“Let us take care of the children,
For they have a long way to go
Let us take care of the Elders,
For they have come a long way
Let us take care of those in between,
For they are doing the Work.”Nelson Mandela
Category Archives: Cultivating Awareness
Lets take care……
How is it for others if you are not flowing in and out of being both leader and follower
REMEMBER if you are always giving in and going along with things, your partner, friends, peers, etc., are going to lose interest. Boring!
REMEMBER if you are always putting yourself first and not listening to what others think, your partner, friends, peers, etc., are going to lose interest. Boring!
Upcoming:
A Relationship Out of Balance
Typical Love /Partnership
In a new relationship a dominate yin personality may let things slide. They are enjoying themselves and expect that things will change. When the fun leaves and there is no change, the dominate yin try’s to make changes by talking about it. They seek therapy and solutions, or become submissive by putting up and shutting up and living in unhappy circumstances. They may either end the relationship or live life without spirit.When a dominate yang personality starts a relationship it is fun, exciting and all about them. They are usually not good listeners and rarely take in what is meaningful for the other person in the relationship. When things go south they will be surprised and/or uncomfortable with hearing what they consider judgment or criticism. Rather than connect to the message they will go into right or wrong thinking and blame others and withdraw. Opposite of a dominate yin who will want to talk about it, resolve it and move on. The denial will turn into shock and disbelief when the relationship ends. At this point they may be ready to work on it, not realizing the yin has truly moved on!
Sound familiar? Translate this scenario into any situation with your sisters, brothers, peers, etc.
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Are you a leader, follower or both?
Sometimes we are leaders and sometimes we are followers in relationships! If we are in balance, we are always in motion and flowing in and out of planning and action. To describe this balance in the popular terms of yin and yang lets first look at their attitudes: We could also describe these two dominate behavioral types as round (yin) and sharp edges (yang).
Yin & Yang attitudes
- Balanced Yin
Listener, Patient, Planner, Quiet, reflective, empathetic, collaborative, willing to follow, glow from the inside
- Balanced Yang
Speaker, Spontaneous, Quick, Energized, Strategist, Outgoing, strong ideals, willing leader shine from the outside
- Unbalanced Yin
Depressed, Withdrawn, Internalize, Hurt, Sad,
Death Wish
- Unbalanced Yang
Aggressive, Loud, Angry, Anxious, Externalize, Vengeful, Closed, Compartmentalize, Rigid, Take ones life,
Not a complete list ~ add your own descriptions.….
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Balancing Parenting & Your Relationship
Planning your home culture to ensure more needs are met in your relationship with your partner, while still meeting the needs of the children, is something that is not a focus in our learning and growth. There is an expectation that we know this based upon your own earlier family experiences. Yet, finding your self with babies in your relationship while trying to keep up your life before babies might just find you unprepared! You may have strong ideas for how you want to raise your children that then may becomes a burden to your relationship with each other if planning for balance is not met. Yes planning for balance!
If you find yourself in this position or you are about to introduce babies into your growing family, take time to plan, have goals and set intentions or become conscious of area that you take for granted now that become obstacles later on.
Upcoming workshop:
October Workshop:
Wednesday, OCTober 2 – OCTober 16, 6:00-8:00PM
James Bay Community School Centre
- 140 Oswego Street
Create a home with parents who have a focus on relationship self-care. Discover how you can set up a structure to keep your love alive based upon equal giving and receiving, respect, understanding, consideration, intimacy empathy and compassion. Spend time now to save time later. Learn to create value based agreements and a structure to stayed connected during the most emotional, busiest and sometimes most confusing times of your relationships. Learn how to ask for what you need without creating guilt and resentment.
3/$35 – REGISTRATION: 250-389-1470
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Articles:
Putting the “I” back into parenting:
- Part 1 – Value Based Self Care as Parents
- Part 2 – Self-Care in Parenting – Relationship Centers
- Part 3 – Self Care in Parenting – Defining Parts of Parenting
- Part 4 – Self Care in Parenting – Importance of Self-Care
- Part 5 – Self Care in Parenting – How does the flow of dialogue resemble a labyrinth?
Other parenting Workshops:
- Power of Movement for Expecting & New Parents
- Parenting with Compassion & Empathy
- Teaching Children Empathy – Parents Story-Time!
- Teaching Compassion to Children
Inside Awareness Center for Integrative Somatic Learning 