Tag Archives: Conflict Resolution

Educational Labyrinth Journey’s for Children & Teens

Teaching Labyrinth Workshop held at Brentwood Bay Elementary in Central Sannich followed by sharing at the World Children’s Summit on Peace and Nature Event held in Greater Victoria on Sept. 21, 2015

Somatic experience & a pathway to connection

Renee Lindstrom offers a somatic learning experience for leadership development for children and teens that includes mindfulness, logic, perception and movement patterns.  These tools can reflect the skills to connect  that begins inside while, at the same time, connecting with others in a respectful way regardless of differences. These techniques turn blocked and closed experiences into open expansive opportunities.
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Sharing the Teaching Labyrinth at St. Andrew’s Regional High School was a powerful experience to observe a shift from being closed and guarded to open and receptive in a group of teenagers.   There was ease and simplicity using these tools that created a shift that was noticeable to view.  They were noticeably  acting with deeper qualities of inclusion, respect and connection.  Checking in with the students afterwards this was what they described. Their experience of this was tangible.
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Maze Labyrinth Hearts
The purpose of the somatic exercises was to give these students a model and the opportunity to experience this shift using these integrative tools  so they could then duplicate it with ease and simplicity in the future.    After exploring personal and group movement patterns we moved on to exploring a labyrinth pathway.  A labyrinth has no barriers.  It is a pathway into the center (heart) and back out again.  It is not a maze which is confusing and a challenge requiring one to use their thinking.  A labyrinth shifts a walker from the chaos of their thinking into a calmer somatic experience.
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The suggestion for walking a pathway in an inclusive and grounded way was it could be a more subtle and meaningful form of support in conflict resolution.  The concept is that everyone has differences and that if we include an opening shared experience for connecting deeper individually while walking together before talking,  this may open the space  to be more willing to hear these differences.
In communication practice I urge my students to stop and check in before reacting and speaking out.  The purpose is to pause and translate what they are thinking into a connection that the other person can hear.  This pathway reflects this process and together with some movement techniques for clarity and groundedness,  walking this pathway becomes a pattern reflecting this process.
I recommend these patterns as tools in organization and educational institutions:
  • as a preventative experience to cut conflict before it happens
  • as a way to connect before trying to resolve differences
  • to create respect and acceptance in a community experience
  • to bring together a community
  • to support making decisions
  • to cut anxiety before events, meetings, challenges

Support your school, business group or community organization to explore connection before solutions.  Cut thought the labels creating enemy images such as victim, perpetrator and bullying and support ways that are easy and simple. Move from the chaotic mind into mindfulness of acceptance and respect.

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Copyright 2014 – 2019 Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

 

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InTouch Talk in your community

14InTouch Talk programs are designed to speak abundance, integrate universal values and develop emphatic listening.

InTouch Talk has been shared in the following ways:

1.  Introductory and Integration Follow up in the workplace:

  • With counselors in talking circle setting
  • With employees to create harmony and respect for business owner
  • In business offices to align mission statements with ethical behavior
  • Early childhood educators for teaching

2.  Ongoing workshops in the community since 2007

3.  Ongoing workshops in Public Schools since 2007

4.  In talking circles since 2004

5.  Coaching since 2004

Intouch Talk has helped to improve relationships in the areas of:
  • Pre Marriage Coaching
  • Building Better Marriages
  • Deconstructing Marriages
  • Partnerships
  • Business Relationships
  • Conflict Resolution & Mediation
  • Parenting
  • Teaching
  • Educational Institutions
  • Organizations
  • Bullying/Anti bullying
  • Government
  • Policy Making
  • and more……

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A pattern of movement for conflict resolution process?

A conflict resolution Labyrinth walk? Yes of course! Shared a creative afternoon yesterday exploring why early communities (pre-religion) would have walked a labyrinth. A hot question on the minds of the participants as the day started and answered only after a guided and experiential journey of labyrinth patterns. An answer was not given in the traditional teaching way, but integrated through a personal exploration, in the safety of a group. An experience that started with strangers (disconnected from each other) and ended in a calm, centered, meaningful and grounded group connection. As the underlying intention was to answer this community question they had a growing realization of the power of walking this pattern before meetings. The purpose: to have the participants walk it together prior to the business meeting to reintegrate community and expand acceptance of each others differences through the pattern of movement. This is what I describe as Green Behavior and love the implications. Can you imagine different outcomes with exploring labyrinth walks for conflict resolution?

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by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000
 15th Annual TSL Labyrinth Gathering Vcr Island – Victoria Event Organizer
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Wednesday’s April NVC Awareness Victoria doesn’t disappoint

Once again Victoria responds with interest by attending The Church of Truths Oneness Wednesdays offering of topics with a  Nonviolent Communication perspective.  Yesterday evening the topic was ‘Resolving Conflicts and presented by Michele Favarger.

Michele offered a deeper connection to the four basic steps of Nonviolent Communication; observations, feelings, needs and requests and their relationships to the first part of any dialogue – self connection.  She stressed the importance of choosing to connect to ones own personal need replacing habits of seeing others in what Marshall Rosenberg calls, ‘enemy images.’  The reference is to how we hear hard to messages being about us rather than hearing what the other persons is needing.

Michele guided last nights group through  this process with ease and humor, including personal stories on how this style of communication has supported her own changing consciousness and outcomes during her own experiences of conflict.

Judi Morin who opened April’s series introducing NVC  joined us again last night and found herself involved in a spontaneous role play with Michele resulting from an audience question that was a highlight of the evening.

Questions of where to go from here came from the audience  with request expressions of personal preferences for their own personal safety in learning.  If this interests you as well, more connection  contact information is listed below.  As a grassroots organizer for the Gandhi, King Seasons for Peace and Nonviolence and this month-long Nonviolent Communication Awareness Campaign  event together as an example of creating peace in your world, I want to acknowledge that there is a number of Victoria people offering a variety of opportunities to experience Nonviolent Communication throughout the Greater Victoria Communities that were unable to participate.  Teachings and practice groups are happening in Sidney, at two of our local Unity Churches, one in West Saanich and one in Victoria,  at a local Jewish Community Centre, at the Crystal Pool, in James Bay at New Horizons, and others in private offices such as Inside Awareness for Healthy Living and some homes to meet the needs of sharing, learning and connection.  Others are taking this into their schools and I know of some in government and professional organizations that  have intensified their NVC training to make change from within their society.  We have one local who presented an NVC theme at the United Nations in 2011!  (Marion Little shared her UN experience with us at  the showing of Heart to Lead, Women as Allies for the Greater Good)

NVC inspires people to change their world and those who connect to it long to share through teaching and practice and want others to interact with in this particular way.  Marshall Rosenberg has designed this system to go beyond right and wrong thinking and encourages it’s integration to spread outwards therefore you will find a vibrant grassroots community locally for in person meetings and on-line globally.

Last year I heard someone personally frustrated with Nonviolent Communication express  this in their own style of communication group classes that resulted in a closed statement  that ‘it didn’t work.’  I was shocked,  surprised and somewhat curious about this statement and yet knew that since beginning to practice in 2000/2001 that it can be a challenging process to integrate into everyday living.  I believe it was our own local Selinde Krayenhoff, co-founder of Island Parent Magazine in 2001/2002 who began sharing Nonviolent Communication for Parents who stated, ‘this is a lifestyle choice and a practice.’  It’s true, it is and one that I believe is more than talking about it and involves a commitment and willingness to make personal changes that results in clarity of our owning thinking process.  It can be an amazing journey into self discovery  that can lead to success in our relationships.  Yes in the learning and beginning a practice of doing NVC we may drive others a bit crazy, yet getting beyond the doing into being, they are just as rewarded as we are! Therefore folks, if you are looking for a way to improve how you do relationships whether with your boss, your employees, your parents, children or beloved this is a form of connecting that is being in relationships that improves the quality of experiencing our connectedness that leads to inner content.

Appreciation to all of you for your support, interest and attendance in coming to meet and hear more about these topics.  As promised for more can be found at:

These sites are not local, yet you may be able to get access to upcoming local events

To find out more about the getting involved locally with the Season for Peace and Nonviolence or for local activities, ideas and suggestions or the Heart to Lead, Women as Allies for the Greater Good
If you are looking for support to put on your own event from providing a complete service to a presenter, contact me for more information at renee@insideawareness.com

3 Steps to Empathy in the Classroom & at Home

by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP @ Inside Awareness, Living in Natures Love Blog & Renee Lindstrom Live

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Integration of Body, Mind & Spatial Awareness

 

#1  Organization:  SETTING UP THE PRACTICE STRUCTURE 

1.  Set up a regular time for practice. Integrating a new skill will need time, patience and structure. Practice will  prepare students for those moments that are triggered.  For example – Recent work is showing that children who practice tantrums with adults develop markers and begin to defuse the real tantrums. It offers adults a recourse for connecting to the child in the heat of the moment.  This too is practice ahead of time for those times to connect with oneself and others in the heat of reactions.

2.  Begin with describing the agenda of exercises and explain what they can expect during this practice time. Give advance notice of any interruptions that you are aware of that may happen.  For example, if someone needs to leave the group early or come late.  This  defuses any distraction and curiosity. This will have a settling effect.

3.  In the first session make agreements together. Ask them to share what is important to them for learning.   Use the following points as a guide and possible examples.   This will become the reference point for those moments when they break the agreements.  Develop group empathy rather than stating they are doing something wrong, begin to identify what  needs of the group that are not being met.

Our familiar experience is not being listened to, so our tendency is to hide”

For example:

a.  Needs –  to be heard, for kindness, respect and safety.

When one person is speaking, the group is listening and not interrupting,     correcting, telling their stories.

b.  Needs – equality, mutuality, efficient use of time

Time limits.  Set times for sharing in group or in role-plays.   Agree upon a signal such as a bell sound to pause and switch.

c.  Needs – choice, learning and contribution

Participation in the large group, by choice.  Participation in the smaller breakout groups, the need is for everyone to participate to increase learning opportunities for everyone.

Please note – *At all sessions together, begin with reviewing your agreement.  During the sessions bring them back by discussing the unmet needs of the other individuals in the group when forgetting the agreements.

#2  Group Sharing- LISTENING & CONNECTING

a)  Purpose and Intention

Focus and invite each members input in the round of sharing.

  • -Ask participants to pause, check inside and ask themselves, what feeling they have in this moment.  Give them examples such as; tired,  sad, happy, anxious, nervous, frustrated. 
  • -State each person only has a couple of seconds to state a feeling, and not a story!
  • -Have everyone stop and leave a  few seconds of silence between speakers
*silently notice the words they are using as feeling words to describe their feelings * more later
*notice if they begin to tell a story and hijack the exercise away.  If so, simply put your hand up to say stop and say, “I am worried that not everyone will have a chance to share. can you tell us one feeling word that seems bigger for you in this moment.”

b)  Choose to go around the group to build group listening and perception skills or to move to the next exercise.  To continue

have them share one sentence with the group with the next person repeating back what they said.  You begin and the person to your right tells you back your sentence.  Pause and then have that person share a sentence and so on.  No responses or jumping in by the group during this exercise.

c)  If you choose next exercise, complete this round by asking for two participants to tell back what was going on for them when they heard the responses.  For example, “Can I hear from two students what came up for them as they listened to groups contributions.”  Things like, “Was it hard to listen and not talk?  Did you feel like you wanted to jump in and agree with who was speaking?  Did you want to tell your story.”

d)  Move on to some exercises.  For some ideas of developing listening skills and how to give feedback, go to:

Exercise #1 – Listening together through movement, LEADING AND FOLLOWING Through Movement

Exercise #2 – Developing Inner Listening – EXPLORING FEELING THROUGH MUSIC

Exercise #3 – The road to conflict Resolution with Listening Skills Through conversation.

The value of these exercises is it develops  empathy and expands personal perceptions  that each person perceives and expresses differently.  We do not all feel, think and talk the same way. 

#3 – Developing Feedback 

-Conclude the skill building practices, come back into the group and share by asking the participants what is alive for them now.  Ask for a specific number of participant’s to share what their experience was and have them include if the exercise met their need. For example with the listening exercise, did they feel heard by the person who was listening to them, if so, how was this to feel heard?   

If you have time you may go around the group again and ask for a feeling word to close this session.

*SKILLS THAT YOU ARE BUILDING WITH THESE SIMPLE STEPS:

1.  A vocabulary of feelings words.  *Print off a list of actual felt sense feeling words to become familiar yourself of the words being mistakenly used as feeling words.

2.  The skill of reflecting inwardly to begin to know what they are feeling and to become comfortable with their feelings.

3.  Reducing personal reactions to someone else’s response or reaction with the intention to pause and check in individually for a moment before responding or reacting to someone else. (the old saying – stop and think before speaking, now could be stop and check in with yourself before speaking).

4.  Empathy building and introduction of the group intention and the group needs through establishing agreements.

3.  Listening without interrupting, correcting, blaming or shaming.

4.  Giving feedback without taking over their story or telling them what to do or ignoring them.

5.  Giving group feedback.

6.  Introducing personal responsibility in away that can be heard.

7.  Introducing Needs (Values) *building support for Virtues Project – bringing in skills to create the experience of being and acting in the virtue.

8.  Developing conflict resolutions skills organically.

9.  Building confidence, self-trust and inner strength.

10.  Understanding the bully, inside and in a group.

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Empathy from cultivating awareness from the inside out

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

Learning Tools: Conflict Resolution Exercise through pattern of Listening

by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP @ Inside Awareness, Living in Natures Love Blog & Renee Lindstrom Live

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Integration of Body, Mind & Spatial Awareness

 

The exercise is designed for integration prior to resolving any conflict.  It is educational and designed to take out the right and wrong fighting.  It organizes participants into roles that supports getting to the root of the conflict and moving through it to resolve  and move forward willingly.

PDF Download – InTouch Exercise – Conflict Resolution through Listening Skills

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Empathy from cultivating awareness from the inside out

The intent of this article is in the context of how  communication and movement can support the decrease of anxiety, stress & fear.


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Natural World Empathy Support 

  • Natures Love plant essences blended by Renee: support body, and minds feelings that block emotions and self-confidence
Learn more
  • Eating Coloured Foods:  Metal, Emotional and Physical Support
Learn more

Find out more on how integrating the arts of movement, communication and space compliment your experience and encompasses a holistic approach to wellness.

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

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