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“The spoken word”

Balance - Spoken WordRecently when describing how contemplation can be an outcome when using a precise formula of spoken words,  a colleague mentioned a verse in the bible as follows:

John 1:1

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.

  • King James Bible “Authorized Version”, Cambridge Edition

What a wonderful insight and comparison!

The quote I have connected to in the past as describing this experience comes from Rumi:

“Out beyond right doing and wrong doing there is a field.  I will meet you there.”

Here are a few more lines in this chapter that continue to describe an experience of connection that may happen between two people speaking with honesty and listening with empathy.

2 The same was in the beginning with God.

3 All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made.

4 In him was life; and the life was the light of men.

5 And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not.

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©by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP, May, 2014
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000

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How can one balance aspects of self?

Medicine wheel2Recently I enjoyed viewing a “Coles Notes” explanation of the a Medicine Wheel from a fellow Canadian in Alberta.  This Elder was connecting with a troubled youth through the act of  walking.  There was not a direct focus on any issues.  I observed through their discussion that the Elder was very aware of this youth and their needs through their behavior and unspoken expression.  Rather than being direct and  telling the youth anything, it was through guidance and modelling. The Elder began sharing the concept of  the Medicine Wheel and encouraged the youth  to walk, enter and stop in the center.  The  explanation of the Medicine Wheel was subtle and included the four directions, north, south, east and west.  There was also mention of the balance of the four aspects of self for connecting to ones center.  

Viewing this was a revelation and it was exciting to recognize the similarities to the core principles in the integrative centering and wellness tools offered in the getting InTouch programs at Inside.  These include levels of experiencing integration from the outside in.  These include

  • guidance versus telling,
  • mentoring versus teaching,
  • modeling versus telling and not walking it oneself in reality,
  • experiencing patterns versus fixing it.  

The wellness tools are for creating an open learning mindfulness versus a closed mind that knows everything.  The difference:

Becoming comfortable within oneself leads to acceptance and expansion beyond experiences into deeper relationships.  

Staying in the discomfort of always knowing the answer, in fear of feeling, leads to a *struggle.  Being right creates disconnection from all things. 

*The struggle is keeping the walls of power up that come from being right.

One way to experience balancing aspects of self with Inside is through sharing a Labyrinth Walk.  If you compare the following labyrinth design with the Medicine Wheel above you will see the similarities.  Listening to the Elder share his Medicine Wheel with the youth I was able to hear very similar guidance of sharing a labyrinth walk with others.  I was thrilled to experience the connectedness between these ancient patterns!

Chartres 11 Circuit Labyrinth

Chartres 11 Circuit Labyrinth

 

Other ways to experience balancing aspects of  self with Inside tools and techniques:

Subtle Inner Connecting

  • Awareness through Movement©
  • Conscious Movement
  • Sharing the Labyrinth (similarities  to a Medicine Wheel)
  • Nature Walking
  • Meditation/Contemplation 

Deepening Inner Connections

  • Guidance with  the Spoken Word
  • Functional Integration©

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©by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP, May, 2014
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000

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Your Center Experience – Unbalanced

Infinity Flower ~ Personal Balance, Moment by Moment

Balance - 4 Steps out

Aspects of self out of balance creates Half Sided View

  • Have you ever heard belief statements from others only to witness that they are not practicing what they teach?
  • Have you noticed yourself making a statement based upon your viewpoint only to experience doing exactly the opposite?

If your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual  experiences are out of balance you may not be able to live them.  You may at those times then experience yourself as being dishonest or out of integrity.  It certainly will be others experience when with you.

In balance or our of balance, you can learn the tools to be aware of it and to move yourself towards balance!

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©by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP, May, 2014
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000

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Four Aspects of Self

 Transition into balance is easier if there is conscious awareness of what aspect of self is out of balance.

  • This diagram shows four aspects of self  requiring balance for a better connections with others.   They are:

Balance P

Have you explored how your relationships may be affected when one or more of these area’s are not in balance?

For example:  if you are hungry are you as patient as you could be with others, especially those close to you?

Step One

Consider what it means to have  balance in each one of these areas individually:

  • Physical Body

Balance - Physical

  • Mental

Balance - Mental

  • Emotional

Balance - Emotional

  • Spirit/Soul

Balance - Spirit

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©by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP, May, 2014
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000

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How is it for others if you are not flowing in and out of being both leader and follower

REMEMBER if you are always giving in and going along with things, your partner, friends, peers, etc., are going to lose interest.  Boring!

REMEMBER if you are always putting yourself first and not listening to what others think, your partner, friends, peers, etc., are going to lose interest.  Boring!

Wake up

5 Steps to invest in your relationships…..

PERSONAL TO DO LIST TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS:

1.   Set goals or intention
2.  Commit to yourself first
3.  Find out what values are important to you
4.  Learn how to stay connected to your values without losing them
5.  Explore ways of listening to increase your choices choices

 

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A Relationship Out of Balance

YinYang

Typical Love /Partnership
In a new relationship a dominate yin personality may let things slide.  They are enjoying themselves and expect that things will change. When the fun leaves and there is no change, the dominate yin try’s to make changes by talking about it.  They seek therapy and solutions,  or become submissive by putting up and shutting up and living in unhappy circumstances.  They may either end the relationship or live life without spirit.When a dominate yang personality starts a relationship it is fun, exciting and all about them.  They are usually not good listeners and rarely take in what is meaningful for the other person in the relationship.  When things go south they will be surprised and/or uncomfortable with hearing what they consider judgment or criticism.  Rather than connect to the message they will go into right or wrong thinking and blame others and withdraw. Opposite of a dominate yin who will want to talk about it, resolve it and move on.   The denial will turn into shock and disbelief when the relationship ends.  At this point they may be ready to work on it, not realizing the yin has truly moved on!

Sound familiar?  Translate this scenario into any situation with your sisters, brothers, peers, etc.

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