Category Archives: Cultivating Awareness

5 Steps to invest in your relationships…..

PERSONAL TO DO LIST TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS:

1.   Set goals or intention
2.  Commit to yourself first
3.  Find out what values are important to you
4.  Learn how to stay connected to your values without losing them
5.  Explore ways of listening to increase your choices choices

 

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A Relationship Out of Balance

YinYang

Typical Love /Partnership
In a new relationship a dominate yin personality may let things slide.  They are enjoying themselves and expect that things will change. When the fun leaves and there is no change, the dominate yin try’s to make changes by talking about it.  They seek therapy and solutions,  or become submissive by putting up and shutting up and living in unhappy circumstances.  They may either end the relationship or live life without spirit.When a dominate yang personality starts a relationship it is fun, exciting and all about them.  They are usually not good listeners and rarely take in what is meaningful for the other person in the relationship.  When things go south they will be surprised and/or uncomfortable with hearing what they consider judgment or criticism.  Rather than connect to the message they will go into right or wrong thinking and blame others and withdraw. Opposite of a dominate yin who will want to talk about it, resolve it and move on.   The denial will turn into shock and disbelief when the relationship ends.  At this point they may be ready to work on it, not realizing the yin has truly moved on!

Sound familiar?  Translate this scenario into any situation with your sisters, brothers, peers, etc.

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Are you a leader, follower or both?

BalanceSometimes we are leaders and sometimes we are followers in relationships! If we are in balance, we are always in motion and flowing in and out of planning and action.  To describe this balance in the popular terms of yin and yang lets first look at their attitudes:  We could also describe these two dominate behavioral types as round (yin) and sharp edges (yang).

Yin & Yang attitudes


  • Balanced Yin     

         Listener, Patient, Planner, Quiet, reflective, empathetic, collaborative,         willing to follow, glow from the inside

  • Balanced Yang         

Speaker, Spontaneous, Quick, Energized, Strategist, Outgoing, strong ideals, willing leader shine from the outside

  • Unbalanced Yin

           Depressed, Withdrawn, Internalize, Hurt, Sad,
Death Wish

  • Unbalanced Yang

Aggressive, Loud, Angry, Anxious, Externalize, Vengeful, Closed, Compartmentalize, Rigid, Take ones life,

Not a complete list ~ add your own descriptions.….
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“Behavior Quote”

Behavior change - lily

Balancing Parenting & Your Relationship

Family Relationship GoalsPlanning your home culture to ensure more needs are met in your relationship with your partner, while still meeting the needs of the children,  is something that is not a focus in our learning and growth.  There is an expectation that we know this based upon your own earlier family experiences.  Yet, finding your self with babies in your relationship while trying to keep up your life before babies might just find you unprepared!  You may have strong ideas for how you want to raise your children that then may  becomes a burden to your relationship with each other if planning for balance is not met.  Yes planning for balance!

If you find yourself in this position or you are about to introduce babies into your growing family,  take time to plan, have goals and set intentions or become conscious of area that you take for granted now that become obstacles later on.

Upcoming workshop:

October Workshop:

Wednesday, OCTober 2 – OCTober 16, 6:00-8:00PM

James Bay Community School Centre

  •      140 Oswego Street
Create a home with parents who have a focus on relationship self-care.  Discover how you can set up a structure to keep your love alive based upon equal giving and receiving, respect, understanding, consideration, intimacy  empathy and compassion.  Spend time now to save time later.  Learn to create value based agreements and a structure to stayed connected during the most emotional, busiest and sometimes most confusing times of your relationships. Learn how to ask for what you need without creating guilt and resentment.
3/$35 – REGISTRATION:  250-389-1470
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Putting the “I” back into parenting:
Other parenting Workshops:

Westsong Walkway in West Bay ~ Monday, July 29th, 9 a.m. – 10 a.m.

  • SUMMER WALKING TOURS

We will focus on slowing down to connect and increase our experience.  So important in this fast paced world, even our thoughts and movements aren’t able to slow down!  Join us and explore  your fitness in a “new” way that is not focused on effort.  It is focused on turning the effort “off.”  Same fitness benefits!  Added benefit – see the beauty in our own Greater Victoria Communities……..

Register with renee@insideawareness.com for each tour of interest.  Cost – $10.00 (no debit or credit cards – cash only)

Saxe Point Park ~ Monday, July 22nd, 9 a.m. – 10:00 a.m.

  •  SUMMER WALKING TOURS

We will focus on slowing down to connect and increase our experience.  So important in this fast paced world, even our thoughts and movements aren’t able to slow down!  Join us and exlore  your fitness in a “new” way that is not focused on effort.  It is focused on turning the effort “off.”  Same fitness benefits!  Added benefit – see the beauty in our own Greater Victoria Communities……..

Register with renee@insideawareness.com for each tour of interest.  Cost – $10.00 (no debit or credit cards – cash only)

Meet up @ 8:45 a.m. – Parking Lot of Saxe Point Park at the end of Fraser Street

During World War 2 a searchlight was installed at Saxe Point as part of the DND’s shoreline defense.  Today the park provides spectacular views of the Olympic Mountains and Strait of Juan de Fuca. Fine perennial and shrub borders and a large open lawn area overlook the water. Forested trails and beach accesses are set among mature Douglas fir and Grand fir.

For more summer walking with Inside Awareness