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9 common reasons not to invest in yourself

Take time to read some of the outcomes of others who have had these same excuses underneath.

1. I’m not interested.

Are you, your partner and peers empowered by your connection and satisfied with your relationships? Are your interactions successfully executed and in the energy of gratification?

2. Everything is going fine, thanks.

Are you settled into a groove of accepting what life throws at you and not interested in connecting to how to enrich your life and bring aliveness to yours and others experiences?

3. I’m too busy now.

Are you too overwhelmed and coping just to get by?

4. I’ve heard this before, how do I know you can perform?

This is about how you perform and finding new ways for increasing your success rate!

5. Who are you and what do you do?

I am an objective third-party that can translate the behaviors that are keeping you, your partner, peers and family from hearing each other and find mutual agreements for moving forward towards success!

6. What can you possibly teach me?

Your blind spots that are your weaknesses.

7. I’ve worked with a consultant before and it didn’t work.

That is no reason to give up and not find a person more suited to your unique needs.

8. I can’t afford your services

If this is the case, you can not afford not to have someone to support your increased success rate with employee and client relationships.

9. That all sounds great, but I have no money

Best time to invest in yourself. You are your own resource!

Some case studies:

These cases  focus upon doubt that they can’t afford coaching or are resistant to change:

1.  Husband is diagnosed with critical condition and wife is not able to cope with the fear of loosing him.  Why?  She believes she has not had any responsibility in their marriage and fears she cannot take care of herself.  Rather than enjoying the remaining time together and increase his healing potential, the focus is on her as she collapses.  Even to the point that she cannot drive and he is responsible for getting her to her appointments and his own.  He visibly should not be behind the wheel.  He passes away after a year of disruption, confusion, anxiety without any recognition and lack of loving connection.  She discovers that her live continues.

2.  Husband is unable to share feeling about children and time they take from his relationship with his wife.  He goes into resentment with his partner and dislikes his children and eventually he looses his business and family in despair.  Children grow up believing father does not love them and they are lacking in some way.

How could they not afford coaching – the cost was higher than they expected!

A few cases receiving somatic coaching with Renee Lindstrom:

3.  Wife and husband are married for over 20 years and are unable to resolve their differences in a way that each partner feels mutually heard and that they matter.  They have a business together that they both work in.  Coaching began after one partner has left the marriage home and one partner became suicidal.  With coaching both partners are able to move forward separately while supporting one another through the transition and reaching a mutual settlement that included value for each of them.

2.  A client’s health history created a search for solutions from many sources that didn’t show any signs of supporting an increase in mobility and wellness.  After only a few sessions this person experienced increased mobility that translated into a renewed joy in living.  A bleak future of deterioration became one of optimism.

3.  Clients that when young business people did not seek support to change their ability to be in relationships.  As elders now they experience life without a community.  They didn’t have families and didn’t take time to develop their social network.  As their abilities decrease and they can no longer distract themselves with the usual activities,  they find themselves in a state of despair.  They are  faced with the pain they ran away from as children and alone.  They long to be taken care of and supported in their increasingly ill-health.  There is no one who is that interested in them.  Their doctors get tired of seeing them for every little ailment real and imaginary and begin searching frantically to find support.   Sessions consist of reducing their anxiety levels so that they can relax and reduce their stress.  At a time of enjoying their later years they are dealing with depression and longing to die.  Honest conversation, accountability discussions and empathy coaching turns hopelessness into hopefulness.

Complaining

The man who complains about the way the ball bounces is likely the one who dropped it.

Lou Holtz

Waking up with action

One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but my making the darkness conscious.

Carl Jung

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Story time: Your Story, my story, our stories

Change your story, change your life

  • We are our story and all our relationships will fit into the context of  our story.
  • We are our story and our confidence will fit into the context of our story.

Story-time ~ First years

Bring yours into transparency:

“My Story, by ……………………………………………”

I grew up believing I was…………………………………………, as I was the ……………. child, and I developed…………………………………… My father was …………………………………………. and my mother was…………………………………………. My earliest memories are of how ……………………………….spent time with me. They had, didn’t have  the time to spend with me in my earliest development stage by encouraging me, playing with me and letting me develop at my own pace. They did/didn’t make eye contact that reflected I was beautiful and magnificent.   After-all they ………………………………………………….

From my ………………..(?)……………………I learned to say my first words and listening to them I was able to put sentences together. So I began to think in a similar way. ……………………………shaped my thinking patterns that I now take for granted.  I watched………………………………….to see how they reacted to me, others and their changing environment and this began to shape my emotional reactions. I noticed how their voices changed and the things they talked about to discover what was important to them. Some of my earliest memories of what was important to my ……………………………………. was

I remember going to school and making my first friends and how they looked different from me. I was able to compare myself to them and the differences that stood out to me was that I was ………………and they where …………………………………………………..   As we continued to grow and develop the changes began to …………………………………………………………….. The teacher ………………………was ………………………………………….to me. The teachers name was and he/she had/didn’t have time to spend with me in a kind, gentle way that I felt……..comfortable and at ease with this new …………………………………

Add:

Notice how these early experiences now define your first reactions to any stimulus that you experience in your relationships.  I refer to stimulus as anything that brings you from your center of peace and inner quiet.  It will be what brings you into action or reaction.

______________________________________________________________by Renee Lindstrom, getting InTouch Connecting for Inside Awareness -2013

Circular Movement

Everything the Power of the World does is done in a circle.

Black Elk

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Inside’s Daily Inspiration – Being Yourself

Right and Left Brain

The creative person seems to have a special talent for dipping into his intuitive, image-filled right hemisphere while harnessing the illuminating experience with his left brain.

Steven Zinker

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Inside’s Daily Inspiration – Being Yourself

Brains and Imagination in Partnership

All the most important aspects of thought comes from that which is thinking through us.  and this process is the myth, one of the most profound things of life; it is creation itself, which becomes accessible and, in part, emerges and gives, of its own accord, a sense of direction to the human creature.  It is something with which – if we use our brains and imagination – we are in partnership.

Sir Laurens van der Post

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Inside’s Daily Inspirations – Being Yourself