Qualities of Leadership

How would you define the leaders in your life?  Have you stopped to consider the type of leadership you would like to experience?  If so, what qualities would you these mentors have?  Any of the following?

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Once you create your dream list of leadership qualities stop to consider if you demonstrate these qualities yourself.  Do you walk your talk?

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication,  Empathy,  Values Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder

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Physical Attributes of Chronic Fear & Anxiety

There have been opportunities to explore the long-term physical, mental and emotional effects of long-term fear and anxiety as a Feldenkrais® Practitioner and Life Coach .  Here are some examples of the results that have been presented.  Keep in mind that these results are based upon cases where these conditions have evolved slowly over time without any awareness.  The slow development of physical change results from lack of attention on body awareness, therefore,  the shift in movement behaviors generally they are not noticed.   

Flight

Dominate flight reactions tend to be the loss of strength physically, mentally or emotionally.    Two physical responses to panic; collapsing,  going limp or running away.  Chronic fear and anxiety can be noticeable in  general appearance and in social behaviors.   A common quality is over achievement, overdoing it whether hold strong, being strong or double jointed and limber. There is a disconnection from body awareness. Generally the body is not highly regarded, taken care of or appreciated.    

These following three reactions have shown up in cases of without a balanced approach to developing all aspects of well-being.  

1.  A  dominant focus of attention on a spiritual movement practice.  The physical movement of the body structure has presented with lack of strength and limited inner body awareness.  The core force of inner physical strength has been replaced with a limp disconnected reaction.

2.  A dominant focus of attention on a goal or achievement.  The body is strong with a lack of connection to the finer qualities in mobility.  The body is used to excel  the focus is on strategies to get results versus developing whole and spontaneous movement.

3.  A dominant focus on fear and creating safety.  This has shown up as permanent state without  connection to ones senses in the present moment.  The only connection to a felt body sense is a source of discomfort and pain.  It is regarded as the enemy and when explored the pain is a memory and not necessarily current.  

In relationships dominant flight fear/anxiety reactors will generally lack the qualities of self-empathy and empathy for others.  They are self-focused and intent on creating safety by whatever strategies that have been learned.  The need is for survival and it is primal.  This Read more….

Freeze

1.  Freezing presents itself by the lack of spontaneous moving parts in breathing and posture.  There is a habit of moving the body in a locked posture with the  inability to move different body parts separately.  An example of this locking of the head in a forward posture.  Turning to the left and right and become a full body movement as the pain of locking ones head creates a habit.

2.  Tremors start with long-term freezing.  The muscles are in a state of permanent contraction or extension.  Over time with the loss of the ability to extend, contract and relax in a flow of movement it has resulted in slowing movement and  shaking.

3. Slowing down will eventual result in  rigidity setting in as the posture of freezing locks in and becomes a habit.  It presents as a complete frozen state that includes facial expression.  This may eventually extend to drooping eyes, drooling and lack of mental/cognitive clarity as the physical effort to function becomes too exhausting.

In relationships most dominant freeze fear/anxiety reactors will be considerate of others and not want to hurt anyone’s feelings.  Their first reaction may be surprise, shock and horror at what they are witnessing, hearing, or experiencing. In relationships things will generally be taken personally and turned inward without attempts to stand up for themselves immediately.  Time is needed to process and the moment for responding has past leaving unresolved interactions and experienced as passive.  Read more…….

Fight

1.  A dominant focus on control.  Resistant to experiencing support that is not calculated and controlled.  Fear is subtle and deeply rooted therefore, movement is isolated and not a spontaneous flow.  Somatic learning is blocked by the filter of control.  Results in increased physical pain further reducing movement.

2. A dominant focus on seeking answers yet unable to integrate movement experience to form new habits.  The need to know has replaced sensual awareness therefore unable to recognize and value change.  When there is a response of  less tension and increased relaxation it cannot be fully absorbed and appreciated due to distractions of trying to understand it.    Will objectify versus notice their experience.   Therefore will adjust posture according to thinking versus somatic experiencing.

3.  A dominant focus on working hard and using brute strength.  Strength will be a reactive posture that will lead to lack of using fine motor skills resulting in being clumsy, tense and awkward.

In relationships the dominant fight responded will react with right and wrong thinking.  Therefore others are the enemies and the roots of disconnect.  This habitual response will lack the skill to include others perspectives and beliefs as they believe they have the answer.  Read more………

The intent of this article is in the context of how  communication and movement can support the decrease of anxiety, stress & fear. Values & Empathy integration in communication for transforming disconnection into connection and movement for calming one’s nervous system.

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Mental and Emotional Responses to Fear & Anxiety

As a Life Transitions/Relationship Coach and Feldenkrais Practitioner opportunities have been available to explore the long-term physical, mental and emotional effects of long-term fear and anxiety. Here are some of the mental & emotional  characteristics that have presented themselves in cases:

Flight & Fight

  • analytical
  • solution orientated versus integrative
  • self absorbed on self image
  • self judging of own self-image
  • judgement of others self-image
  • resistant to change
  • highly reactive to external stimulus
  • reactive
  • quick to justify thoughts, opinions before hearing and reflecting to consider new information
  • confidence based upon comparisons to others (short lasting)
  • cannot compliment self or others
  • prone to jealousy
  • lack of self-empathy
  • lack of empathy for others
  • takes incoming perspectives, opinions and beliefs personally
  • doesn’t include others perspectives, opinions, dreams in making personal decisions and choices
  • cannot understand why others aren’t in agreement with their hopes and dreams
  • quick to blame

Read more  …… Physical Attributes of Chronic Fear & Anxiety – What is your habitual body reaction?

FREEZE

  • sensitive
  • slow to act
  • quiet
  • works hard
  • withdrawn
  • quiet
  • alone
  • take time before making decisions
  • empathy for others, less for self
  • put others first
  • takes things personally
  • sad, hurt, resentful
  • depressed
  • lack of self value

Read more  …… Physical Attributes of Chronic Fear & Anxiety – What is your habitual body reaction?

The intent of this article is in the context of how  communication and movement can support the decrease of anxiety, stress & fear. Values & Empathy integration in communication for transforming disconnection into connection and movement for calming one’s nervous system.

Read more on:

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Feldenkrias Movement Benefits 

Read more on right & left side of brain reactions to stress

#yyj Classes                     Private Integration Sessions

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication,  Empathy,  Values Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder

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Qualities of Peace in Feminine Leadership

Qualities of Feminine LeadershipInside Awareness is hosting Qualities of Peace in Feminine Leadership Dialogues on behalf of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations.  (#yyjpeace.com)  Our first one was held on March 8th, International Women’s Day.  In our first gathering the *qualities that emerged where;  inner leadership and belonging,  and the *values where;  belonging and acceptance.

Seven qualities of Feminine Leadership that came up in yesterday’s discussion are:

  • ‘Leaders are talking about peace but mostly not behaving or speaking peacefully.’  
  • Accepting our gender, acknowledging our differences and naming the leadership qualities particular to us.  Some examples; capacity for empathy, caring, nurturing and understanding emotions.
  • Recognize each of us has something to offer even when you are locked into a specific cultural belief system and start by being friends first and explore our differences.
  • Be present to the immediate need and take responsibility for changing it.  Stop talking about it  and do something! 
  • Change starts at home first to build a foundation of leadership that secures our future evolution.
  • Stop giving in just because it is  expected of you, but rather, begin to express your needs in a way that others would want to hear them and contribute to meeting them.
  • Listen to each member in the community before making decisions so the decision includes everyone’s voice.

These dialogues are challenging and they are nurturing growth and planting seeds!  They will be continued if your are interested in joining us.  If you are interested in creating a talking circle focused upon leadership in your school, business or organization contact us here at Inside to get started.   

*qualities – for this purpose the meaning of qualities is a behavior or characteristic
*value – for this purpose the meaning of value is the point of need that can be our point of connection and understanding

Beautiful Learning Moments with a Blue Heron

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Blue Heron

Yesterday a blue heron was along the water’s edge as I was leading a walking group by.

As  we where walking a participant had been talking and so our focus was not on the surroundings.  A thought ran through my mind, “look for the blue heron,” and so I looked up.  There, almost alongside of us, was the blue heron fishing.

How many times do we have these thought messages go through our mind and we don’t pay attention to them?

I am happy I listened this time as we enjoyed seeing this blue heron hunt for fish with no fear of us being watchers!  A highlight of our day that could so easily have been missed! One that brought us out of the story that was being shared into what was immediately in our surroundings!

Our walking lesson prior to going out in nature to walk was about noticing our immediate surrounding and how it influences us.  Many of us are unconscious of how our immediate surrounds stimulate pre-verbal responses.  It is a function of our brain-body connection we aren’t even aware that it is a part of our operating system!  This moment was a metaphor of that teaching!

Beautiful learning moments with a blue heron.

Announcing ‘The Teaching Labyrinth’ @ Brentwood Bay School!

Children's Peace & Nature LabyrinthInside is pleased to announce that ‘The Teaching Labyrinth‘ program will be one of the four workshops at the World Children Summit on Peace and Nature being held May 28th, 2015 at Brentwood Bay Elementary in Saanich.  This is one of Greater Victoria Communities!  Our program, The Teaching Labyrinth, will be one of four at Brentwood Bay Elementary.  The three other workshops will be; Storytelling, Photography and Nature, Music with the Ukulele.

To find out more on how you can host The Teaching Labyrinth workshop at your school please contact us here at Inside.

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Greater #yyj Hands Across the Sands @ Willows Beach

Are you ready to simply come together, hold hands to join the World in expressing a silent ‘yes’ to clean energy?”

If so, join us in gathering along with our International Community to join hands across the tar/sands!  

WHEN:  Saturday, May 16th – arrive @ 11:45 a.m. – hold hands @ noon

WHERE: Willows Beach at the corners of Dalhousie and Beach Drives.  Meet up on beach under the Kiwanis Tea Room.

We arrive, connect, hold hands from 12:00 noon to 12:15 pm, cheer and leave with no footprint!  

Pictures from previous years