Tag Archives: Value Awareness

Integrating the Value of Regret

Life Area:  Celebration

 Not acknowledging regret may lead to guilt, blame and shame emotions.  If these feelings are left to grow they may nurture resentment leading to depression.  This week take time to consider some things that you may have contributed to that you felt regret for afterwards. 

Write out a simple observation, notice your present sense feelings and name the current need.  Follow up with a request either to follow up with sharing your regret with the parties involved or to have a ritual to signify letting go of it. 

Integrating the value of Caring

Life Area:  Nurturing

 Compassionate, warm-hearted, loving, 

 tenderly concerned, helpful, affectionate
being kind, being sympathy and understanding
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Take time during your days this week to notice if this is what you receive in your relationships.  Be honest with yourself by recognizing if this is what you give others.

Integrating the value of Love

Live Area:  Interdependence

 Explore the three components of love: intimacy, commitment, and passion in your life.  Hold each one separately and notice what feelings come up.  Are your needs for intimacy being met in your relationship/s?  Are your needs for commitment being met?  Are your needs for passion being met?  Recognition is our first step to balancing out our needs.  Willingness to accept feeling our feelings by being in the quality of whatever they are without justifying, story, or fixing  is the second. 

Integrating the value of Self-Forgiveness

Life area:  Celebration

Making mistakes is part of learning and growing. If we haven’t forgiven ourselves we will continue creating an identity around our pain, and this becomes our constant companion and self image.  It is how others know us in our relationships, “the one who is suffering.” Renee Lindstrom

 

Notice your suffering this week, name the feeling and identify what value that wasn’t met. 

Choice

A strong human value/need is to have choice and the power to make a decision between two or more possibilities.  A value-based empathetic language of compassion is one that acknowledges choice in dialogue.  It translates the mundane “have to” consciousness into one of recognition that this too is a choice and translates it into using different phrases that create open-ended choices.

The value of choice is one of human’s greatest needs

Life Area:  Autonomy

It is this need that could be the source of all moralistic judgments and passive and aggressive violence.  If there is no choice, the options are to fight or give in.  Imagine a moment what feelings arise for you when you consider not having a choice.  Do you sense a fight, flight or fright moment? Learning self-empathy steps and those for empathetic listening of others will shift those in the conversation into an experience of choice.

Practice your empathy skills this week. 

The value of courage:

Life Area: Interdependence
Learning a new language is a new culture. You even think differently! It doesn’t take courage to learn a new language it takes time, effort and patience. It can be stimulating and inspiring. Now, here’s the thing, take your birth language and consider creating a new one while noticing your thought/speaking patterns. With a new language you are developing new brain pathways. Changing your language you are retraining old pathways in your brain and creating new. Now add to it that you are stepping free of the herd and being the change. This is courage!