As we discussed ‘Integrity’ our conversation turned to personal meanings of this verb. Before long it became clear the newest definition of “I” was “integrity” and this meant being honest to one’s own values.
It is important to say that we realized a connection to our values was a need for integrity and included a willingness to slow down and identity them. The next step and perhaps the most difficult, was being honest and expressing them! This takes clarity, commitment and courage. The 3 ‘c’s!’
We agreed doing integrity is a noun and our dialogue was encouraging us to consider the differences of doing and being this value-need of integrity. We also agreed that integrity as a noun is a mental concept that could create hypocrisy – “Actions speak louder than words!” Here are some of our final check in talking-points:
1. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
- Commitment to check inside first, even if this means checking out of the conversation temporarily, to define what is alive inside first before responding.
- Clarity through connection to the point or intention of what it is you are trying to convey first before engaging.
- Courage to ‘speak your value-needs.’
2. Be willing to hear the value-need messages of others regardless of friend or foe in the moment!
- Commitment to put object of their conversation through your value-needs translator even if this means checking out of the conversation temporarily to do so.
- Clarity through reflecting back what you are hearing them say.
- Courage to ‘name their value-need message’ regardless of whether you agree or disagree.
In our closing I heard how these value dialogues were expanding our own personal perspective’s and deepening connections within and out.
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Universal Intention – accepting the challenges of today and taking action
A historic event was unfolding over Peace Weekend, Sept 20 & 21 ’14. The Dali Lama gathered the 9 religion’s of India together to discuss secular ethics and the environment of the world!
The Dali Lama declared the this Century the Century of Peace and how to achieve it – a Century of Dialogue!
Renee of Inside was inspired to create this image as she listened to the plenary sessions of this historic gathering. The leaders of the nine religions in India gathering together for a dialogue. What Renee heard from these leaders was in tune with her philosophy and life’s passion. Peace will only come through mindful dialogue. The three things she enjoyed hearing from these sessions was: 1. We are all the same. there is no difference between us. 2. We all need two things, grain and clean water. 3. If the water is polluted??????, If there is no grain??????
Inside perspective of why does a century of peace depend upon a century of dialogue?
Peace comes from learning how to build a friendship based upon trust. Good friends are ones that have experienced you as trustworthy. Bad friends are ones who have learned not to not trust you through experience. What determines trustworthy behavior? Ethical behavior based upon shared values.
Values are universal and shared by all people. We are all the same and we share the same qualities of human function. These qualities are the four aspects of self; mental, emotional, physical and belief. We all have the same needs for relationships, survival and happiness and are entitled to achieve happiness in our life. We are all entitled to relationships built upon respect and equality.
How can we create a culture of ethical behavior? Through education, practice and commitment. It begins with accepting the challenge and taking action. It is only through personal change that one can be the change they want to see in the world.
A great starting point is learning a vocabulary of values. Inside value programs are designed to start where you are and available for personal development, for the office, organization and education institution. They are available for both adults and children.
Renee Lindstrom, GCFP,
Feldenkrais® Practitioner since 2007, Communication & Empathy Coach since 2004, Art of Placement since 2000, Labyrinths of Victoria since 2012, #yyj Peace Week Grassroots Calendar Founder, Vice-Chair of World Children’s Summit on Peace & Nature in 2015
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