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Pegasus Consciousness Infusion

by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP @ Inside Awareness, Living in Natures Love Blog & Renee Lindstrom Live

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Integration of Body, Mind & Spatial Awareness

 

 

Pegasus Consciousness Infusion

In meditation an unfamiliar word and image came into the mindful state I was experiencing. The word was ‘Pegasus’ and the vision of  it was in a peaceful atmosphere, not stormy.

Later I looked up the the symbolic meaning of Pegasus and enjoyed reading that Pegasus represents an aspect of what I have been sharing in my teachings for the past decade! Pegasus represents our Hippocampus, the place of memory.  It is the point in our brain which I focus in on by using empathy to transform reactions of survival: fight, flight or fright with calmer states to process emotions and go to the root source of what is causing the reaction. When this happens we remember who we are and where we are going – mindfulness (what is meaningful to us replacing the reaction).  For me this is how we can access our higher self by being able to understand our internal reaction and respond with this conscious awareness versus an automatic reaction that creates separation.  

In one write up I read that Pegasus represents communication that transforms evil!  I have enjoyed reading the historical interpretations of Pegasus and coming away with an opinion that it may reflect a new consciousness for many of us.  A consciousness that includes the skill set of meditation in motion (not sitting) to better understand how to transform our own inner agitation that inflicts violence on ourselves and others.  A consciousness that is an infusion of the art of conversation and strong independent support through our greatest support system – our skeleton!

Receiving this new information during the eclipse leaves me hopeful and I feel inspired and more grounded as a mentor in the arts I contribute to the planet! How I would describe the Pegasus consciousness weaved into my practice is that it is the infusion of flexible patterns of movement, process of communicating and environmental influences experienced in the quality of one’s reality.   It is the ease and comfort in one’s interactions, mobility and surroundings.  Each separate focus of my practice is a calming influence on one’s hippocampus (Pegasus)  for settling fight, flight or fright reactions.  Infused it becomes a greater experience. 


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The intent of this article is in the context of how  communication and movement can support the decrease of anxiety, stress & fear.

  • InTouch Communication:  Values & Empathy integration in communication for transforming disconnection into connection
  • Feldenkrais Movement: calming one’s nervous system.

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  • Natures Love plant essences blended by Renee: support body, and minds feelings that block emotions and self-confidence
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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Nonviolent Value-Based Communication (NVC) & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

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If something is broken in your relationship how does it affect your family?

Are you doing this:

by Renee Lindstrom

because you want this:

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Six months ago a caravan parked on our local street.  It was a young family; mom, dad, two kids, two cats and a dog,  arriving to set up a home planning to rent a  house temporarily until finding their own dream home in the Greater Victoria Region.  Dad had grown up here and wanted to raise his young kids on the West Coast.

The reason the husband shared his story is they wanted to block access to my home with their vehicles for a few days.  In speaking with him I had deja-vu. Some friends had traveled with him and his family and you could tell they had partied and enjoyed their travel time.  I wondered how it would be for them to move into a home where the earlier occupant also loved to have a good time with a revolving door of visitors that enjoyed a good drink or two!  The previous occupant was a friend and  hung around for a few weeks in party mode as they unpacked and settled.

With the previous tenant’s lifestyle influence and one partners love of partying   it wasn’t a happily ever after experience for them.  By December, 3 months later, a house had been bought, however not in the Greater Victoria Region.  One was purchased in the town they had recently traveled from.   When he told me he wanted to block my access to load up again, he shared a bit of his story.    He said it was important to move for the kids and to stop partying.  I could tell he was hung over.  Wow!

I felt empathy for him and his little family.  Being on this side of some life similarities, and with my training, I recognized his move to Victoria was a strategy to full fill something that wasn’t working for him in his lifestyle. He is travelling back into that same environment and states this choice is more important than his needs.   As he speaks his mannerisms tell that he isn’t convinced and not in agreement with this decision.  It’s been made for him. He says that it’s been a six month party and it was time to get serious.

I wondered if her intention is to be close to family and set up a home for the kids to meet her needs for safety and support in the event that they can’t resolve their differences.  I know as a mom that would have been my priority if my needs for shared values were not met in my marriage.  Hell, that happened to me!  We didn’t have shared values and I raised my kids alone!   My hope, for this young couple, is that they find a way to work through the reasons for travelling across the country in the first place.   Was it to try to find the aliveness that may have gone out of the relationship?

Three things I would have suggested once they arrived in Victoria:

  1.  Be aware of how an earlier occupant of a house can influence your experience.
  2. Choose to clear a house by setting your intention for the home you want to create.  Don’t fall into an earlier pattern.
  3. Take ownership of the space and set boundaries!

Three things I  would recommend for them now setting up a new home as they arrive to their new house:

  1.  Each of them check in and write out what is meaningful for the in  three areas:  1.  Relationships, 2.  Family & Home, 3.  Community
  2. Each of them take turns and honesty express what these are with a  willingness to hear and create new ones together.
  3. Follow the above three steps.

I hope they will take the time to do the above however they will not be arriving together.  One has gone ahead to set up the new house while the other is closing the other.  It may be one’s already claimed the space and the other will be a visitor!  I hope not!!!!!

This  story stimulated reflection of my earlier post:  How a previous murder influenced my marriage!  As I write this one a raven is calling and the snow is falling!

 


Transitioning from Language of Conflict into Language of Connection (based on Nonviolent Communication)

Recent Comment:  I love your cogent analysis of emotions = energy + story. So, emotions – story = energy freed. Yeh! thx, pat zzz
Recent Comment: Thanks very much for your wonderful classes and the way you teach us. I really appreciate that you have given the class a bit of extra time at the end to allow everyone to have their turn. I look forward to truly learning this technique of communicating and experiencing richer relations with people.
Lifescapes (Landscapes)
Learn more about Nonviolent Communication by author Dr. Marshall Rosenberg

Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Jaw Release Program since 2007, Authored  Achieving your Goals  31 Day Program, Sleep Sweet Sleep, Kid’s Peace Bus Calendar of Values  Educational Program & InTouch with Your Values Self-Actualization Program.  Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children

 

How a previous murder influenced my marriage!

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On Feb 24th I wrote about conflict in neighbors relationships and boundaries.  I mentioned how sometime previous to buying one of  the houses I wrote about, the neighbor next door murdered the owner of the house.  The house had been let go from rental occupancy and that is what thought we were getting.  A rental fixer upper!

On the day we were moving in, the neighbor,  now living in the murderers house, walked over and told us about the history of our two properties.  I come from a family of tall people and this person didn’t have quiet their height, however the body posturing was massive.    My partner and I felt uncomfortable.  We found out this person was R.C.M.P. and I remember thinking I should feel pleased as it would be safe, yet my instincts didn’t match up.  Thinking back,  this was an experience where someone is trying to have power over me.

Hearing this news was unwelcome and it changed my expectations, hopes and dreams for this house.  I thought it could be our forever home.  It had that much potential.  First of all not knowing where the owner was shot in the house began a personal obsession.  I never knew if I would find anything each time we pulled up an old floor, baseboard, carpet or wall panel.  Finally it got the best of me and I did some research.  I found out it was on the front steps coming into the house.  This was the worst news possible!  I know this news had my  full focus of attention.  It was disturbing and I did not have the skills to understand what needs were not met or how to process it!  The front door is the entrance to the house and where life enters.  Here a life had been taken!

Even for a short time living in that house I can say it was never  a home.  Living in this space actually brought out unethical behaviors in both myself and my partner.  Not obvious at first.  It started off with small issues and experiences and was the catalyst for our break up!  In that house we stopped trying to process our differences and began meeting our needs in other ways.  We experienced conflict, violence, unethical drunken behavior and  sexual betrayal, depression mental, emotional and physical pain.  All in a short space of time!

When the house sold my partner and I had already found separate living arrangements and had split up our assets.  Had I known then how a space can define your experience. who knows, perhaps there could have been something that could have been done to support resolving our differences more ethically.  We resolved them, however with  struggle, pain and deception.

How are you resolving your differences?  In the above experience, I would now focus on a process of speaking honestly and listening with more empathy.  I would also process my pain at hearing someones life had been taken in the space I was living in with my partner. I would extensively cleanse the house energetically and spiritually.  I may even bring in the local aboriginal elders to bless the home and support a shift in the space.  An unconscious intention had been created by the violent action and the cleansing would create a new intention for the space.


Transitioning from Language of Conflict into Language of Connection (based on Nonviolent Communication)

Recent Comment:  I love your cogent analysis of emotions = energy + story. So, emotions – story = energy freed. Yeh! thx, pat zzz
Recent Comment: Thanks very much for your wonderful classes and the way you teach us. I really appreciate that you have given the class a bit of extra time at the end to allow everyone to have their turn. I look forward to truly learning this technique of communicating and experiencing richer relations with people.
Lifescapes (Landscapes)
Learn more about Nonviolent Communication by author Dr. Marshall Rosenberg

Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Jaw Release Program since 2007, Authored  Achieving your Goals  31 Day Program, Sleep Sweet Sleep, Kid’s Peace Bus Calendar of Values  Educational Program & InTouch with Your Values Self-Actualization Program.  Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children

3 Steps to Empathy in the Classroom & at Home

by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP @ Inside Awareness, Living in Natures Love Blog & Renee Lindstrom Live

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Integration of Body, Mind & Spatial Awareness

 

#1  Organization:  SETTING UP THE PRACTICE STRUCTURE 

1.  Set up a regular time for practice. Integrating a new skill will need time, patience and structure. Practice will  prepare students for those moments that are triggered.  For example – Recent work is showing that children who practice tantrums with adults develop markers and begin to defuse the real tantrums. It offers adults a recourse for connecting to the child in the heat of the moment.  This too is practice ahead of time for those times to connect with oneself and others in the heat of reactions.

2.  Begin with describing the agenda of exercises and explain what they can expect during this practice time. Give advance notice of any interruptions that you are aware of that may happen.  For example, if someone needs to leave the group early or come late.  This  defuses any distraction and curiosity. This will have a settling effect.

3.  In the first session make agreements together. Ask them to share what is important to them for learning.   Use the following points as a guide and possible examples.   This will become the reference point for those moments when they break the agreements.  Develop group empathy rather than stating they are doing something wrong, begin to identify what  needs of the group that are not being met.

Our familiar experience is not being listened to, so our tendency is to hide”

For example:

a.  Needs –  to be heard, for kindness, respect and safety.

When one person is speaking, the group is listening and not interrupting,     correcting, telling their stories.

b.  Needs – equality, mutuality, efficient use of time

Time limits.  Set times for sharing in group or in role-plays.   Agree upon a signal such as a bell sound to pause and switch.

c.  Needs – choice, learning and contribution

Participation in the large group, by choice.  Participation in the smaller breakout groups, the need is for everyone to participate to increase learning opportunities for everyone.

Please note – *At all sessions together, begin with reviewing your agreement.  During the sessions bring them back by discussing the unmet needs of the other individuals in the group when forgetting the agreements.

#2  Group Sharing- LISTENING & CONNECTING

a)  Purpose and Intention

Focus and invite each members input in the round of sharing.

  • -Ask participants to pause, check inside and ask themselves, what feeling they have in this moment.  Give them examples such as; tired,  sad, happy, anxious, nervous, frustrated. 
  • -State each person only has a couple of seconds to state a feeling, and not a story!
  • -Have everyone stop and leave a  few seconds of silence between speakers
*silently notice the words they are using as feeling words to describe their feelings * more later
*notice if they begin to tell a story and hijack the exercise away.  If so, simply put your hand up to say stop and say, “I am worried that not everyone will have a chance to share. can you tell us one feeling word that seems bigger for you in this moment.”

b)  Choose to go around the group to build group listening and perception skills or to move to the next exercise.  To continue

have them share one sentence with the group with the next person repeating back what they said.  You begin and the person to your right tells you back your sentence.  Pause and then have that person share a sentence and so on.  No responses or jumping in by the group during this exercise.

c)  If you choose next exercise, complete this round by asking for two participants to tell back what was going on for them when they heard the responses.  For example, “Can I hear from two students what came up for them as they listened to groups contributions.”  Things like, “Was it hard to listen and not talk?  Did you feel like you wanted to jump in and agree with who was speaking?  Did you want to tell your story.”

d)  Move on to some exercises.  For some ideas of developing listening skills and how to give feedback, go to:

Exercise #1 – Listening together through movement, LEADING AND FOLLOWING Through Movement

Exercise #2 – Developing Inner Listening – EXPLORING FEELING THROUGH MUSIC

Exercise #3 – The road to conflict Resolution with Listening Skills Through conversation.

The value of these exercises is it develops  empathy and expands personal perceptions  that each person perceives and expresses differently.  We do not all feel, think and talk the same way. 

#3 – Developing Feedback 

-Conclude the skill building practices, come back into the group and share by asking the participants what is alive for them now.  Ask for a specific number of participant’s to share what their experience was and have them include if the exercise met their need. For example with the listening exercise, did they feel heard by the person who was listening to them, if so, how was this to feel heard?   

If you have time you may go around the group again and ask for a feeling word to close this session.

*SKILLS THAT YOU ARE BUILDING WITH THESE SIMPLE STEPS:

1.  A vocabulary of feelings words.  *Print off a list of actual felt sense feeling words to become familiar yourself of the words being mistakenly used as feeling words.

2.  The skill of reflecting inwardly to begin to know what they are feeling and to become comfortable with their feelings.

3.  Reducing personal reactions to someone else’s response or reaction with the intention to pause and check in individually for a moment before responding or reacting to someone else. (the old saying – stop and think before speaking, now could be stop and check in with yourself before speaking).

4.  Empathy building and introduction of the group intention and the group needs through establishing agreements.

3.  Listening without interrupting, correcting, blaming or shaming.

4.  Giving feedback without taking over their story or telling them what to do or ignoring them.

5.  Giving group feedback.

6.  Introducing personal responsibility in away that can be heard.

7.  Introducing Needs (Values) *building support for Virtues Project – bringing in skills to create the experience of being and acting in the virtue.

8.  Developing conflict resolutions skills organically.

9.  Building confidence, self-trust and inner strength.

10.  Understanding the bully, inside and in a group.

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Empathy from cultivating awareness from the inside out

  • InTouch Communication:  Values & Empathy integration in communication for transforming disconnection into connection
  • Feldenkrais Movement: calming one’s nervous system.

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Natural World Empathy Support 

  • Natures Love plant essences blended by Renee: support body, and minds feelings that block emotions and self-confidence
Learn more
  • Foods & Movement for Emotions:  Metal, Emotional and Physical Support
Learn more

Find out more on how integrating the arts of movement, communication and space compliment your experience and encompasses a holistic approach to wellness.

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

Learning Tools: Conflict Resolution Exercise through pattern of Listening

by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP @ Inside Awareness, Living in Natures Love Blog & Renee Lindstrom Live

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Integration of Body, Mind & Spatial Awareness

 

The exercise is designed for integration prior to resolving any conflict.  It is educational and designed to take out the right and wrong fighting.  It organizes participants into roles that supports getting to the root of the conflict and moving through it to resolve  and move forward willingly.

PDF Download – InTouch Exercise – Conflict Resolution through Listening Skills

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Empathy from cultivating awareness from the inside out

The intent of this article is in the context of how  communication and movement can support the decrease of anxiety, stress & fear.


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Natural World Empathy Support 

  • Natures Love plant essences blended by Renee: support body, and minds feelings that block emotions and self-confidence
Learn more
  • Eating Coloured Foods:  Metal, Emotional and Physical Support
Learn more

Find out more on how integrating the arts of movement, communication and space compliment your experience and encompasses a holistic approach to wellness.

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

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Learning Tools – Listening & Expressing Exercise with Music

by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP @ Inside Awareness, Living in Natures Love Blog & Renee Lindstrom Live

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Integration of Body, Mind & Spatial Awareness

EXERCISE #2 – Developing Inner Listening – EXPLORING FEELING THROUGH MUSIC – Any Age Child through Adult
This exercise connects one to their somatic senses while listening to music.  It is an fun education exercise that  increases mindfulness of different feelings and puts names to them that becomes a true list of feelings versus interpretations.   A sentence with true feeling descriptions is more apt to be heard than interpretations.
 

Empathy from cultivating awareness from the inside out

The intent of this article is in the context of how  communication and movement can support the decrease of anxiety, stress & fear.


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Natural World Empathy Support 

  • Natures Love plant essences blended by Renee: support body, and minds feelings that block emotions and self-confidence
Learn more
  • Eating Coloured Foods:  Metal, Emotional and Physical Support
Learn more

Find out more on how integrating the arts of movement, communication and space compliment your experience and encompasses a holistic approach to wellness.

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

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Learning Tools – List of Needs (Values)

by Renee Lindstrom, GCFP @ Inside Awareness, Living in Natures Love Blog & Renee Lindstrom Live

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Integration of Body, Mind & Spatial Awareness

 

 

Values – CONNECTING AND BUILDING A VOCABULARY     

  • Learning to identify the roots of ones feelings

Go to Downloadable lists of Feelings words when needs are met & not met


Empathy from cultivating awareness from the inside out

The intent of this article is in the context of how  communication and movement can support the decrease of anxiety, stress & fear.

  • InTouch Communication:  Values & Empathy integration in communication for transforming disconnection into connection
  • Feldenkrais Movement: calming one’s nervous system.

new

Natural World Empathy Support 

  • Natures Love plant essences blended by Renee: support body, and minds feelings that block emotions and self-confidence
Learn more
  • Eating Coloured Foods:  Metal, Emotional and Physical Support
Learn more

Find out more on how integrating the arts of movement, communication and space compliment your experience and encompasses a holistic approach to wellness.

Connect with Renee

Follow on TwitterInstagram  Pinterest or Facebook for more tips


Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

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