Have you ever considered what the source of some of your feelings are?  Check out some root causes of 10 feeling words that do not focus upon labeling or moralistic judgement.  Check in next time and not label someone a bully, notice any changes if you were to reword it.  What if you changed it to; their need for peer respect, kindness and safety are not being met?

Think about this.  If a student or employee feels embarrassed by their teacher or boss, how to they process their feelings?  Is there a chance that they will go out into the playground, office, store or even take it home  and act out violently?   How do you process hard to hear messages?

1.  Scared – If you are scared your needs for these values are not being met;

• safety, consideration,  need for inclusion, belonging, peer respect, to contribute

2.  Angry – If you are angry your needs for these values are not being met;

fairness, autonomy, respect, to be seen, to be heard, acknowledged, appreciation  to matter, choice, safety, consideration, safety, peace….

3. Frustrated – If you are frustrated your needs for these values are not being met;

trust, honesty, acknowledgement, to be seen, appreciation, respect, calm, peace

4.  Hurt – If you are hurt your needs for these values are not being met;

appreciation, respect, kindness, acknowledgement, recognition, honest, trust, reliability, fairness, honesty, justice

5.  Disappointed –  If you are disappointed your needs for these values are not being met;

trust, dependability, honesty, committment

6.  Confused – If you are confused your needs for these values are not being met;

fairness, clarity, understanding, empathy

7.  Sad – If you are sad your needs for these values are not being met;

support, understanding, caring, inclusion, belonging, consideration  respect, trust, respect, friendship, community, acknowledgment, recognition, fairness, mutuality

8.  Lonely – If you are lonely your needs for these values are not being met;

friendship, companionship, relationship, community, belonging, inclusion, to matter, to be valued, to contribute, recognition, acknowledgement, appreciated

9.  Overwhelmed – If you are overwhelmed your needs for these values are not being met;

ease, space, peace, quiet, freedom, autonomy, support, understanding

10.  Embarrassed – If you are embarrassed your needs for these values are not being met;

understanding, acknowledgement, respectful communication, belonging, inclusion, to be heard, to matter and be valued, acceptance

See 10 Words Commonly confused as feelings