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Changing the world through listening and willingness to connect……

True change will happen from the inside when a connection is made to what is meaningful versus from what we think is important. This reflects inner change and change that we want to see in the world of organizations or institutions.

If one wants change in government, one way is to become involved inside the organization.  This may increase the likelihood of being heard and sharing what is meaningful and connecting to the deeper meaning behind others actions. What is meaningful in each of us is not in conflict. It is the solutions we come up with or the actions taken without inclusion that are in conflict.

Imagine being able to connect and hear the meaning in each other ideas before action or solutions. Could this open the door  to actions (or solution) reflecting what is meaningful to many?

Is it time to replace resistance with resiliency?

Renee’s ramblings resulting from a workshop after suggesting that a political leader would be meeting their needs and that they may believe they are making the best choice for all.  My point was that underneath opinions and with true listening change will take place.  No one willingly changes when they hear opinions of what they are doing wrong and how they should do it, especially when they are holding onto their own opinions that they are doing the right thing.  Yet a meaningful expression of what our values are, even with our differences, we connect.


10 Ways to Build Resilience

“Here is a list of 10 ideas that are useful to motivate and support one’s  personal development and enhance their experience that comes from “The Road to Resilience”, American Psychological Association.  As a practitioner sharing conscious learning methods for increasing the articulation of feelings and need language I recognize the value in these ideas for others.  To learn more about how to get support to integrate deeper understanding and to experience the benefits of  either a personal support system or in a group please do not hesitate to investigate this further with me – renee@insideawareness.com. ”  Renee Lindstrom

  1. Make connections. Good relationships with close family members, friends, or others are important. Accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you strengthens resilience. Some people find that being active in civic groups, faith-based organizations, or other local groups provides social support and can help with reclaiming hope. Assisting others in their time of need also can benefit the helper.
  2.  Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems. You can’t change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you interpret and respond to these events. Try looking beyond the present to how future circumstances may be a little better. Note any subtle ways in which you might already feel somewhat better as you deal with difficult situations.
  3.  Accept that change is a part of living. Certain goals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can alter.
  4.  Move toward your goals. Develop some realistic goals. Do something regularly – even if it seems like a small accomplishment – that enables you to move toward your goals. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, “What’s one thing I know I can accomplish today that helps me move in the direction I want to go?”
  5. Take decisive actions. Act on adverse situations as much as you can. Take decisive actions, rather than detaching completely from problems and stresses and wishing they would just go away.
  6.  Look for opportunities for self-discovery. People often learn something about themselves and may find that they have grown in some respect as a result of their struggle with loss. Many people who have experienced tragedies and hardship have reported better relationships, greater sense of strength even while feeling vulnerable, increased sense of self-worth, a more developed spirituality, and heightened appreciation for life.
  7.  Nurture a positive view of yourself. Developing confidence in your ability to solve problems and trusting your instincts helps build resilience.
  8.  Keep things in perspective. Even when facing very painful events, try to consider the stressful situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion.
  9.  Maintain a hopeful outlook. An optimistic outlook enables you to expect that good things will happen in your life. Try visualizing what you want, rather than worrying about what you fear.
  10.  Take care of yourself. Pay attention to your own needs and feelings. Engage in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing. Exercise regularly. Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body primed to deal with situations that require resilience.

Additional ways of strengthening resilience may be helpful. For example, some people write about their deepest thoughts and feelings related to trauma or other stressful events in their life. Meditation and spiritual practices help some people build connections and restore hope.

The key is to identify ways that are likely to work well for you as part of your own personal strategy for fostering resilience.