In a recent conversation with an elder I was able to reflect back from the spoken words I was hearing, “It seems that vanity hasn’t aged along with you.” “Yes,” was the reply., “vanity tells me that I am ugly.”
Later in the day I became curious about this experience and how and when this shifted for me. When did I stop giving power to vanities harsh words of criticism spoken in my head? It wasn’t that long ago. I wondered what changed? Spontaneously I connected to the sense of self-love inside. I realized at some point the depth of self-love surpassed the value I placed upon vanities words in my head. The scale had tipped in self-loves favour and the criticisms of vanity don’t carry the weight they once did. This is a celebration. At some point in the practical application of my practice there has been a shift in the dialogue in my head and body. My heart speaks the loudest and demonstrates that self directed sense of love.
In my conversation with the elder I hoped my intonation came from this heartfelt experience so it had a soft landing. My intention – not to increase their own moral judgements.
What is your vanity telling you? Has your vanity criticism shown any acceptance of your aging?
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As I consider today’s Self-Awareness through movement workshop I am searching for a focus point of motivation. Recent Feldenkrais students have deepened the connection between left and right brain movement actions. I recognize that this is the intention for today, the balance of the right and left brain in movement that creates presence in action.
Babies are the most present and aware beings on the planet. They have to be to be able to teach themselves to roll over, sit up, crawl, stand, walk, run do somersaults and cartwheels. This will be a good place to focus the workshop participants. Not on doing cartwheels, exploring babies first movements!
One segment of society that I have consistently worked with this past decade is seniors, men and women. This includes those with diagnosed conditions and those without. As my experience of theirs and societies behavioral patterns become more recognizable, I find an urge to begin to write a series to share some aspects that I am discovering that influence false believes of aging. If you are interested in learning more, check back in to explore this series!
Recent Comment: Thank you for the amazing session which helped me to better understand the pain and anxiety issues I’ve been dealing with. Very insightful experience. I felt way more relaxed Friday evening and I’m monitoring myself to help ensure I’m releasing tension and breathing properly. Am impressed by it and by your skills. D
Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Jaw Release Program since 2007, Authored Achieving your Goals 31 Day Program, Sleep Sweet Sleep, Kid’s Peace Bus Calendar of Values Educational Program & InTouch with Your Values Self-Actualization Program. Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children
I saw a new student to our balance class walking in behind her walker. She was bent completely over with arms outstretched in front of her, hands on the walker handles, head and eyes looking directly down towards the floor. I was surprised and curious at how to teach the class and include her.
Sitting down on a chair was an effort for her with turning, twisting and letting go of the walker to sit down all the while talking and totally unaware that we had started the workshop. She began her story before coming through the doorway and didn’t stop for most of the class.
Her story, the one that gave away the secret of her current condition was possibly the first one she shared. One we could all face in some way. She had taken her elderly husband into an overcrowd hospital where they left him in a bed in the hallway. She tended to him herself and when trying to lift him she hurt her back and bent over in pain. From the looks of her posture she never stood back up! Did I forget to mention she is 4 foot 11 inches and a senior!
After many doctors visits with x-rays she heard there was nothing medically wrong. No spine or brain damage and no strokes, etc. In addition to her fear, she now experiences her husbands feelings of frustration at her condition.. She has fallen a few times and lost three teeth.
Some challenges we experienced together with her loss of connection to her own body:
- The first challenge – stop talking long enough to experience the movement patterns and let everyone benefit from the workshop
- The second challenge – to support her sitting posture. Not only was she falling over in standing, she was falling over in sitting.
- The third challenge – remind her to stand up.
- The fourth challenge – re-introduce her to her pelvis.
- The fifth and sixth – to re-introduce her to her legs and feet.
Surprisingly she grew up a dancer and taught it up until that hospital visit you read about above. When she began to listen and follow our guided movement patterns she recognized them as movements she made and taught in her own classes. Now in her frozen state she wasn’t making these movement patterns that were hers for seventy years. Pain and fear had erased them from her posture and memory!.
Read more on what affected her the most and shifted her into paying more attention to learning what she could do verses seeking answers
Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015
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Tagged Aging, Back Pain, Body, Body Awareness, Body Education, Emotions, Fear, Learning, Mind, Movement, Pain, Posture, Walker, Walking, Walking with a walker
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Behavior & decisions impact one’s senior years. It can show up as mental, emotional and physical suffering. (Mortality is mutual for politicians, employers, employees, activists, mothers, fathers, wealthy or poor)
AGING TO DO LIST:
- STOP MASKING THE SYMPTOMS WITH FIRST AID SOLUTIONS
- LEARN TO IMPROVE YOUR EXPERIENCE
- BE CURIOUS ABOUT HOW YOU DO THINGS
- EXPLORE IMPROVING YOUR MOVEMENT AND WELL-BEING
- FIND OUT HOW TO EXPERIENCE PLEASURE AND JOY
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by: Renee Lindstrom, May 02, 2015