Fun with Relationship Corner @ Inside Awareness

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This is our first year of devoting time to creating an essential connection to our relationship corner of our landscape.

Our first step wasĀ installing playful and eye-catching paper lanterns to bring attention and represent movement (change) in this corner. Ā This corner is on an angle which means we are Ā missing a small corner of the relationship corner.

The second step we took was to consider a troublesome unused gate that extendsĀ the fence and hasĀ steps and a pathway leading up to it. Ā  To support it appearing as a fence visually bamboo in pots have been added to extend the inner bamboo fence line along this fence. Ā A planter with white and pink English daisies have been added to represent the colour of the relationship corner. Ā Red nasturtiums Ā seeds have been added that will enhance the colours in this corner.

Thirdly we cut back five feet of ivy and overhanging branches from next door to reclaim this corner. Ā A messy job leaving us with a scared face of tangled ivy branches. Ā In the past few weeks the Ivy is covering this scared face with new Ivy leaves creating a natural fence!

The four step was to paint a table and chairs red to bring attention to this area creating an invitation for gathering.

Currently our fifth step has to begin tackling an invasion of buttercups and ivy vines along the fence, a perfect space to add a small veggie patch! Ā Our hope is to visual encourage a deepening connection to natural food sources as part of ones wellness program, including ours!

We are excited about the potential of this corner and having fun creating it, or rather supporting nature to create it! Ā Currently we are considering adding a bark pathway around the garden patch and along the fence to reach the side of the building. Ā Two border choices being considered is round (yin) rocks or driftwood also with rounded edges.


Relationship Corner
  • Back right hand corner of your landscape as facing property from street entrance.
  • Represents community relationships
  • Best colours are white, pink and red
  • Element is earth

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Integrating Nature into a ‘natural lifestyle’ is playful, fun & rewarding!

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A benefit of having a home office is the ability to connect with the garden easily during the day. Ā For me this means getting the day started with gathering leaves, branches and flowers to infuse with water, letting the sun heat it up. Ā Still early in the season so our sun isn’t hot enough in the mornings to heat the infusion into a tea yet Ā what you do taste is an incredibly flavored water. Ā If let under the afternoon sun it becomes a Ā tea. Ā The water is softer and wetter and one can imagine all the goodness while drinking it. Ā A simple and enjoyable way of connecting more intimately and valuing nature.

Get out and try it and enjoy nature as nurturer is a more direct way! Ā Replace your flavored bottle water with the real deal! Ā I guarantee you will become a grazer and discover new ideas for your table!

A few garden Ā edible plants:

Bay Leaves (Laurus nobilis)

Fresh leaves are very rich source of vitamin-C and Ā Folic acid. Ā Bay Leaves are a good sources ofĀ vitamin A andĀ minerals like copper, potassium, calcium, manganese, iron, selenium, zinc and magnesium. Great for aches, pain, soar throats, fever, coughs, cold, chest inflammation & infections and digestion.

Borage (Borago officinalis)

Borage containsĀ high levels of potassium, iron and calcium, Ā along with Zinc, B and C vitamins, and beta carotene . Ā It restores balance to overworked adrenal glands and is a natural sedative for Ā nervous conditions. Ā It is also a high source of gamma linolenic acid which is essential fatty acids. Ā Essential fatty acids must be ingested from diet and a deficiency can affect mood and cause internal inflammation and various cellular functions. Ā Essential fatty acids also improve hair and nail growth and appearance.

Calendula (Calendula officinalis)

Once known as ā€œpoor man’s saffronā€, the petals of the flowers are used in soups, salads and dishes to add color. Ā AĀ tea of the flowers comforts the heart. Ā Calendula has high amounts of flavonoids, plant-based antioxidants that protect cells from free radicals. Calendula can be used for inflammation, viruses, and bacteria.

DandelionĀ (Taraxacum officinale)

Full of vitamins A, B, C, and D, as well as minerals, such as iron, potassium, and zinc. Dandelion leaves are used to add flavor to teas and as a digestive aid thatĀ supports Ā the liver, kidneys & urinary tract.

Fennel ( Foeniculum Vulgare)

Rich in potassium,Ā molybdenum, manganese, copper, phosphorus, and folate. A good source of calcium, pantothenic acid, magnesium, iron, and niacin. flavonoids, Vitamin-C and amino acids. An expectorant in nature with disinfectant and antibacterial properties.Ā Ā Fennel improves digestion, relieve flatulence, treat hypertension, increase milk production in breast-feeding mothers, and treat respiratory and gastrointestinal disorders.

Ginkgo (Biloba)

Antioxidants, improves memory, concentration, mental faculties and long-distance vision, relieves headaches, sinusitis, and vertigo, and slows aging of cells.

Lemon BalmĀ (Melissa Officinalis)

Improves appetite & general digestion, eases flatulence, reduces bloating, alleviates menstrual cramping, reduces nausea and vomiting, calms nerves, relaxing sleep aid, Ā antiseptic and antibacterial. It isĀ used for nervous agitation and recently tests are showing it improves mental clarity and increases concentration.

Mint (Mentha spicata)

Ā Rich in antioxidant vitamins, including vitamin A , beta-carotene, vitamin C, folates , vitamin B-6 , riboflavin and thiamin. Ā Also contains the minerals potassium, calcium, manganese, iron and magnesium. Ā Used forĀ headaches, nervous strain, fatigue and stress, respiratory problems, relieving asthma, bronchitis and catarrh,Ā digestive aid for nausea, flatulence and hiccups.

Nastersuim (Tropaeolum majus)

A natural remedy for helping the body overcome and prevent the common cold and influenza. The main substances found in nasturtium are glucosinolates, mustard oil, flavonoids, carotenoids and vitamin C. Ā Remedy for urinary tract and respiratory tract infections. It is also indicated for external and internal bacterial infections and to treat minor scrapes and cuts.

PlantainĀ (Plantago major)

High in vitamins A, C and K. Ā Also a rich source of calcium andĀ magnesium. Ā Teas made from the plant are used to treat diarrhea, dysentery, intestinal worms, bleeding mucous membranes,Ā sore throats, coughs, bronchitis, tuberculosis and mouth sores.

Rosemary Ā (Rosmarinus officinalis)

Rich in Vitamins , C and B-complex vitamins, such as folic acid, pantothenic acid,Ā pyridoxine andĀ riboflavin. It contains high levels of folates. Ā It will boost memory, improve mood, reduce inflammation, relieve pain, protect the immune system, stimulate circulation, detoxify the body, protect the body from bacterial infections, prevent premature aging, and heal skin conditions.

Sage (Salvia officinalis)

Called the “thinker’s tea” and even helps ease depression. Ā Good source of Vitamin A, C andĀ B-complex vitamins; folic acid, thiamin, pyridoxine and riboflavin andĀ rich in sources of minerals like potassium, zinc, calcium, iron, manganese, copper, and magnesium.

Stevia

Leaves contain iron potassium, zinc, magnesium and vitamin B3. many sterols and antioxidant compounds like triterpenes, flavonoids, and tannins. Some of flavonoid polyphenolic anti-oxidant phytochemicals present in stevia are kaempferol, quercetin, chlorogenic acid, caffeic acid, isoquercitrin, and isosteviolA natural sweetener help control blood sugar, cholesterol, blood pressure.


Traditional uses and properties of herbs are for educational purposes only. Ā This information is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. Ā Every attempt has been made for accuracy, but none is guaranteed. Any serious health concerns or if you are pregnant, you should always check with your health care practitioner before self-administering herbs.

 

 

 

 

 

Public Service Announcement: If someone is suicidal don’t fix, listen!

Some days a FeldenkraisĀ® Session will become a talking session depending upon the need in the moment. Ā Recently a student came in experiencing trouble with their shins, calves, knees and ankles. Ā As these physical areas began to free up, this parent began sharing their concerns for one of their adult children’s depression. Ā The adult child had bouts of serious depression and this time was fearful themselves that they would cause damage to themselves.

Generally I simply listen. Ā This time Ā hearing only strategies to make it better, Ā I thought about this adult child’s needs that were not being considered or even identified and spoke up. Ā I suggested to this parent that perhaps this adult child simply needed to be listened to. Ā No strategies, no fixing, no story telling. Ā I suggested that perhaps they needed someone to Ā be willing to be uncomfortable in their discomfort and be able to sit in this quagmireĀ with them. Ā Someone in this much pain has a need for safety and to be fully accepted as they are in the moment. Ā Someone this agitated needs to find an anchor, someone who will just be there.

I coached them on how to listen with empathy and heard back they got the value in this. Ā They too had a time in their life where they didn’t get their needs met for being seen and heard!

We continued with our movement exploration and found that the areas affected became increasingly more flexible with this deeper understanding and acceptance. Ā This parent needed support too for their needs of safety!

Empathy Mirror

Empathy is an elixir. Ā It has not been abundant in our culture. Empathy calms one and reconnects them to their own value. Ā When someone is not able to value themselves, others can provide them with reassurance that they matter by being mirrors reflecting back acceptance, love and appreciation using basic listening skills!


Renee’s own father committed suicide after a long struggle of not getting his needs to be valued met. Ā A man who was sensitive to the illusive communication that wasn’t being spoken and troubled by the dishonesty in what he was hearing, over time became isolated. Ā During his darkest hour his wife, children and family ignored his pain and suffering. Ā He longed for solitude and by pushing everyone away to gain it, realized his biggest fear – being alone. Ā He turned to Renee who tried to find a hero for him however none came forward, rather they withdrew. Ā Overwhelmed and 1/2 province away he lost his battle.

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
FeldenkraisĀ® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement Ā since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

3 Steps to Become who you secretly want to be

Do you secretly long to be like someone you admire and to shy to admit it, even to yourself? Ā Do you feel shame about your wish? Ā Do you think that you are not worthy enough?big view goals

In a coaching session I encouraged a client to accept that they would like to be like their favorite leader or guru and embrace it. Ā I asked them to envision themselves in a similar leadership position with a question, how did they want others to view them? Ā For example when you think of Ā Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, or Oprah what character images come to your mind? Ā I used an example of how I have come know these personalities through media and how I inwardly identify them through association.

  • The momentum of Ā success can be consciously planned for or unconsciously achieved. Ā There is always a choice to create a vision that includes your values that contribute to Ā humanity or a choice to get what you need at the expense of humanity.
3 Steps to Consciously Accepting Your Personal Dreams & Starting to Create Them

Ā 1. Ā Who you Want to Be Like in This Lifetime

If you stopped to check in and consider who you would like to be like in the future who would it be? Ā For example, a guru, a doctor, a philosopher, a professor….

2. Ā What Characteristics would you like to be identified with?

Take a moment to consider this question. Ā How would you like others to experience you. Ā When you think of your guru, what images come to mind? Ā Now translate this into how you want others to Ā consider you.

3. Ā Walk and Talk It – Make it your story from the inside

Now carry a vision of who you want to be as you walk forward to manifest this vision. Ā Holding it consciously within you will begin to walk and talk it! Ā If you are afraid to accept your dream, you will always be victim to it.

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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
FeldenkraisĀ® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement Ā since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

Earth Day spontaneously spent in unexpected & intimate way!

This year I spent Earth Day in a quieter more profound way that I have in years. Earlier in the year a natural shift to connecting in Earth in a quieter more personal way, from the inside out began naturally. Ā As life with children shifted into adult relationships, nature is beckoning me back in unusual ways which means an unplanned sabbatical from the interactions of a new thought community leader and activist? Ā Or, Ā an evolution out beyond right and wrong thinking into a more direct connection. Ā Maybe?

  • One unusual way is the reincarnation cycle of veggies, Ā which I write about inĀ Shifting food focus – love yourĀ veggies!Ā  Ā Imagine if we all re-harvested our veggies instead of throwing them into the trash how it would affect the planet and our future!

However this article is about coming down with the worst cold/flu over this years Earth Day CelebrationsĀ I have experienced since nursing babies. Ā Not that I was run down physically, I have recently Ā been supporting someone close to me in their emotional pain in a more direct way than usual. Ā This was personal and Ā healing for both my child and myself. Ā  Yet it left me vulnerable to picking upĀ thisĀ nasty bug! Ā Uncomfortable, however lucky too!

With no energy to do anything physically commanding, yet too much energy to lay down and wallow in it, the only option was out to the garden for a silent exploration to see if there was anything that could support healing. Ā Thus making myĀ Earth Day week celebrations solitary, intimate and personally meaningful by dusting off herbal books for identifying healing properties of the wild and domestic plants growing directly in my backyard. Ā With them making teas and remedies to support my healing.

Upon the first flu symptoms I went to a pharma remedy that one of my kids left and found it disturbed my energetic field. Ā There was a numb feeling. Ā  Along came other symptoms of tension, aches and pains and I found myself impatient and disconnected.

Transferring from pharma to nature’s offerings from my backyard there was an immediate difference. Ā I discovered chewing on a fresh Bay Leaf soothed my throat instantly. Ā Making teas and remedies from living foods was calmer to my nervous system with more relief than with pharma products.

All the while a single male Robin has singled out four houses with their tall standing trees as his territory to sing his mating call. Ā He has been a steady and patient boy for over two weeks. Ā On the morning nature called me outdoors to explore its healing plants, this Robin began his song before day break. Ā It is the sound I woke up to and as I lay for a moment listening, I remembered his sound was the last one I heard before going to sleep long after the sun went down.

In previous years planning and organizing materials for community events was my focus of attention. Ā The challenge of these types of events has been interrelationship conflicts of right and wrong thinking, moral judgement’s, comparisons and personal opinions. Ā The biggest challenge I believe our culture has in saving the planet is their own limitations to valuing themselves and others in a way that there is environment sustainability.


Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
FeldenkraisĀ® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement Ā since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

 

‘Finding the skills to stop telling my kid what and how he should be doing his life!’

My son is home for a week to fill up his tank with unconditional love! Ā This morning I wondered if my son and I are old souls withĀ an agreement to continue on through lifetimes in some form of relationship! Ā Is ourĀ agreement to share lessons that turn out to become milestones and Ā powerful experiences? Ā We are both dominant kinesthetic learners which means we are extremely sensitive to each others feelings pre-verbally. Ā This often becomes a trigger and can sabatosh harmony!

I noticed he had a movement pattern that I knew could be supported with a movement lesson. Ā He accepted my offer to work with him and while doing so, I was able to engage his somatic experience to such a degree that he went into a deep rest that appears as sleep. Ā I know this rest is extremely powerful in calming nerves and shifting one out of anxiety. Ā It is a state that gives rest when none is available in one’s regular routine. Ā I have only had one practitioner in my life time who I experienced this with personally and she was unable to let it be a part of our experience together. Ā She would pull me out of this rest due to her own fear and not understanding it.

However, I let my boy stay in this state to enjoy the quality of the rest he was experiencing. Ā I did not want to wake him by leaving the office so I decided to sit and meditate while he rested. Ā Settling in, a recent conversation came to mind on the Hawaiian practice of releasing attachments. Ā It seemed appropriate in this moment to practice my interpretation of theĀ Hooponopono Clearing Mantra.

Sitting in mindfulness with the intention of releasing mental, emotional, physical and lifestyle attachments to this child, I began reciting:

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In reciting this mantra I quickly recognized it was about me releasing my drama around this young man to free him of my responses, reactions and moral judgments. Ā My experience of this practice unexpectedly provided me with freedom! Ā Freedom for acceptance of myself and my actions! Ā In the few days since, I notice I am less attached to what I think he should be doing that is creating more space in my mind. Ā I am acting on my own needs instead of focusing on my opinions about what he is doing! Ā Whew, a relief for us both.

I cannot predict his or our future, however, I can say that I am more grounded and connected with myself and in our relationship as young adult and mom. Ā I like him even more than I did before and am not concerned with what he is not doing or is going to do. Ā During his childhood my focus was on what he was doing and how he was affecting and contributing to the family that allowed me toĀ experience empathy for my own parents and siblings. Ā Once he left home this shifted to what I did and how I contributed to this child’s family experience that allowed me to reflect upon my pain, guilt and joy of my parenting and begin to take accountability and responsibility of my actions. Now reciting the Hooponopono Clearing Mantra focused on my son it has shifted into acceptance.

I have been told that Hawaiian Families come together when a family member is ill to practice thisĀ Hooponopono Clearing Mantra with them. Ā The purpose is to release attachment for a better healing journey.

Reciting this mantra was a heartfelt experience and I believe it has given a greater degree of separation to let us have greater autonomy. Ā If and when he ever discusses his pain around any parenting situation he experienced with me, it is my opinion that I will be able to be more empathetic and less attached to my fear of being judged. Ā I believe I will be more honest and be a better listener! This is the gift I want to give my kid! Ā  Ā No more fixing, strategizing or enabling!


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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
FeldenkraisĀ® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement Ā since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015

Shifting food focus – love your veggies!

In earlier postings I discussed my personal home food Ā landscape change that instigated a natural change in my diet and increased a growing awareness of the emotional eating outbreak in my own family. Ā However another change that began naturally was a deeper interest in connection to the growing cycle of the produce I was consuming! Ā .

It first began with the base stalks of celery! Ā Could I encourage it to re-grow? Ā With curiosity I plunked it in water and sure enough it starting growing. Ā I have it planted in a box now with two more started. Ā Then came carrots. Ā Could they be regrown? Ā Sure enough they too are easy to restart. Ā My next experiment is with sweet potatoes and yams. Ā Can they be as easy to start as regular potatoes and from the ends usually thrown away as scraps?

What I didn’t realize would happen is the growing connection, appreciation, Ā curiosityĀ and recognitionĀ that is developing with food. Ā  Having been on retreats with a focus on connection with all things in the late 80’s and early 90’s one difference is the deepened awareness of respecting the abilities of these vegetables to regrow and continue it’s life cycle. Ā In the retreats this was missing! Ā The veggies where either grown from seed in bulk or purchased.

The recognition is that if everyone slowed down and started the regrowth cycle of their produce, there may be less food shortage and more respect and connection to our food source that goes beyond garden to table!


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Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
FeldenkraisĀ® Practitioner since 2007, Value-Based Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement Ā since 2000, Founder of Greater Victoria Peace & Intercultural Celebrations since 2010 & Greater Victoria Labyrinths since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Calendar Founder – 2014 & 2015