with my mail being opened without my permission, and a lack of meeting my request to have it forwarded to me, plus some other incidents, I share this event in my life for training purposes. I, like the universe. do not like the lack of energetic reciprocity. This is one way of meeting my needs and balancing this out energetically while sharing it as educational materials. It is paying it forward to others in a positive way.

Being Nudged By Spirit to use this as a pattern to create a model

I believe I am being nudged by spirit or the dream state to share the patterns of how I handled this experience on site and after, as it was either detached or a state of detaching from ego, status and fear. It demonstrated fearlessness and the growth of a higher state of self-confidence and empowerment. A state that bypasses the fight, flight, freeze or fonding states with conscious awareness. Even though I kept telling myself that I had already learned these lessons and questioned how I found myself in this placement now, in hindsight, it was exactly what I needed to go through and be able to integrate into the focus of attention I have held for the past 30 years.

Why? Working with others now, what took 30 years is transitioning in mere hours or days is now happening for others who have gone beyond looking for outside strategies to change, and have shifted into longing for change. When that choice is made, there is less effort in transforming obstacles, and it seems that they fall away with more ease.

Upcoming post points will focus on these types of issues from this experience and will include practical steps to hold both sides equally from a leadership perspective and support each side involved to get their needs met, instead of only one side, due to the leadership going into sympathy versus empathy. This will be an integrative pattern to transform these types of bullying behaviour for your home, office and institution

An example of what you can expect to read about:

  • Home/Business Environment
  • Observations and Pitfalls of institutionalized expectations of employees in a home environment for one person
  • Employees who lacked typical dedication and devotion to their scheduled hours, and their possible contributions to this (from a professional with a background in hotel and hospitality)
  • Bullying incidents
  • Getting Resident outside after being housebound for over two years and only going out to go to Doctor appts
  • Patterns I used to encourage going outdoors with ease and motivation
    • Response of employees hearing about this, and aggressive responses
    • Response of a family member upon hearing this achievement
  • The use of inappropriately timed texting that instigated conflict and aggression
  • No regular eating schedule and missing meals daily basis
  • Lack of routine and schedule, and wellness shift with changes by creating regular daily patterns
  • Harmful Gossip that crossed between family and employees, no boundaries
  • Food Cost concerns by Office Admin that resulted in hostile behaviours, confusion and lack of food for resident:
    • The concern led to insufficient groceries in the home where I began feeding the resident my food daily
    • This concern led to repeated surveillance of me eating my own food by casual employees who wouldn’t know whose food was whose
    • My food was even used to make a meal for a family member by employees responsible for ordering food – there was a lack of consistent food supply
  • Business Partner/Friend who led a meeting to find out my concerns that led to employees changing all the points shared in the next days before our next meeting for resolution
  • Business Partner/Friends open hostility in a Professional Meeting
  • Sabatosh ofreputation in the community after being a whistleblower
  • Business Leader sabatoshing reputation with false accusations in the local community

Before exiting the property, I made some suggestions for the employee to implement. Some of these ideas were shared with a family member and business partner. I will do a detailed list of these points and recommendations and give an explanation of what inspired them. I believe they will be useful for other families who have employees working in a home with institutionalized training. I have successfully created other structured plans for families in need of this service in the local community. They are doable and work well.

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