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The Mask


The Mask



Always a mask

Held in the slim hand whitely

Always she had a mask before her face —


Truly the wrist

Holding it lightly

Fitted the task:

Sometimes however

Was there a shiver,

fingertip quiver,

Ever so slightly —

Holding the mask?


For years and years and years I wondered

But dared not ask

And then —

I blundered,

Looked behind the mask,

To find

Nothing —

She had no face.


She had become

Merely a hand

Holding a mask

With grace.

Author unknown

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Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement  since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

Announcing the passing a great worldly influence

marshall-rosenbergI am so sad to receive this news: Dr. Marshall Rosenberg has passed away on Saturday, February 7th.. It was recently discovered that he had late stage prostate cancer. He passed peacefully at home, with his wife Valentina and all his children by his side.

A beautiful man and mentor that connected me to the language of my heart! May the world remember him for his gifts.


Wednesday’s April NVC Awareness Victoria doesn’t disappoint

Once again Victoria responds with interest by attending The Church of Truths Oneness Wednesdays offering of topics with a  Nonviolent Communication perspective.  Yesterday evening the topic was ‘Resolving Conflicts and presented by Michele Favarger.

Michele offered a deeper connection to the four basic steps of Nonviolent Communication; observations, feelings, needs and requests and their relationships to the first part of any dialogue – self connection.  She stressed the importance of choosing to connect to ones own personal need replacing habits of seeing others in what Marshall Rosenberg calls, ‘enemy images.’  The reference is to how we hear hard to messages being about us rather than hearing what the other persons is needing.

Michele guided last nights group through  this process with ease and humor, including personal stories on how this style of communication has supported her own changing consciousness and outcomes during her own experiences of conflict.

Judi Morin who opened April’s series introducing NVC  joined us again last night and found herself involved in a spontaneous role play with Michele resulting from an audience question that was a highlight of the evening.

Questions of where to go from here came from the audience  with request expressions of personal preferences for their own personal safety in learning.  If this interests you as well, more connection  contact information is listed below.  As a grassroots organizer for the Gandhi, King Seasons for Peace and Nonviolence and this month-long Nonviolent Communication Awareness Campaign  event together as an example of creating peace in your world, I want to acknowledge that there is a number of Victoria people offering a variety of opportunities to experience Nonviolent Communication throughout the Greater Victoria Communities that were unable to participate.  Teachings and practice groups are happening in Sidney, at two of our local Unity Churches, one in West Saanich and one in Victoria,  at a local Jewish Community Centre, at the Crystal Pool, in James Bay at New Horizons, and others in private offices such as Inside Awareness for Healthy Living and some homes to meet the needs of sharing, learning and connection.  Others are taking this into their schools and I know of some in government and professional organizations that  have intensified their NVC training to make change from within their society.  We have one local who presented an NVC theme at the United Nations in 2011!  (Marion Little shared her UN experience with us at  the showing of Heart to Lead, Women as Allies for the Greater Good)

NVC inspires people to change their world and those who connect to it long to share through teaching and practice and want others to interact with in this particular way.  Marshall Rosenberg has designed this system to go beyond right and wrong thinking and encourages it’s integration to spread outwards therefore you will find a vibrant grassroots community locally for in person meetings and on-line globally.

Last year I heard someone personally frustrated with Nonviolent Communication express  this in their own style of communication group classes that resulted in a closed statement  that ‘it didn’t work.’  I was shocked,  surprised and somewhat curious about this statement and yet knew that since beginning to practice in 2000/2001 that it can be a challenging process to integrate into everyday living.  I believe it was our own local Selinde Krayenhoff, co-founder of Island Parent Magazine in 2001/2002 who began sharing Nonviolent Communication for Parents who stated, ‘this is a lifestyle choice and a practice.’  It’s true, it is and one that I believe is more than talking about it and involves a commitment and willingness to make personal changes that results in clarity of our owning thinking process.  It can be an amazing journey into self discovery  that can lead to success in our relationships.  Yes in the learning and beginning a practice of doing NVC we may drive others a bit crazy, yet getting beyond the doing into being, they are just as rewarded as we are! Therefore folks, if you are looking for a way to improve how you do relationships whether with your boss, your employees, your parents, children or beloved this is a form of connecting that is being in relationships that improves the quality of experiencing our connectedness that leads to inner content.

Appreciation to all of you for your support, interest and attendance in coming to meet and hear more about these topics.  As promised for more can be found at:

These sites are not local, yet you may be able to get access to upcoming local events

To find out more about the getting involved locally with the Season for Peace and Nonviolence or for local activities, ideas and suggestions or the Heart to Lead, Women as Allies for the Greater Good
If you are looking for support to put on your own event from providing a complete service to a presenter, contact me for more information at renee@insideawareness.com

‘Power Over, Power Under and Power With’

A conceptual framework of Dr. Rosenberg’s, Nonviolent Communication is based upon understanding what he describes as ‘Partnership and Domination Paradigms.‘  Ideally with knowledge and practice of  nonviolent communication participants will move towards integrating the values of Partnership paradigms into their relationships.

Domination is life alienating  is dualistic thinking with power over, power under relationships.  It is hierarchical  head-based thinking and depends upon win/lose or lose/lose experiences.

Partnership is life enhancing and creates holistic relationships of power with.  Is is hierarchical based on function, heart-based on compassion and depends upon a win/win experience.

In Victoria for April’s Awareness Campaign for Nonviolent Communication the topic for tomorrow’s Church of Truth’s Oneness Wednesday will be , ‘Beyond right and wrongdoing.’ Presented by Laurel Collins.  Come and explore these concepts with us live and receive the support from a group and live practice opportunities.  It begins at 7:00 p.m. at 111 Superior Street.

‘The truth in me supports the truth in you’

In the fall 2010 and spring 2011, I had a rare opportunity to listen in to a series of dialogues introduced to me by Dr. Barbara Fields, Executive Director of The Association for New Global Thought.  These dialogues, set up as discussions between the hosts Jim Kenney, Barbara and a featured guest speaker.  Jim is a former Global Director of the Parliament of the World’s Religions and an expert in world religion and culture.

The very first one I listened in to they discussed the roots of  New Thought and the origins of a view that could stem from a comment of the Dali Lama’s in this first conference held at Windsor Castle in the early 90’s.  He suggested to those attending that  before doing any work together,  they become friends.  He recommended that they go for coffee together and get to know one another first.

Since that first parliament The Association for New Global thought has provided the space to gather and have these talks.  The gatherings have representation from those interested, crossing the boundaries of ideals and is all about finding out about each other.  The guest in my first visit into these unique dialogues suggested that since the first religious parliament in the 90’s,  an organic understanding has evolved.   ‘The truth in me, supports the truth in you.’

It was inspiring hearing this and to recognize  the sharing of this community and their efforts to support a vision that may have begun by a simple request.  What was most intriguing was the viewpoint of the dialogues themselves.  These were not from the viewpoint of teaching or authority.  These dialogues in my perspective had a cultural view and the information shared was through the lens of evolution by speakers who have been in the frying pan of the experience they spoke of.  The depth of wisdom and how they connected with each other and shared with those listening was a rare experience for me.

Having a practice myself with a foundation of  principles using the model of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s, Nonviolent Communication,  what I was hearing  was a group of people with tenure in an organic dialogue, modelling these principles naturally.   This was a rare and inspiring experience!  I felt relief and it gave me hope.

It’s been a year since I first sat in on these conversations and heard this cultural shift in our religious circles and how it is changing and evolving as differences are being replaced with understanding and competition is being replaced with community.

Yesterday, another rare opportunity came along to listen to a conversation with Gregg Braden  and Lisa Garr discuss Gregg’s  new book Deep Truth: Igniting the Memory of Our Origin, History, Destiny, and Fate, Opening page.   Gregg is a pioneer bridging science and spirituality.    I first heard Gregg speak in 2001 at a Prophets Conference in Victoria at our local university.  What struck me about Gregg at that time was how real he was.  When he presented there was no boundary between him, as a speaker on stage and us below in the theatre seating.  This experience of being included evolved over the conference.  It was new and unique.  It was all in the way those on stage engaged the audience and how they shared the information.  How they shared their experience did not come from a place of authority nor did they teach.  They engaged us in an experience  that for me relaxed my guard and allowed me to hear their journeys.  Gregg was one of these presenters that opened my view of  relationships in the world, not only intellectually, through understanding and experiencing a new connection to evolutionary leaders.

In Gregg’s dialogue yesterday, 10 years later, I noticed he spoke in this same manner and it seemed to be deepened by practice and understanding.  His knowledge of cultural evolution and the origins of competition and domination systems in our society made all the more interesting and accessible by his lens with which he chose to share it with us.  Observing his patience with the interviewer and in his responses that reflected he listened and directed his answer clearly to that point.  During question and answer what I heard was a conversation that could have been over coffee or tea with a friend giving encouragement to find their own story based upon their own passion.  Gregg is a well-known scientist.  This is not the mental concept I have held in the past of someone in a position of authority.

Hearing the cultural shift through these evolutionary leaders is a model of how shifting patterns of behaviour create change.  Being in the field of supporting others in recognizing how their behavioural patterns create their reality  and a cultures.  These connections give me the motivational juice to bring to my practice, inspires me for seeking further learning and inspires my hope.

Renee is in Victoria, B.C. and shares self-inquiry awareness techniques through the Feldenkrais Movement Method, Getting InTouch for relationships and presence in the environment.  She works with people individually, in groups, in her office or their space and teaches groups in classes.  Through her work with clients some specific areas of functioning became a potential for integrating these systems together to support a daily function such as walking, sleeping, community and gatherings.  Functions we take for granted and have forgotten our connections with.  These techniques are designed to wake up those parts that have gone to sleep and to develop present awareness that enhance and improve the quality of our experience.  

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The Association for New Global ThoughtGregg Braden – Interview was with the Aware Show with Lisa Garr