Being the one who is broken up with can be the most challenging and chaotic as the minds condition has no choice but to go into what it has been trained to do. Such as:
- Blaming & Shaming
- Right & Wrong Thinking
- Make moral judgments
- and more…..
I have been there myself. I have experienced the open darkness of pain where it feels like there is a tear in the fabric of my reality. When I sought out support and empathy whether it was professional or in my personal friend group I wasn’t thrown the kind of lifeline for my grief and regret that steered me through the depth of emotions. Rather it added to the chaotic thinking emotions and increased the effort to sort out. Recently in the midst of supporting someone else’s break up I had a moment where I considered how much I would have benefited to have someone support me with this type of feedback, while recognizing this will have to be repeated until the chaos of the mind training settles and one can enter more permanently into the experience of sadness and forgiveness that is the letting go process.
When I listen to you I am taken into your story of regret and grief. I hear that you are replaying events in your mind thru the lens of pain you’re feeling now stimulated by this break up. Replaying events is part of the grieving process, however I encourage you to be aware that the need in the moment you made those choices then is far different than the one now. The present need is based on this current event and it cannot go back and preside over past events.
The current event is stimulating your pain body and your memories are surfacing. Putting attachment to them by going into assessing and criticizing yourself is feeding the pain your feeling. These thoughts are false realities. The truth is that in this moment you’re a feeling deep sorrow and pain as you experience this loss.
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For me it is an experience of one merging their pain with an others.
I was told that those who were not sobbing didn’t have a similar pain as the person who was receiving empathy. Those who were had that same abuse in their lifetime that stimulated old pain. Fortunately this intensive was to transition from moral judgments and right and wrong thinking. This explanation was shared with clarity and as a matter of fact. What I learned was that those identifying with the pain had an opportunity to heal themselves in witnessing the resolution in the person who was receiving empathy from Dr. Rosenberg. The key was to feel their pain rise up and let their thoughts rest. The skill was to resist going into their own story that would hijack the circumstances away from the speaker. I call this the ultimate witnessing ability. (This is when you can stop yourself from hijacking someones story away from them and making it about you.)
Currently the moon is in it’s waning cycle. A great time for finishing up projects and clearing clutter. Not a great time for new projects. It will be diminishing until the next new moon.

















