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NVC Perspective of “Beyond Right and Wrongdoing”

At our second evening of sharing Victoria’s April Awareness campaign for NVC as an experience for shifting a planet into peace, we had the pleasure of having local Victorian Laurel Collins as guest presenter.  Laurel chose the topic, “Beyond right and wrongdoing, ” as the focus of her presentation.

Laurel shared her unique experience and passion behind her own connection to Nonviolent Communication and why she was choosing to commit another 4 to 5 years of study to write her thesis with a focus on this dialogue process and consciousness.

She successfully expanded and deepened our understanding of  the process that Judi Morin began last week introducing to us in  this style of communicating.    The take away from last week was the stories we tell ourselves in our thinking process that keeps us from connecting to each other.  Each person has their own unique perspective and Judi was able to demonstrate this through an exercise.  Her role play was to demonstrate  how these internal arguments play in our head and keep us from knowing what is truly going on for us and  expressing in a way to be heard.

Laurel expanded our awareness of the four basic steps in an NVC dialogue.  Observation, Feelings, Needs and Requests sometimes called OFNR.  She connected us to the stimulation we and others may feel upon our choices of words in the sentences we articulate as NVC practitioners.  Sentences such as, “I am feeling ……,”  “I am needing…..,” and “Would you be willing…..”  She gave us ideas of  how to structure sentences differently to give us more choice in our NVC conversations.  Experiencing NVC  feeling and needs literacy Laurel  connected and shone the light on the developing consciousness that grows naturally and organically when you practice nonviolent communication.  She cautioned us that as beginners in the initial stages of learning the four steps and practicing them  as a  practitioner we may develop our own right ways of doing Nonviolent Communication.   She explained how this may be an alienating experience for many and that being right in how to do NVC practice may become the focus rather than connecting.  Basically taking right and wrong thinking  into our NVC practice.

We enjoyed breakout exercises that gave us an experience of sharing times when we said something that we would have liked to have said differently.  The intention was to share what needs might have stimulated what we have said.  In my breakout group no one had any burning desire to share an issue.  Therefore playing with what they did say to identify their feelings and discover the .  underlying needs there was visual discomfort at being the center of attention and in this process of sharing.  One person did share a very hot issue for them that demonstrated the delicate layering of issues in conflict that creates a blow up.  It was a powerful moment of connection after separating out the issues and bringing  the connection within to a personal inner experience.

Coming away from our evening I am reminded that this is a practice and a choice to commit to.  One that we will be exploring for our lifetimes to become more conscious in our relationships and grow more quality into them.

Laurel demonstrated that in choosing to speak with a sentence structure of NVC principals we naturally begin to create an experience in our world that has abundance, joy, support and connection .  In changing our language we support shifting our view from struggle and pain into possibilities and potential therefore a shift in our own experiences.

Everyone enjoyed this nights presentation and Laurel’s articulate style and connection in sharing the illusive qualities of Nonviolent Communication.

Next week on Wednesday, April 18th, I will be presenting and the topic will be on “Activism for Social Change” and on Wednesday, April 28th, Michele Favarger will be presenting the topic of  “Resolving Conflict.”

Please join us at 7 p.m. – the Church of Truth, 111 Superior Street

Mindful Awareness in Relationships


7:00 P.M. – 10:00 P.M.

Developing mindful awareness in our connections with others begins with understanding and clarity of our own actions and reactions while becoming aware of what is going on for the other person. What is the action that they are reacting to causing them to disconnect from being present and open with you and why are they reacting? If you wonder why this would be of benefit to you, pause a moment and consider if you are feeling fulfilled and satisfied with your connections. Are you giving and receiving in a way that you and the other person is experiencing a sense of empowerment? Begin to explore what it means to shift beyond exclusion in your conversations into the experience of inclusion.

This series of 4 evenings will focus partially upon fundamental basic skills of some conversational steps to reach connection with yourself and another. It will include deepening listening skills, and introducing techniques for introducing you to experiences of being in the present moment. The purpose of this is to increase your conscious memory and capacity to build upon this experience by beginning to notice your unconscious habits that are possible cause for a disconnect in your relationships.I resonate with something I believe I heard Michael Bernard Beckwith share recently through my own personal experience. It goes; Living in the past creates experiences of shame, quilt, vanity and embarrassment. The future creates experiences of fear and ambition. The present is where miracles can happen!Explore this moment of presence that is a potential in the model Marshall Rosenberg has stimulated through his evolution of Nonviolent Communication.
Registration information and RSVP with Renee @ 250-361-7508 or renee@insideawareness.com

Registration by November 1st – $52.00 for 4 nights, or $60.00 after November 1st.

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